Safer Way to Get Relief From Stress Posted: 08-09-07 04:55am
I have dropped my career as a graphic
designer after my husband has been
transferred to Boston who is a corporate
executive. The situation changed when John
lost his job in a corporate
reorganization. My children are in high
school now and they can take care of
themselves. I would really love to start
my job again and I think it would be
financially sensible. My husband does not
agree with me and this is causing stress
in my family life. He has starting taking
a few medicines without a physician’s
consultation. Can anyone suggest a better
and safe way? All tips and suggestions are
welcome.
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Truth_serum
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Joined: 07 Mar 2008 Posts: 23 Location: Oxon Hill , MD
Posted: 03-21-08 12:28pm
He definitely needs to see someone about
the bottled up issues. He as a man thinks
that he has to provide for his family,
that is why he doesn't want you to work.
If you work in some way you are hurting
his ego and self- pride. He self medicates
and that can become an issue, suggest
going to a psychologist, maybe a minster @
your local church, seek some type of
professional guidance before his self
medicating becomes a more serious issue.
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CarolDiane
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Geez Posted: 03-22-08 07:08am
I would deffinatly start looking for you
career job now. If hubby has gone to
street drugs, this is not a start to a
good ending. You need to be ready to
support yourself if needed. Marriage is a
partnerships and not an ownership.
Remember that. I say get out there and
start looking for future sake. He is
starting down a bad road which could lead
to a doom and gloom future and you need to
be ready for that girl.
Once you fine a job and show him that you
are an individual that can think for
herself, he may have a change of heart.
Stand up for yourself. We are equal now!
Carrie
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mominashoe
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Joined: 04 Dec 2007 Posts: 1841 Location: , KS USA
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Posted: 03-22-08 07:32am
Go for it girl!
Your husband not wanting you to have your
career when you have no other duties in
the home (your children don't need you
24/7) is unreasonable. I don't understand
this thing of husbands thinking that they
can control their wives lives like this.
I just answered another post about a
deployed soldier who doesn't let his wife
have a job or friends, and she has nothing
to do all day!
Your husband's taking of unauthorized
medications proves and contributes to his
unbalanced state of mind and you should
really get him some sort of help before
his problems snowball into a point of no
return.
