I've been experiencing painful sex for
almost a year now - initially it was
infrequent, but steadily became more
common until I couldn't have sex at all
because of the pain.
I've been to my local STD clinic with my
partner of 2 years. His tests showed that
he may have an NSU, but we were both
prescribed precautionary antibiotics for
this, which we both took, carefully
following the instructions, but this has
not helped.
Next I went to my GP. After a brief
examination she told me she thought I had
some scar tissue from an old tear in my
vagina (I don't particularly remember such
an injury, but it's a possibilty). If this
is the case, she said there's nothing to
be done except use lots of lube (which I
always do anyway, as my contraceptive pill
can make me dry sometimes) or try a local
anaesthetic (does anyone else feel this
defeats the object?).
I have to say, I feel my doctor was
dismissive and not very thourough. I'm not
yet willing to resign myself to a life of
never enjoying sex again. She did not even
mention the possibilty of PID, which I
have been reading and worrying about
since.
It is hard for me to tell exactly where
the pain is - sometimes it feels quite
external, at the very opening of my
vagina, and other times I think it feels
deeper. Usually it is a tearing pain, but
I also often experience a burning
sensation, which often lasts for hours
after sex. The last couple of times we've
tried (I give it another try every few
weeks, just in case I'm better) I've bled
a little bit afterwards.
Does anyone have any ideas or advice for
me? I'm at the end of my tether! Needless
to say, it's depressing me quite a bit,
and although my partner has been endlessly
patient and deeply understanding, I feel
the lack of sex is putting an unecessary
strain on our relationship. He has a high
sex drive, and we used to have a fantastic
sex life; I feel I'm being unfair to him.
My sex drive has all but vanished.
Additional: we don't use condoms, I've
tried several lubes, I've been on my
contraceptive pill for several years, I
have genital herpes (but it isn't the
cause of the problem!).
Please help!
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Rosie H
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Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 1160 Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
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Posted: 08-02-07 16:30pm
Hey here is a recent post from me. it was
moved to the herpes forum. But I can
totally relate to you, and wow I am not
the only one. I am sorry to saw that I
have not learned anything more than you
have. I am still stuck. Its so
frustrating....
"I feel pain maybe twice a month after
sex. So much pain I am in tears. The issue
is the outside of my vagina gets really
sore, if I touch it or when I pee after
sex and immediately after we are done. I
cant even walk sometimes. Its the surfice
or my skin its not internal and it doesnt
get red or any visual signs. We are rough
but he doesnt "cut" me or anything and
other times we can have sex 4 times in one
day and nothing happens. Then one day we
have sex and bam it hurts like hell. I can
never feel pain before foreplay, during
foreplay, during oral, and even sex, its
always after.
My problem is the doctors say nothing is
wrong. I have made so many appointments
and they have run all tests and nothing
comes up. I have had UTI's and yeast
infections and this is not one of them.
Otherwise the docs would find the
infection, right? Could it be related to
the herpes that I have?
