Someone might respond with a better answer but until then from what I know this is what I can tell you...

The term popping a cherry or whatever means breaking the hymen which is a thin piece of skin around the vaginal hole...I think. I know it's not in you, it's like, farther towards the outside. Anyways, if you didn't bleed after the first time you had sex, then it might have broken earlier if you were doing something like stretching, horeback riding, exercising, etc. It hurts you cause when he goes in farther he hits your cervix (is that how its spelled?) its the thing in the back of your vagina...Everyone is different, he's either big, or you're small, or it's both.

I hope that can help...Someone correct me if i'm wrong.

Needsomehelp... Sound right to me.
The only other thing I have to add is it will get less painful in time. (probably) now some women never can take a large penis, but then for others, your body just has to get used to it. Just take it slow and relax and it should get less painful eventually.

Also that you're fully aroused. Women too experience changes during arousal (though most people dont' teach about that, nor do many act as if it's neccesary). Just like a guy has to get hard, a gal has to get a. Wet and b. Her vagina lengthens and stretches out to a degree, making it "more accommodating" for a penis. Make sure you do plenty of foreplay (and being lubricated - whether naturally or with actual lube- certainly) to get you to the heightened aroused state. Also, like hotsafrick said, penetrative sex can take some getting used to, honestly - doesn't matter if he's big or small (though if he's bigger it can take a whole lot more getting used to than a smaller man obviously).

Just curzing the site and found this now I kno w your conflict and you need to draw strong bounderies and protect yourself because boys usually dont, sorry guys. You need help, and I sounds like you need major professional advice, your much younger than I thought, im in college- get to a goof Dr. Now.

Im probably goin to get flack over this but here goes...
The cherry you refer to was placed their by our lord, a sort of gate at the entrance to the vagina. I was to serve proof of your virginity to your husband thats iben told last year. People make stuped uninformed jokes but it is still valued, last year my cusin broke her accidently and the dr gave her parents a letter sayin how it happened so they could hive it to her future husband.


Ask for forgiveness, get on with life, try to forget by doing what is good in the eyes of our savior. Stay in touch been done that dont want the tee shirt!

The hymen is not there for virginal verification. The hymen is a part of the body that, once menstruation occurs, is no longer needed. The hymen serves to keep the vagina, and further inside, free from materials that don't belong up inside (dirt, or other "intruders"). Once a girl begins to menstruate, her body naturally flushes impurties/dirt etc out and the hymen need no longer be there, it may end up staying or depending on a variety of factors. Most girl's/women's hymens are ruptured before they engage in sexual intercourse.

Contrary to many popular myths and ideologies, the hymen is not a "protector" of virginity, but rather a protector of the vagina until puberty kicks in. I would imagine that the higher/greater power/deity, nota, what-have-you would have given men something similar to denote virginity had it decided sexual "purity" was all that important. To infer that is it only to show proof of virginity is a very fast way to denigrate many women, all the while lauding men for sexuality. Not very empowering, whatsoever for either sex.

Yeah, whatever. There is no need for a woman to "prove virginity to her man" what we are just suppose to take their word for it? Women are not put here to be a man's property.

Also, a doctor would not have given your friend a not saying what happened, because there is no way he would know. Was he there? No.

And many, many women either do not have a hymen or lose it with their first period, or if very active it just wears away.

Did kc say anything about wanting to be forgiven? No. That didn't even have anything to do with the question.
And even if your friend did lose her hymen because of an accident and she has a "note" to prove it to her future "owner" how in the world would he know that she didn't sleep with several man after this accident?
I am a christian, but I don't think god gave us a hymen to prove anything.

Any man who demands physical evidence of a woman's virginity is being chauvanistic, and follows archaic thinking. Like others have said, the hymen is no guaranteed token of a woman's virginity, and it's susceptible to breakage not related to any sexual activity.

Loveofgod--i'm also a christian, and I don't agree with how eagerly you judge/condemn others.

I put this in another thread - I thought it deserved to be here too.

Loveofgod -

i am a christian and I must say that although I agree with abstinence, I am ashamed of what you said. I am ashamed that there is someone as coldhearted as you in the family of christ - if it is really christianity to which you belong. We are not here to make people feel bad! You can criticize your friends - you know their situation. But criticizing strangers in the name of god will just push people away. You can see that has happened here.

I truly hope you have learned a lesson.