First of all, most women can't orgasm from 'normal sex' so that is probably why she prefers mutual masturbation, she probably can't orgasm unless her clit is stimulated. If it bothers you, you might be able to find new creative ways to have sex while stimulating her clit, and that might be enough to satisfy her. Since you can watch her masturbate, you should know exactly how she likes it, and it should be easy to replicate yourself.

Do you guys watch porn together? I would not assume that her interest in the female body has anything to do with her being a lesbian, because she's with you. Has she been with females in the past? She is obviously into you because she's having sex with you. She may be attracted to females, or she may just enjoy looking at porn. And frankly, there isn't much good porn with men in it- it's almost all centered around the women because men mostly buy porn. But if she does find women sexy, so what?

I think women can be very sexy. I am 100% straight. It sounds like your relationship is great and there is nothing to be worried about.

Anyway, why don't you just ask her?

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. We have a son together. I could not be more in love with my boyfriend. But you know what? I really really enjoy lesbian porn. & You know what? I look at girls on the street.

Am I a lesbian?
No.

Would I ever leave my boyfriend for a woman?
No.

Would I ever cheat on my boyfriend with a woman?
No.

The female body is a lot sexier than the male body.
It's just more fun to look at.

But, if you're really worried, you need to talk to her.

I have a friend who says that penises were god's joke.

We're both perfectly straight. I love a man's shoulders, chest, etc. But penises are kind've ugly.

you may sense more than we do.. So I would ask her if she ever thought about being with a women..

I agree lesbian or not this woman is with you she does not sneak around to look at the porn she wants to share with you and she preffers sex differently from you at least she wants it so .....you decide enjoy her while it lasts its not like your ,married and need to fix it right? what harm if she enjoys you and something else? wazzywoman

I'm straight, and I like lesbian porn too...

I also cannot orgasm just from sex, I need clitoral stimulation which is easiest achieved through masturbation, or stimulation during sex.

I think you feel there is more going on than should be.. You say sometimes you have sex.. do you have sex more than she jsck's you off? Sorry don't mean to be so blunt.. I thing it is normal for women to look at other women. I think we look as much as men do.. BUt if he sex it leading toward not wanting it, you might have something you feel isn't right. I think you know that more than we would.. So how aften does she want sex?

At first, thank you all for your replies.
Actually i have no problem with her looking at other women. But the thing that is really strange to me is that when i intend to have sex with her, she alwyas wants to handle my penis and keeps rubbing and squeezing untill my penis starts dripping premature sperms out. ofcourse at this point i am not able to do normal intercourse becouse i am very near from my orgasm. she used to keep doing this to me and get more and more of my pre-cum before she finally let me get my orgasm and shoot my load and become totally exhausted.
she really loves doing this (controlling my orgasm and keeping me on the edge for a while). Sometimes she does not stop even after i have my orgasm and gives me another orgasm. i am not sure if this is healthy for me or not ?
This action affects my performance when we are in normal sex intercourse.
this sounds good for you people but for me, the problem is that she enjoys doing this instead of normal intercourse, and i need a normal sex !!

how can i convence her to have more of normal sex ??

In a nice way, while still complimenting her actions otherwise, tell her you would like more sex.

You can find some kinky cute way to tell her, something out of a cosmo magazine. Hmm... How about "I would really love to feel my (insert favorite word for penis here) inside you...." ok so I'm not good at the dirty talk thing but you get my drift.

She keeps doing what she is doing because she thinks you like it and she likes it. If you simply tell her you'd like something else more, she'll probably start doing that more.

Are you guys adequately protected? Make sure she's not afraid of getting pregnant or std's or anything.

I found teasing my bf's penis via handling and oral to be almost more enjoyable than sex sometimes, especially watching his responses. If he'd have said "Oh god, I need to be inside you!" I would have leaped on him!!! Try it

I told her that i need more sex, but she told me that she loves sex too but handling my penis is more enjoyable to her than having sex !! She really loves to masturbate me and feel my pre-cum in her hand, (she told me that). some times she gives me pills (Viagra) in order to stay erected for a long time then she can do this more and more. This was really exhausting me but i did not want to disappoint her and refuse doing this as long as she feels good. I love her and i can see that she is really sexy and pretty.

it is more interesting and erotic to her than sex, especially that she can have big quantity of my transparent pre-cum before i reach my orgasm.

May be i am the reason of this situation, that if i my pre-cum was too few then may be she whould not be interested in doing this to me that way.
i can call this as milking me !

Regarding the lesbian issue, i asked her if she had sex with other girls before (as you advised me), she told me that YES she had many sex relations with other women before she knew me !

Well, she seems to have a fetish with your penis and masturbation dude; I don't know if there's much you can do about that. This is what turns her on, this is what she loves to do. However, you should of course get to do what you enjoy too, so tell her that. Sex should be a thing of equality. Even with dominance/submissive play, there is equality and the submissive is actually the one in charge.

ive had women and men and im married now but we watch lesbian porn together it turns me on and it is more natural porn with out the degrating things in it id say just talk to her about everthing all out in the open maybe she just thinks she fulfilling your needs.

Eiri, i think you got what i mean, she does what she wants not what i want and cares about her exciting not mine. she is using my penis to excite her regardless of what i need.
i want to fix this situation or should we break ?
last time i told her about having sex together, she asked for the first time is i mind to let one of her girlfriends join us in sex !! (she has many girlfriends and none of them has a boyfriend). i got shocked and could not reply to her question.
What do you think i should say, YES or NO ? Would this be useful for our relation or not ? Please girls advise me as you know how girls think more than me.

It's fine if she wants to play with you instead of having sex. However, it's important that you're being satisfied too. If you two want different things in bed, that's fine, but you should at least compromise. If she is not willing to compromise, you'll have to decide if this relationship is right for you.

As far as involving another girl, it's something you can do if you are comfortable with it. We can't tell you what to do here. Some people would be comfortable with that, others would not be. If you're at all unsure, then don't do it.

That's not actually what I meant at all...

Yes, she does definitely enjoy using your penis, and it does excite her, but she think it excites you, too!! She doesn't know you hate it so much!



Talk to her again; you cannot be frightened of your girlfriend. Tell her you want sex with her, alone, and in the vagina like most other people! It's not too much to ask. If she is very against the idea, and doesn't want to compromise so that you can get the enjoyment you want too, then I do think that perhaps the relationship isn't right for you.



I personally would say no. When I am dating someone, I am dating them alone, not them and their friends. The bedroom is a place for two people only in my book.



I would never do something I didn't feel comfortable with just to save a relationship. If you don't want to do it, then don't do it!

You're probably going to get some mean comments from some guys on here, saying "Oh man dude you should totally do a threesome with two chicks, I could never get my girl to do that, you lucky thing are throwing it away!"

But it's about what YOU are comfortable with, and it sounds to me like you want love from your girlfriend, not some freaky sex party. So talk to her, be honest and lay down your rules. It sounds like the two of you have very different views on ideal sex, and that may mean you're not meant for each other. Good luck

Finally we found a solution to this situation, we will have normal sex (great thing for me !!) but when i am closer to ejaculate, i will tell her and let her masturbate me to ejaculate in her hand as she likes. I think this is a good solution for both of us. and forget about having treesome with her girlfriend.

BTW, i allowed her to have sex with her girlfriend in case i am outside the town or not available. It does not matter to me as she used to do this long time ago, beside girls doesn't hurt girls.

What is your openion ??

Girls, i just want to know one thing, is it a normal thing for a girl to be in need to masterbate a man ? does this really excite girls or is it just a strange case here with me girlfriend ?

do girls enjoy controlling man orgasm ?

I'm glad the two of you came to a resolution that works for moth of you!!! Excellent!!

And HELL yes!! Women absolutely LOVE controlling a man's orgasm, I personally find it very erotic and empowering. That's why I love giving oral, because it puts me completely in control.