Bipolar Is Tearing Our Family Apart Posted: 08-07-07 09:43am
I need some advice. I am hoping that some
of you others out there will be able to
help. I have begun to lose hope.
To make a long story short; My wife has
bipolar disorder and it has come to the
point that in her lows she no longer wants
to be with me and in her highs she is very
much in love. Normally this wouldn't be a
huge issue and we could get help from our
doctor, however during one of her huge
lows she moved her and my 2 year old son
into her mother's. Her mother has her own
very unstable psychological problems and
with them mixed I can't get my wife help.
Even during my wife's highs she is
reluctant to go. Twice I have made
appointments after convincing her only to
have them cancled because either her
mother prevented her or because she was
experiencing her low and didn't want to
come outside. I refuse to give up but this
seems impossible. Does anyone have any
suggestions?
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Beth1115
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Aug 2007 Posts: 5 Location: baltimore Md
Posted: 08-12-07 01:35am
Dear Kurutian,
I am a 25 yr old female with bipolar
disorder. I am not married but I can tell
you that my bipolar has torn my
relationships apart in the past. My
suggestions are that when she is low,
don't try to talk to her. just be there to
listen when she is low. don't try to "fix"
the low because it's NOT you and theres
nothing you can do. so just listen. When
she is High you have a better chance of
getting her to hear you. unfortunately now
you have her mother playing into the mix
of things now too. Please know that you
haven't done anything. This disorder is
extremely difficult to live with. proper
medication and close contact with doctors
is the best way to fight it. does your
wife take meds? do they possibly need to
be changed or altered? She has to manage
this disorder and stay on top of it. I am
sorry that you going through this. It must
be very hard. I am here to help if you
have some specific questions.
Beth1115
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j_j89
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2007 Posts: 19
Posted: 08-13-07 18:17pm
Thats quite a difficult situation for
sure. I agree with the last post, a
"normal-like" mood or a up mood would be
better to talk to her in. But her mother
may be trying to keep her down with her.
She must make decisions that are best for
the child. In the meanwhile i would
continue to care and love yourself, seek
professional advice, and take care of your
kid. Meds seem to be the only way these
days. Good luck.
