Joined: 08 Aug 2007 Posts: 51 Location: London, UK
i found out last week that i am pregnant ! Posted: 08-08-07 02:21am
hi everyone! just firstly to introduce
myself, my name is hannah and i am 18.
and here's my problem...
i found out last week that i am pregnant
(unplanned, complete shock as have always
been careful).
i had an abortion when i was 16, and could
NEVER go through that again. it was the
worst time of my life and have never been
able to forget it.
also watched my mum go through a pill
termination in october, and made me
realise how wrong it was.
i'm a very ambitious, and i'dlike to say
well-educated girl, but i now have my
heart set on having this baby which means
not returning to colllege for my last
year.
pretty sure my parents are going to
absolutely hate me for a while, they did
last time and that was when i got rid of
it!!
i really need to tell them asap but I
don't want to do it as we are going on
holidayin two weeks and would ruin it for
everyone! (12 of my family going).
however, if i wait til after... would they
maybe work it out for themselves on hol?
as i'm starting to show, i'm eating,
sleeping different and also wouldn't be
able to go on any of the rollercoasters i
love to go on every year!
i'm thinking maybe they might start to
guess.
and they'd be more mad???
what should i do??
any ideas??
wow this is long orry guys!! thanks for
reading if you did! x x x x
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rosejackson
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Joined: 23 Dec 2005 Posts: 4360 Location: hertfordshire, england
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Posted: 08-08-07 03:59am
im sure they wouldnt be mad, just upset
and dissappointed. but if you tell them
outright that you're keeping the baby then
they cant really say anything as its your
decision. if you dont want to tell them
that your pregnant and wait until after
the holidays you could just say your
coming down with something, which would
make sense if you're sleeping more and an
excuse not to go on the rollercoasters
aswell, i doubt they'd notice a little
bump unless you've been really skinny
throughout your life
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 08-08-07 11:03am
i think you should tell them asap, if you
end up waiting until you are on vacation
you might end up going on the rides just
so that they wont guess, you might as well
tell them now, so they dont pressure you
to get on and then find out while on
vacation. think about it this way, would
you rather them find out now and start
getting used to the idea, or find out
while you're on vacation and have it be
miserable for the rest of the time?
good luck girl!
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Ingi
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Joined: 09 Mar 2006 Posts: 8922 Location: Grinning like a Cheshire Cat,
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Posted: 08-08-07 11:57am
Wow! How far along are you that you are
starting to show?
You should tell them as soon as possible -
especially if they are your support
system. You'll need all the support you
can get now.
Have fun on holiday!
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natalie_d
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jun 2007 Posts: 47 Location: ,
Posted: 08-08-07 13:10pm
Hi Hannah I'm Natalie, 19, 11 weeks 6 days
pregnant.
Congrats on your pregnancy, things must be
scary for you right now!
I can see where you are coming from not
wanting to tell your family at the moment,
I think things may be difficult for you
though especially with going on holiday an
acting differently, like not having
alcohol where you might have before...
Also for me I think it would have been
harder to tell my parents the longer I
left it. I told them the day after I found
out.
Your parents reaction might be very
different from what you expect, at 18 you
are a lot older and maybe more able to
cope with this than last time. (I had a
miscarriage at 16 and my parents were very
upset about the pregnancy that time - this
time they are over the moon)
How far along are you right now?
I think I'm rambling a bit now so I'm
gonna head.
Good luck.
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hm300689
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Aug 2007 Posts: 51 Location: London, UK
Posted: 08-09-07 11:21am
thanks everyone for your advice.
i don't know how far gone i am.
i think about 11 weeks but not 100% sure.
need a dating scan asap so going to the
clinic now to find out how to get one. xx
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HEATH3R
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2007 Posts: 22
Posted: 08-11-07 11:29am
im assuming you found out through a
pregnancy test. you need to go to the
doctor and you need to go on prenatal
vitamins as soon as possible. they seel
them at most drug stores, and in walmart
and target. the baby needs them, you need
to not wait on getting the best prenatal
care for your child. your parents are
going to have to get over the fact that
youre pregnant because its not them, its
you. you need to tell them as soon as
possible, you wont ruin anything for them,
nor is it your concern. hte longer you
wait, the longer your baby goes without
seeing a doctor, and the more frustrated
your parents will get that you kept it
from them so long. i didnt plan on telling
my parents until a couple of week after i
found out, but ended up telling them the
day after i found out, and i dont regret
my decision one bit. while it was hard,
they reacted a lot better than i had
anticipated, i got to see the doctor
earlier, and all the stresses of keepiong
it from them was gone.
