Joined: 05 Aug 2007 Posts: 3 Location: Cape Town, South Africa
Concerned Wife Posted: 08-05-07 04:34am
My husband cant stay aroused for long
periods. If if gets on top of me, it lasts
for 2mins and its over. I find myself
getting on top but it feels good if he is
on top and takes control. I enjoy it if he
gives it to me. This is extremely
dissatisfying. He also cant go a second
time and says he cant do it more than
once. I am starting to fantasise about
other men and am now considering a
vibrator. What can i do to get my husband
to give me what i want.
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ThickGirlJM
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jul 2007 Posts: 17 Location: California , USA
Try This Posted: 08-05-07 04:39am
Girl, i have had this problem before. It
sounds like sex is function not an
experience. He is in the mode to just get
it done, and he is not. Foreplay is the
best way to fix this issue. If he is not
down for foreplay then he is wack! Girl I
love kissing and touching for like 30
minute before penetration. This gets me
going so when those 2 minute are coming I
am more ready. Also train him, let him do
a few thrusts then slow him down. Control
it make him work for it! If he loves you
he will work with you. Also have sex early
and not at mid night, turn him on again 30
minutes later, then have do the same thing
over again. He will last longer the second
time.
Good luck
Jess
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5557 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 08-07-07 11:58am
see a sex therapist together. When men
have premature ejaculation problems or
can't hold an erection, it often times has
to do with other issues (men can have
hormonal problems too) or stress from work
or something. And he is probably worried
about his problems, which makes him more
nervous, etc.
I'd seek a therpist's help who can help
determine the problem.
And there is nothing wrong with getting a
vibrator, girl! Go for it! When you're
hungry and he's not, do you just wait for
him to get an appetite? No! Get a
vibrator!
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wazzyandme
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Aug 2007 Posts: 18 Location: texas
Have to Agree With Georgia Posted: 08-07-07 13:34pm
and I do understand you I too have a lazy
daisy....medication or stress or age or
some underling medical problem could be
the cause for limp tool or fast shooter
...But heres the thing that trips me they
have mouths and fingers they could help
their woman out if they chose to ...we can
buy toys but we have men we should not
need toys ......but its help ourselves or
get new men ....................I dont
want a new man .......good luck with your
guy .......wazzywoman
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5557 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 08-07-07 15:09pm
If you want some more insight you could
try the men's sexual health forums. They
have lots of posts on pe and erection
problems. You could ask them, too, they
might have some good answers.
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JH2007
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Aug 2007 Posts: 32
Posted: 08-10-07 11:00am
I don't know if this is much help. My dh
had similar problem too. He only lasted
fewer than 10 thrust for years. But year
after year, he got a little longer.
Around 35 year old, I would say he was
pretty adequate. But by then I lost all
interest in sex, so I wanted him to finish
quickly. Sometime I had to push him off
and told him enough was enough! So they
do get better when they get older if
longer is better. I just hope you don't
have to wait too long.
Another encouging thing I want to share
was our sex life is good now. I actually
can have orgasm since 2 years ago after
being married for 18 years. I just wish
we could have communicated and done
something about it when we just got
married. So many years wasted. Both of
us were virgins and we have always been
shy about sex, but it doesn't help our
realtionship or our marriage. It all
started to change when I told him I would
work on being more involved when we have
sex instead of pretending I was asleep. I
worked up my courage to tell him what I
wish him to do and he tried. It got
better and better.
On the practical side, I have found
reading a romance book or watching a
romance movie before bed to get myself in
the mood helps. Ask your dh to perform
oral sex on you. When you are almost
there, then let him penetrate. I would
take over to continue to mastepate myself,
and he would panetrate me and squeeze my
nipples. I could come within a few
thrusts so he doesn't need to last long.
I have found I like slow, long thrust
every 5-10 seconds apart. Anything more
would make me lose the feel.
Once you are satisfied with the first time
(several orgasms together), you may not
need the second time.