make him go on one of those diets that make you horny, they actually work! i have the same problem, why do guys have to wear out so quickly?! and my mans exuse is that it dangerous for them to ejaculate more than once in an hour.

Hehe, it's not our fault. It's called the refractory period and is completely chemical and biological, not our conscious choice. After ejaculation and orgasm we lose all arousal, "horniness", and erection and until that period ends we're really not going to be able to, nor are we even interested in having sex again.

That said...

If he's too tired, then do positions where you are the one responsible for movement. But I'm guessing you mean, he's tired as in sleep, not tired as in can't move anymore. Either way, if you're the active one, he might have fewer objections to having sex more often and longer.

Also, if you're desire is to ejaculate from actual penetrative intercourse, perhaps you could get yourself closer to the point with foreplay, playing with yourself, etc. beforehand. Then you can get off before he tires out.

As for decreasing the refractory period, there might be some things that can help. Every man is different, so it depends. Some guys are good in a few minutes, others take a considerably long time.

I find that although I'm no longer horny, I can be quickly turned back on with continual playing. That doesn't mean stimulating my penis. In fact that wouldn't work at all, because it's sleeping and doesn't care who is knocking or how good they are at knocking. However, during my refractory period I continue to please my partner in other ways. Usually with my fingers which quickly gets her moaning and squirming.

And it is that which ends my refractory period. I'm not thinking about sex. I'm not thinking about getting another erection. I'm not getting physically stimulated by her or myself. I'm not thinking about having another orgasm for myself. I'm just working on her. But once she displays her extreme pleasure through moans, squirms, pulling me closer and kissing me, breathing hard into my mouth, etc. I am instantly ready to go again, because it turns me back on.

But that's just me. Her moans turns me on more than her touching me. It might be different for your guy. You might have to touch him to get him ready again. Or maybe if he's too tired to touch you, you touching yourself while he watches and listens will be enough to turn him on. Look into his eyes. Look at his penis hungrily. Talk dirty. Whatever you have to do to turn him back on.

I'm sorry, we just turn on and turn off faster. So you might have to put in a little more effort. Hopefully if you do, sex for both of you will be that much more enjoyable and then you can work on being equal givers and receivers more easily. Finding what works for him and doing it may seem like you're giving more at first, but it comes back around to you.

Or like the other poster said, try a "horny diet." Not sure what that is, so ask her. But perhaps some of those herbal viagras might work too. There purpose is generally to create harder and easier erections, but I think they might also increase libido.

Sex is fun, but is not always gonna be the best. 6 hour sex nights are great, but can't be done every time. So experiment, have fun, and try new things in all different categories.

Do you have any difficulty achieving orgasm?

For almost 5 years, my dh only could long fewer than 10 thrusts, for the next 5-10 years, he could only last less than 30 seconds. So yes, I wish I could have second too. But he completely lost interest after the first round. I was too shy or too disappointed to ask anyway. It might be sounded negative, but after the first kid was born, I could careless about his performance. I would be happy as long as he left me alone. So your desire will change, hang in there.

Well the funny thing is that we have already had our first child with our second on the way. Maybe thats the reason i feel like i need it more often.

It is great to have a young hard body giving you hard sex. I always wanted to go on longer than my boyfriend and even after he climaxed, I would try giving him oral sex. It just wouldn't get him ready for the second set.

Try sex in different places of your house. Over the back of the leather sofa is great and really penetrates the woman. First time we did that, he said he couldn't even move afterwards he was shaking so much. It is powerful. The leather chair works great too. Or, try all the different bedrooms in your house. Maybe a chance of scienery is what you both need.

I especially enjoyed the comments from the guy who wrote in. Sounds like he definitely knows what is happening.

I have to chime in as well because he's right, there are clear changes that happen to our bodies right after orgasm. And it can be somewhat dangerous depending on your age to do it again without giving at least an hour of rest because the tissue of the penis is so sensitive and it's basically like it's holding it's breathe the entire time, so this can effect the tissue if you keep doing it over and over.

I didn't read the rest of your post but I certainly hope your not referring to all men. My boyfirned and I can have sex 5 times in a night. after he ejaculates at least 10-15 minutes later he's ready again. there also have been a few times where we had sex, he stayed in me after he was done, he got hard again within 10 minutes and we had sex again.

Hahahaha, we're not suggested it's not possible, it just won't be very common or if it does occur it probably won't last past his mid twenties. When I was younger my wife and I would do it quite a bit. I think one day we did it around four times and that was our record, one time doing it two times in a row right after each other in a few minutes. If he's young, it's not too surprising, but if he's like 30 then he must have some pretty strong hormone levels! It's good though, it does sound like he's quite into you so be thankful! Many women come on here with men who have tons of problems with this and it can be quite taxing on a relationship.

i was thnking the same thing Mel
my boyfriend doesn't even get soft after we have sex
it takes him like 2 or 3 min after he comes out of me to get soft
we can keep going without him getting soft..
and he does ejaculate cuz i can feel it..

so i don't think that all men have this problem

The refractory period is a biological fact of life for men. It varies, and tends to be shorter for young men and longer for older men.

It doesn't necessarily mean erection is lost. The refractory period is just the period of time during which it is physically impossible for the man to reach orgasm again after a previous orgasm. Doesn't necessarily mean he can't "keep going".

http://www.coolnurse.com/orgasm_phases.htm

"After orgasm and ejaculation, most males are unable to have another orgasm for a period of time. This refractory period depends on age and other factors; we are all a bit different that way. (Younger men may need only minutes to fully “recover” and get into the arousal or plateau phase again while older men may need an hour or more) and differs widely between men."

thank you for clearing that up Anne
=)
i can always depend on you!!

If you had read the rest you'd have seen that I said all men are different. Some recover quickly, others take longer.

You say your boyfriend takes about 10-15 minutes and he's ready to go again. That's his refractory period.

Men are all different in this respect. I have a few men in my life and there is one that stays hard for a long time before coming. I have been able to orgasm once or twice before he explodes and even then he takes time before his rod finally goes down.

The only times I have seen him come faster and harder and thus deflate sooner is when he does me up the ass.

Wendy