He definitely needs to see someone about the bottled up issues. He as a man thinks that he has to provide for his family, that is why he doesn't want you to work. If you work in some way you are hurting his ego and self- pride. He self medicates and that can become an issue, suggest going to a psychologist, maybe a minster @ your local church, seek some type of professional guidance before his self medicating becomes a more serious issue.

I would deffinatly start looking for you career job now. If hubby has gone to street drugs, this is not a start to a good ending. You need to be ready to support yourself if needed. Marriage is a partnerships and not an ownership. Remember that. I say get out there and start looking for future sake. He is starting down a bad road which could lead to a doom and gloom future and you need to be ready for that girl.
Once you fine a job and show him that you are an individual that can think for herself, he may have a change of heart. Stand up for yourself. We are equal now!

Carrie

Go for it girl!

Your husband not wanting you to have your career when you have no other duties in the home (your children don't need you 24/7) is unreasonable. I don't understand this thing of husbands thinking that they can control their wives lives like this. I just answered another post about a deployed soldier who doesn't let his wife have a job or friends, and she has nothing to do all day!

Your husband's taking of unauthorized medications proves and contributes to his unbalanced state of mind and you should really get him some sort of help before his problems snowball into a point of no return.