Joined: 02 Aug 2007 Posts: 3 Location: Fakenham, Norfolk UK
I'm 15 Nearly 16...am I Too Young to Try For a Baby? Posted: 08-02-07 19:57pm
Sounds completly stubid!!
But I'm with my guy now and we were
talking about trying for a baby when i'm
16.
I don't want to try to late as my mum
waited years for me and had to still birth
boys before me.
she said if i got pregnant she would
support me but said i should live abit...i
just would like to be a young mum and not
an older one like she is as all through my
childhood she has said no to doing fun
stuff with me cos shes embarassed of her
age...but i love her and dont think of her
age...shes my mum to me and couldn't be
replaced!!
Please send me your opinions on this
matter,
Thanks.
Amii xx
you are far to young esp with a 22 year
old guy finish school first then get a job
first. if he loves you he will wait to
have children hun.
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Smexi_Amii
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Joined: 02 Aug 2007 Posts: 3 Location: Fakenham, Norfolk UK
Reply to Candita Sky Posted: 08-02-07 20:22pm
Thanks for your advise.
Yeah i think he would wait as i finish
school next year and i may see what things
are like then.
But still abit unsure,i dont even know if
i'll be able to have kids!
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sick_mama17
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Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 960 Location: , England
Posted: 08-04-07 14:49pm
Hi
I got pregnant at 16. My son is now 4. I
think you should definately finish school
first, try to get lots of experience with
babies and young kids. Anyone you can
babysit for ?
You have many years ahead of you to get
pregnant. I wouldnt worry about not being
able to get pregnant unless you were over
35.
Honestly, find something you love doing
and go do it. Enjoy your life as a
teenager and young adult as much as you
can before you have a child.
A baby will take over your whole life, its
no longer about you, its all about the
baby and what the baby needs. They come
first in every single decision you make
once you have them.
They dont stay babies very long either.
Are you ready to deal with a toddler,
pre-schooler? You wont have grown much
yourself by the time they reach that age.
Think about what you can offer a child,
what kind of life can you provide for it?
They need much more than love.
Also once you make this decision you cant
go back on it. Having a child is a life
long responsibility, no matter how old he
or she is you will be a mother for the
rest of your life, and have all the
responsibilities that go along with that.
At 15 you're so young, you have no idea. I
thought I had it all figured out too,
thought everything would be great and all
that. It isn't how you imagine it to be.
What if your boyfriend leaves you? Having
a baby wont keep a guy, and it puts a lot
of stress on a relationship.
Think about it.
Morgan
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rosejackson
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Posted: 08-05-07 02:28am
i think you should have a stable life
before you start trying for a baby, like a
job for starters otherwise you'll be on
benefits (not that theres anything wrong
with it) and will struggle. its better if
you're older, have a home, a job, etc. i
know that even if you're older it's still
guna be hard, but i'd wait a bit.
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StarLawson
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Re: I'm 15 Nearly 16...am I Too Young to Try For a Baby? Posted: 08-13-07 12:34pm
i think you are see im 17 and i wish i
could have waited ...at least have a job,
and car first...babys are difficult to
take care of this is my first and when my
frd had her baby i helped alot but it is
hard work and you shouldnt have a child
with someone u havent been with for a
really long time b/c guys lie and u really
never kno when you will be replaced
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Rodge
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Posted: 08-13-07 13:28pm
Live a little first, huh? Get a job, go to
university, travel places, whatever.
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HEATH3R
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Joined: 11 Aug 2007 Posts: 22
Posted: 08-13-07 17:21pm
there are alot of things to think about.
will your moms insurance cover YOUR labor
and delivery?
how will you get insurance so that your
child will be able to go to the doctors
office?
Why is your boyfriend so ceen on having a
child but not getting married?
how will you afford diapers, food, and
clothes?
how will you afford a crib, a high chair,
multiple car seats?
who will watch him/her while youre in
school?
who will take him/her to the doctor when
he's sick?
how will you pass school if you miss so
many days with feeling icky or when you
have him/her?
are you ready to have people
looking/poking at you vagina every couple
of weeks?
do you know what you can and cant eat
while pregnant?
do you know if you want to breastfeed or
not?
do you know the benifits of breatfeeding
or not breast feeding?
are you ready to gain weight and not look
like you used to for the rest fo your
life?
are you ready to tell not only yur parents
that youre pregnant, but his as well?
theres alot to think about.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 08-21-07 12:34pm
The very fact that ou are here asking if
you are eady says to me that you're not. I
was 15 when i fell pregnant and i had my
daughter two weeks after my 16th birthday
and it is so so hard and i have it much
easier than you because i live in the uk
so i didn't have to worry about health
insurance because we have the NHS, we
finish school at 16 so all i had to worry
about there was doing all of my final
exams before Mika was born. If i were you
then i would wait until you can say to
yourself that you are 100% ready for this
because once a baby's there it's not going
to go away. Having a baby isn't all
cuddles and games, it's cracked nipples
from breastfeeding, no sleep, stretch
marks, no money and barely enough spare
time in the day for you to go to the
toilet in peace
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Mommyofone06
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Joined: 24 Aug 2007 Posts: 6 Location: ,
Posted: 08-24-07 23:01pm
Hi,
I don't know if your still reading these
posts cause you posted your question a
while ago but i'm gunna reply anyways!
I'm 19, and have a 15 month old daughter..
I've been lucky in a way that i'm still
with the father and we've been engaged for
over a year.
Honestly, i think you should
wait!!....It's completly your desicion but
your still so young, you have so much more
living to do! Having a child means your
responsible for them 24/7.. no going to
parties, no staying up late (unless it's
with the baby), no going on random road
trips whenever you want, no more girlie
sleep over nights.. there's a lot of
things you wouldn't be able to do anymore!
I never really considered all that when i
got pregnant, not that i don't love my
daughter.. but sometimes i wish i would
have listened to everyone and just waited.
It's a very stressful job being a
mom..even if you have supports like a bf
or parents.. you can't always depend on
them, YOU are the babies mother and YOU
are responsible for them. I wasn't
finished highschool when i got pregnant,
but i'm lucky that there is a young parent
program in my town that gives you the
opportunity to finish highschool, but that
doesn't mean i can go college right away
now that i'm done. College costs money,
and guess what.. so does a baby!....
anyways, i'm sure i've gotten my point
across.. just wait! get out there and live
some more! finish school..go to college,
get a job you love..then think about
having babies, you'll still be young once
you've finished all that!
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goodnightkiss
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Re: I'm 15 Nearly 16...am I Too Young to Try For a Baby? Posted: 09-23-07 14:39pm
Smexi_Amii
wrote:
Sounds completly stubid!!
But I'm with my guy now and we were
talking about trying for a baby when i'm
16.
I don't want to try to late as my mum
waited years for me and had to still birth
boys before me.
she said if i got pregnant she would
support me but said i should live abit...i
just would like to be a young mum and not
an older one like she is as all through my
childhood she has said no to doing fun
stuff with me cos shes embarassed of her
age...but i love her and dont think of her
age...shes my mum to me and couldn't be
replaced!!
Please send me your opinions on this
matter,
Thanks.
Amii xx
i think u r wayyyyy to young
my mom had a baby 3 years ago and i saw
how hard it is so to actually raise it
trust me ur way too young wait until u r
done with school and have a stable life so
u can offer your baby the life it really
desrves
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OaTmEaLfAiRy
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Joined: 13 Oct 2005 Posts: 192 Location: Iowa
Posted: 09-24-07 21:06pm
I have a friend who planned her baby that
she had at 16. She's happy with him and
her (now) husband. But because she had him
when she was 16, she had to get her GED
instead of finishing school and had such a
hard time taking her nursing courses in
college. It will be so much easier if you
just wait 2 years (when you turn 1 to finish high
school at least. Think of all the things
you'll miss if you're hasty. And I'm not
saying wait until you're married or
anything, because you never know what kind
of issues you might have with your
fertility. But at least wait until you're
an adult. And then if anybody gives you a
dirty look or comments on how you're too
young, you can look them in the eye and
say, "I'm an adult. I can do as I please."
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hunter_McMahon
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Joined: 26 Sep 2007 Posts: 25 Location: ,
Posted: 09-26-07 21:04pm
I had my first baby at 17 and I don't
exactly regret it but I wish I had waited
longer. My baby would be 1 1/2 now but I
gave her up for adoption. One thing I can
tell you is that unless you both have a
job and are finantially stable and you
have a place for the baby to live and are
ready to give up your whole life then I
would wait. Though I am not your mother I
am a mother a teen mother. Now I am 18
pregnant again and I am scared but
ready.If I were you I would wait.
hi, i had my first baby at 13 and it was
not my fault. I am 15 know and have a
lovely boy(aged 2) and a baby on the way.
I think that u should wait a while
motherhood is not all it is cracked up to
be.I find it hard and so will u. Leave
school, get a job and see were things go
from there.
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jessamyn
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Posted: 10-03-07 13:16pm
just because your mother had concieving
issues does NOT mean you will! you are a
child... unless it happened accidentally
WAIT!