My boyfriend has issues getting a erection. I have talked to him about it many times and it seems he does het horney but his penis won't cooperate with him. He doesn't even get an hard on in the morning when he wakes up. Last night he was complaining about the pain in his right testes. I know that it is not me because he does get an erection sometimes and we end up having sex. If he wasn't attracted to me anymore he wouldn't be able to do it with me at all. He doesn't even get erection waching porn and he doesn't mastrubate at all. This is not affecting our reliationship because he is very open to talk to me about it and I'm very understanding. I'm just very worried about his health and I can't seem to get him go to the doctor. I was wondering if that could be just a mid-life crisis or something more serious. He is 31 years old. Does anyone know what is going on and how to make him go see a doctor? Thanks
It depends on why he doesn't want to go to the doctor.
If he doesn't want to go because of embarrassment you have to convince that it's not. That doctors have seen everything and are not their to judge.
If he doesn't want to go, because he's afraid of finding something wrong, you have to convince that it's better to know than to not. It could be something that needs to be taken care of and can be taken care of.
He should definitely get checked out. Keep trying to get him to go to the doctors. You say he doesn't want to know, so convince that it's important to know and waiting could make it worse or too late. Find out if he has any other objections as well. Such as, does he not like his doctor. Female doctor? Will be embarrassed going to the doctor anytime after this? And find a solution, such as get a new doctor, go to a specialist, get a doctor of a gender he'd prefer, etc.
There are problems that could be diagnosed, but I'd almost think they're just going to diagnose ED and give him pills. The problem with that is, what is ED? It's not a disease, it's a symptom. So find a doctor that will actually conduct tests. Blood pressure and diabetes can cause ED.
The most important thing is to be healthy. Eating right and exercise can have major affect on all areas of well being, including erections. A naturopath could help you with that.