Concerned Wife

Girl, i have had this problem before. It sounds like sex is function not an experience. He is in the mode to just get it done, and he is not. Foreplay is the best way to fix this issue. If he is not down for foreplay then he is wack! Girl I love kissing and touching for like 30 minute before penetration. This gets me going so when those 2 minute are coming I am more ready. Also train him, let him do a few thrusts then slow him down. Control it make him work for it! If he loves you he will work with you. Also have sex early and not at mid night, turn him on again 30 minutes later, then have do the same thing over again. He will last longer the second time.

Good luck

Jess

see a sex therapist together. When men have premature ejaculation problems or can't hold an erection, it often times has to do with other issues (men can have hormonal problems too) or stress from work or something. And he is probably worried about his problems, which makes him more nervous, etc.

I'd seek a therpist's help who can help determine the problem.

And there is nothing wrong with getting a vibrator, girl! Go for it! When you're hungry and he's not, do you just wait for him to get an appetite? No! Get a vibrator!

and I do understand you I too have a lazy daisy....medication or stress or age or some underling medical problem could be the cause for limp tool or fast shooter ...But heres the thing that trips me they have mouths and fingers they could help their woman out if they chose to ...we can buy toys but we have men we should not need toys ......but its help ourselves or get new men ....................I dont want a new man .......good luck with your guy .......wazzywoman

If you want some more insight you could try the men's sexual health forums. They have lots of posts on pe and erection problems. You could ask them, too, they might have some good answers.

I don't know if this is much help. My dh had similar problem too. He only lasted fewer than 10 thrust for years. But year after year, he got a little longer. Around 35 year old, I would say he was pretty adequate. But by then I lost all interest in sex, so I wanted him to finish quickly. Sometime I had to push him off and told him enough was enough! So they do get better when they get older if longer is better. I just hope you don't have to wait too long.

Another encouging thing I want to share was our sex life is good now. I actually can have orgasm since 2 years ago after being married for 18 years. I just wish we could have communicated and done something about it when we just got married. So many years wasted. Both of us were virgins and we have always been shy about sex, but it doesn't help our realtionship or our marriage. It all started to change when I told him I would work on being more involved when we have sex instead of pretending I was asleep. I worked up my courage to tell him what I wish him to do and he tried. It got better and better.

On the practical side, I have found reading a romance book or watching a romance movie before bed to get myself in the mood helps. Ask your dh to perform oral sex on you. When you are almost there, then let him penetrate. I would take over to continue to mastepate myself, and he would panetrate me and squeeze my nipples. I could come within a few thrusts so he doesn't need to last long. I have found I like slow, long thrust every 5-10 seconds apart. Anything more would make me lose the feel.

Once you are satisfied with the first time (several orgasms together), you may not need the second time.

Good luck!