Hi Roz:
Welcome and thanks for sharing . . .
I tried to post earlier today and had many problems getting on the website:
So here goes . . .
Good Morning Everyone! Saturday, Labor Day Weekend!
O.k. it was all my little mind could do to keep the names of the posters straight in my mind on spinehealth, let alone over here! I ran into trouble using my original code name: "Carol Lumbar" as I thought it would be important to keep the same identity here, but ehealth's rules are: you don't use real names. I chuckled to myself, as my code name was created as a pun about the 30's screen siren and wife of Clark Gable . . . "Carol Lombard!" I myself, thought it was quite funny, but of course I was drinking medicinal merlot at the time! I thought everyone would "get it" since my perception was that back problems are generally the domain and part of the "circle of life" of getting old! (How wrong was I?)
But anyway . . . I think I need a legend for who's the NEW who? I LOL when Dragonfly finally flew over to ehealth I like your new color! . . . I do believe most of the original gang is here . . . thanks again Rich T for creating a safe haven . . . I feel the same "good vibes" that were on the original thread followed us here!
With that said, welcome everyone, and pls. excuse this old mind, if I have confused names . . .
Rich T's request for further explanation of how I was feeling when I first started posting was written in response to my personal journey, reflection, denial and confusion of the deterioration that was going on in my back. I've always thought I'd been one of those, eat (kind of) right, exercise (3 mile a day jogger), hard working, regular people who took measures to live a long, healthy life. After going to three doctor's who all said something different, I was resentful, that there shouldn't be more available to me than the response, back pain = fusion! I didn't feel enough less invasive measures were available to me other than masking the pain with shots, which I'm also not fond of, since "pain" is a body's way of indicating that something is wrong!" I don't need a panacea, I need a successful solution, and my stubborn German mind, cannot wrap around anything less! But fortunately or unfortunately from the sounds of many . . . I'm not alone! This is MY back and by golly, if they can put a man on the moon 30 yrs. ago, why is this sooooo hard!?? After all, they are doctors, right? Sound familiar DMB?
Now, while Iam stubborn, I'm also thoroughly grateful and thankful that this is ALL that's wrong with me (so far). And after educating myself on the back pain forums, I know that things could always be much worse, as they are for many, which then made me feel GUILTY. The research scared me enough to know that I need to be thorough, as I'm the only one who has my best interests at heart. Exploring less restrictive options, makes sense to me. But, I do think that this is a slippery slope and eventually . . . I will have expired my options as they seem limited or so I thought till I began inquiring about laser or less invasive methods/procedures. . . Maybe one day I too, will be facing fusion, but hopefully after other measures have been realized. And it may come to pass that I kerplunk a hefty sum down, because of BCBS restrictions, which are a whole different thread!
We are all . . . at different "milemarkers" in this journey. I'm inspired and in awe of those that have traveled further than I. I'm learning what to do, how to handle the emotional strain and how to factor in your experiences in my decisions. What is right for one person, may not be right for another. And, we as humans, are often plagued, with the "would have, could have, should have" issues. Who is to say what's right? That is why I love learning from the "collective experience" that is genuinely shared here!
So, is it Don that is facing fusion surgery??? I believe you have done your homework . . . expired less invasive options, researched other procedures, gotten 2nd and 3rd opinions and now have to be thankful that fusion is in fact STILL a viable option. That in itself, may be worth celebrating! What's the alternative? Yes, it is heartbreaking that you are faced with this, but then again . . . there are many fusions that go very well.
I have read of these experiences on the other forum. I remember reading someone's post, that you will know if fusion is right for you, because you just can't live with the pain, or the quality to which your life has been reduced. If fusion gives you an opportunity of a better quality of life, than by all means believe it, embrace it and get your mind geared toward it and be the best "fusion patient" ever!! One's mind, and positive attitude etc., can help or hinder the intended outcome! Is it going to be an easy road? Probably not, but I'm betting that you have risen above adversity and perhaps much worse in an earlier part of your life . . . And it seems like you have a wonderful surgeon on which you can rely!
I sincerely wish you the best! Sometimes, we have choices to make and other times, choices are made for us! I believe God gives us signals.
On a lighter note, it reminds me of a joke (I don't tell good jokes, and it's harder to write them out) but this is about a guy who was stuck on a roof during a flood.
A man in a boat comes by offering the man a life jacket. The man on the roof declines, saying, God will save me! He will anwer my prayers.
A second boat comes by to offer the man a ride, and he responds the same, "God will save me, He will answer my prayers. . .
A helicopter comes along, and the man refuses assistance, saying again, God will save me. He will answer my prayers."
Unfortunately, the man died in the flood. When he arrived at the pearly gates, he questioned God, as to why he had abandoned him, and not listened or answered his prayers saying, "I prayed and prayed but you didn't answer my prayers".
To which God, replied, "son, I DID hear your prayers. Who do you think sent you the life jacket, boat and helicopter?"
We will all figure out what's best for our unique situations and I believe we will all come out on top! I've got some studying to do, finally a quiet house . . . sorry this was sooo long . . . have a great holiday weekend everyone!
C