I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years, he just recently moved to my state to be with me so that we could work on getting married. But in the past things have happened to really make me wonder what is going on, with never getting any answers. To start off I knew about 6 months ago he started taking Xanax but told me it was because of stress. I believed him, and then he was put on depokote for head aches. He started his new job here everything was fine, we were planning on moving in together on Aug 1. Everything was set up at least that is what he told me. This time just as past times everytime we plan something really big, something always seems to happen to stop the event. Always it seems just 2 days prior to the event he says something has happened. I am really surprised that he made the move here, but it was cancelled a time or two, before he did it. Now, a week ago Monday he called and told me to stop packing he doesn't have a job, he said that he got laid off. Even though I had a back up plan he made sure to mess that up competely as well. I am furious with him, because he says that he has been bipolar most of his life and I am just finding out and all this other. Does lying come hand in hand with being bipolar or is this something competely different that I am dealing with. I can understand trying to deal with anything associated with his disease but not just a liar. Any suggestions.... any help. Or am I fighting a losing battle.
hes tryin to hide his illness,how can u have a relasionship with somone who hides his illness with lies,can u cope with his mood swings,my dad had manic an its impossible i saw it ,unless they accept it and get meds
Sometimes I lie to rationalize my symptoms. I'm not just lying to others I'm lying to myself to say there was a reason or someone to blame for my behavior when I'm manic or psychotic. When I lie though I generally believe what I'm saying..I did this because...when there really is sometimes no rational reason for my behavior...it all has to do with my imbalance...not an excuse but sometimes the disease wins and effects what I do or say.