I'm new to the forum. I recently have started gaining interest in a girl that I have only known for about a month now, a little more. But as I get to know her I worry about her more and more. I asked her if she wanted to start dating a little more seriously, but she refused in saying "I am still in love with my ex."
Just a little background, the first night I met this girl she was really intoxicated (alcohol). I slept at her house, in her bed (I like to be the guy that likes to help... so, even though this sounds like bad news, it's not haha) during the night she started to throw up in her sleep. Thank God I was there to flip her on her side. The first time I met her parents, they found me sleeping in her bed. But now, her parents adore me.
Anyway, her ex boyfriend (I think it was 3-6 months ago) used to beat her, he was a horrible boyfriend. I am here to ask if there is anything I can do to help her. I know she has to open her eyes by herself. But, what can I do to help her? Is there anything I should say to her? I mean, I have already told her "I'm here for you" etc etc. Last time she saw her ex, she spent $300 on him because he said he'd be her friend. I don't understand! But that's why I am here. Because I want to understand and I want to help her. I don't know how someone is attracted to someone that they have a restraining order against, but it's possible.
when your with someone like that, they make you feel unwanted, uncared for and like no one in their right mind will ever love you besides them. When they treat you like that you start to try and prove yuorself then they use you. SHe needs to stay away from him and follow the restraining order. Obviously she got it for a reason. All you can do is be there for her and listen. your doing the right thing. Try to take her places and have fun to get her mind off of her ex. If you can't take it anymoer, i'd stop talking to her then maybe she will see what she had and what she lost.