I
think reality is kickin further and
further in...I dunt know what to do
anymore!~ should I slap chris with
childsupport and give him the
privilege*and I mean privilege!!!* of
knowing his daughter? Or should I just
live my life and struggle a lil bit more
and never ever let him see her? He
doesn't deserve it but I still have some
feelings for him...I always will I mean, a
part of him is growing inside me every
day! I hate my hormones! They are making
me cry too much over this! I dream about
him almost every night now and they are so
vivid...I don't and I wont go back to him,
but I want someone for jaydyn to call
daddy! I dont know..Any suggestions? Im
getting soo upset over this nowadays.....
Awww sweetie,
i have no idea what to tell you. Do you
think he'll be a good father to her? If
so, then get that child-support and let
him see her. If not, then it's in the
best intrest of her to keep her from him.
You have to do what is right for her and
not necessarily what's easy for you.
I know it's hard, and I am so sorry. I
wish I could make it eaiser for you. Wow,
i've never been in your position so I
really don't know what to say. Just....Do
what feels right.....Give it time.
Love,
chanda
p.S. I am on yahoo if ya need to talk.
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ERICA1121
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004 Posts: 252 Location: DETROIT
Posted: 03-14-04 11:45am
Well jordan... Noone knows him better
than you. I know with your hormones out
of whack and with jayden almost here, you
could be feeling scared but think of the
pros and cons. Do the pros wiegh out the
cons?? Do you know that chris would be a
good father? How is he with his other
child? Has he always treated you with
respect ? Do you know that you can trust
him? This is a lifelong commitment and
you and your child deserve the best.
Really think about it. My sisters husband
is not only a lame dad but he is a lame
husband to her too. The only reason they
stay together is for the boys because they
both grew up w/o a solid family but I have
been telling her for like 5 years now that
the kids are better off without him.
Really really think about it and talk to
him about it too. You dont want to end up
regreting anything and you are too much of
a wonderful person to deal with any guys
caca. If he is ready to commit and be a
family man and be faithfull to you then go
ahead but if he acts like a kid and cant
stay out of trouble, you shouldnt waste
your time. Goodl luck and be strong! Ill
be on yahoo tonight or 2morrow we can talk
more. ~ erica.
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PregnaJordan
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2003 Posts: 2908
Posted: 03-14-04 11:53am
Do you know that chris would be a good
father? I dont know that
how is he with his other child? He
doesn't see him...Alicia wont allow it*she
didnt file for child support either...Noah
will call someone else daddy.*
has he always treated you with respect ?
Thats a fat no!
Do you know that you can trust him?
Thats a fat no too!
I dont know anything and that is wht
scares the living caca out of me!**
i keep thinking that maybe prison opened
his eyes...I dunno though...I hate getting
all these feelings back! They suck azz!
Im on yahoo right now..But if u dont get
on ill ttyt!!
Ahhh, I wanna pull my hair out!!!!
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little_woman
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Mar 2004 Posts: 765
Posted: 03-14-04 12:37pm
i'm
sorry youre feeling so terrible, but this
probably isnt the best time for you to
make a decision....But I dont know too
much about your story with him, has he
been here through youre entire pregnancy?
If he hasnt then dont have anything to do
with him
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Scarf
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Feb 2004 Posts: 1062 Location: Ontario, Canada
Posted: 03-14-04 15:07pm
Awh hun! im sorry about
everything you're going through. I cant
imagine what its like..*hugs*
you're the only one who can make this
decision. It'll come to you sooner or
later. You might decide now, or the day
your daughter is born, or even years from
now. But you shouldnt ever decide on
something when you're not 100% confident
about it. You can try taking care of your
daughter on your own, see where it leads
you. Or bring her to visit him and see
how he reacts to her. Anything can
trigger an answer. I really cant give you
any advice, i've never been in a situation
like this. Just know that im here for
you, whenever you need to talk and that
the decision you make is the best for your
daughter because you know her more then
any of us (even if shes not born yet) good
luck with everything..
Much love,
shannon
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JillMarie
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Dec 2003 Posts: 3022 Location: Iowa
Posted: 03-14-04 15:10pm
I would talk to him and see what he is
thinking. Dont tell him how you feel
because that will just be a way for him to
rope you in. Ask him what he wants as far
as the baby goes ect.
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PregnaJordan
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2003 Posts: 2908
Posted: 03-15-04 00:10am
The only way I would b able to talk to him
is to write him a letter in jail... and I dunno if I
wanna do that...As jen said last night
that would show him that im thinking about
him and I dont want him to get all big
headed! I looked online and he's been
transfered from the evaluation center and
is now in a low security prison doing his
shock incarceration bootcamp...I know what
he'll say if I write him too..Ill get a
letter back sayin how much he misses and
loves me and blah blah, just b/c he's in
jail and he's lonely! And I prolly don't
need to read something like that right
now...I was thinkin of just writing him
and not putting a return address...I
haven't talked to him since november 11th!
Four months! Thats crazy! And the last
time we talked it ended like this : "well,
if ur not gonna let me see my baby then I
am gonna fight u for it!".."medical
question you, fight me for it, u think
some judge in his right mine is going to
let u have custody over me? Look at ur
record health question!"..." well, I gotta
new girl, and shes gonna live wit me now
since ur not!...Ur not coming back are u?
This is ur last chance to b wit
me"..."dont ever call me again if ur gonna
b like that! I'll call u when I go to my
Dr.'s appt.'s and thats it!..''...Lol<
needless to say, I have never called him
after my Dr. Appt's! I just didn't want
to talk to him b/c its always the same ol
caca!!!~sorry, im rambling on... I need
to go get dressed! B back later girls,
and thanx for listening
im sorry about
everything you're going through. I cant
imagine what its like..*hugs*
and I dunno if I
wanna do that...As jen said last night
that would show him that im thinking about
him and I dont want him to get all big
headed! I looked online and he's been
transfered from the evaluation center and
is now in a low security prison doing his
shock incarceration bootcamp...I know what
he'll say if I write him too..Ill get a
letter back sayin how much he misses and
loves me and blah blah, just b/c he's in
jail and he's lonely! And I prolly don't
need to read something like that right
now...I was thinkin of just writing him
and not putting a return address...I
haven't talked to him since november 11th!
Four months! Thats crazy! And the last
time we talked it ended like this : "well,
if ur not gonna let me see my baby then I
am gonna fight u for it!".."medical
question you, fight me for it, u think
some judge in his right mine is going to
let u have custody over me? Look at ur
record health question!"..." well, I gotta
new girl, and shes gonna live wit me now
since ur not!...Ur not coming back are u?
This is ur last chance to b wit
me"..."dont ever call me again if ur gonna
b like that! I'll call u when I go to my
Dr.'s appt.'s and thats it!..''...Lol<
needless to say, I have never called him
after my Dr. Appt's! I just didn't want
to talk to him b/c its always the same ol
caca!!!~sorry, im rambling on... I need
to go get dressed! B back later girls,
and thanx for listening 
