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(13 Year Old Girl) Am I Still Concidered a Virgin? Posted: 08-07-07 01:52am
When i was about 9 my uncle molested me.
He tried to put his penis into my vagina
but it would barely go in an inch.
ive wanted to ask some one if i am still a
virgin but i dont wanna ask my parents.
So if any one knows if i am still
concidered a virgin plz let me know.
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Kia
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Posted: 08-07-07 06:25am
First off I am so sorry you have had to go
through that experience.
Are your parents aware of what has
happened to you - they should be let know
hun.
This becomes one of those technical
questions.
Technically no matter how shallow you were
penetrated, which you say that you aren't
a virgin.
However, from your description it sounds
like he wasn't able to penetrate you and
the head of his penis was just in the
entrance of your vagina - in which case
you are still a virgin.
Now, technical aside, my opinion on
this...
I say, yes, you are a virgin because you
were unwilling and so young and full
penile penetration did not take place.
Virginity is physical only on a technical
level, so while for some women their
physical virginity may have been taken
from them, they still haven't given their
emotional virginity (ie first "normal"
sexual encounter) - and that's what
counts.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 08-07-07 11:46am
In my opinion, virginity is a totally
moral/emotional state of being.
So to me, you are definitely still a
virgin because you have not chosen to have
sex with another person, and to share that
intimacy with another person.
There is nothing on your body that
determines if you are technically a virgin
or not, so why not just decide yourself?
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young Girl
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Posted: 08-07-07 11:50am
yes i believe you are still a virgin
what he did was horrible and im so sorry
that you had to go through that
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 08-07-07 11:50am
I think this is an issue which should be
brought up in the presence of a qualified
counselor or psychologist. A person such
as this can answer truthfully and honestly
in an unbiased manner free of any
judgement some of the difficult questions
you have no doubt been unable to ask of
other people.
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wazzyandme
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Joined: 06 Aug 2007 Posts: 18 Location: texas
Marissa You Decide Posted: 08-07-07 13:43pm
I say you are still a virgin if it matters
to you ...what you lost was your innocence
that is the worst of that experience so
far ... just the fact he tried was wrong
..you have done nothing wrong and you did
not do anything to cause it ....he got
selfish stupid and cruel and you were
handy . your parents need to know if not
them choose an adult that you trust . do
tell someone sometime . sweetie bad things
happen to the best people . your are as
virgin as you choose to be . be safe be
happy ...wazzywoman
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fallwithme
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Joined: 09 Aug 2007 Posts: 4
Re: (13 Year Old Girl) Am I Still Concidered a Virgin? Posted: 08-09-07 20:15pm
i had exactly the same issue with my ex
boyfriend when i was 13, it was unwilling
and the same as you he could only get it
in less than an inch. i had months of
debating with myself after that if i could
still call myself a virgin and it was only
when i fell in love with my current patner
and discovered what loving sex really is
that i could convince myself that before
him i'd been a virgin. i say ofcourse you
are a virgin, i'm really sorry that
happened to you, it's not fair and there's
no way someone like that could ever take
something that special away from you x
