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August 2nd, 2007
OK so I need to throw this out somewhere--- so here goes.........

I have been seeing this guy for the last yr..... and I find out recently that we are having a baby........ then I find out that the guy I am seeing .... and PREGNANT by.... is not only seeing me --- but hes been living with someone else....... telling me that this was just his "room mate" .... yet this is a room mate that I cant meet..... I cant talk to ,...... I cant have any conversation with........ "cause it just makes it harder at home" is what I was told....... WELL..... since my discovery.... I have talked to him.... and I have asked why he lied to me... and all I get is --- I am trying to get out..... I am trying to get my stuff together..... I dont want to be there.... I want to be with you..... but LIES to me??? WHAT THE HECK??

So I called him tonite and told him that we needed to talk ..... that I wasnt doing this anymore.... I deserve better ..... she deserves better..... and he needs to just come clean...... what do you think the chances of that are? HIM HONEST? Better chance of me being SKINNY!!!!

So now I find myself pregnant.... and not sure what to do??? Do I stay?? Do I walk? Do I tell her?? Do I make him tell her??? Like I said --- when this all started--- I was under the impression that she was nothing more than a room mate..... and then I found out (by talking to his friends) that she was more than that........ any one with ideas??? HELP!!!
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meblonde01
replied August 3rd, 2007
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wvmom wrote:
OK so I need to throw this out somewhere--- so here goes.........

I have been seeing this guy for the last yr..... and I find out recently that we are having a baby........ then I find out that the guy I am seeing .... and PREGNANT by.... is not only seeing me --- but hes been living with someone else....... telling me that this was just his "room mate" .... yet this is a room mate that I cant meet..... I cant talk to ,...... I cant have any conversation with........ "cause it just makes it harder at home" is what I was told....... WELL..... since my discovery.... I have talked to him.... and I have asked why he lied to me... and all I get is --- I am trying to get out..... I am trying to get my health question together..... I dont want to be there.... I want to be with you..... but LIES to me??? WHAT THE HELL??

So I called him tonite and told him that we needed to talk ..... that I wasnt doing this anymore.... I deserve better ..... she deserves better..... and he needs to just come clean...... what do you think the chances of that are? HIM HONEST? Better chance of me being SKINNY!!!!

So now I find myself pregnant.... and not sure what to do??? Do I stay?? Do I walk? Do I tell her?? Do I make him tell her??? Like I said --- when this all started--- I was under the impression that she was nothing more than a room mate..... and then I found out (by talking to his friends) that she was more than that........ any one with ideas??? HELP!!!


If he lies to you, like he has, well that is not a good start into any kind of relationship. So why would you want him. I would tell him to hit the road and tell his ROOM MATE all about yourself and your baby! Expose him and then move on!
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Willa Weintraub
replied August 3rd, 2007
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I would drop him. He's been lying to you this long and your pregnant with his childHow could you trust him? I would go get that child support and dump him!
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entices1
replied August 4th, 2007
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Hello, my friend:

What a terrible situation to find yourself in. Based on what I read I think you know what you need to do and are looking for validation from us.

The past two responses (Melissa is a very smart woman, trust me) have validated what you want to do. Do what you have to do legally to get this guy to take his reponsibility for this child. Don't let him slip away as far as this goes.

If he has a "roomie" then I'll bet she's probably on to him by now. I'll bet he's cheated on her several times (if they're still together). She may have even left him by now and he's preying on someone else.

As far as what to do for yourself, you have to take the best care of yourself more now than ever. Eat right, get sleep, take exercise, talk to whomever to help you get past this speed bump. No alcohol, drugs or anything else. Your health and the health of this unborn child are the most important things in your life right now (besides keeping this guy from not doing right by you).

Please, please, please take care of yourself. Just because he did you wrong doesn't mean you should do yourself wrong.

Good luck and please keep posting.
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