Ok, I have a few questions to aks and I
hope you guys will answer them all!!!!!,
ha I am 16
Let me just start at the top. About 3
weeks ago in the shower i was fingering my
girlfriend and all of the sudden i noticed
blood on my fingers!? I was not going
rough or too fast or anything out of the
usual. she got embarrassed but was
comfortable enough with me we talked it
out. it was not her period. SO we figured
maybe she was not sexually excited enough,
maybe i fingered her and maybe made her
bleed a little, forgot about it and moved
on.
Now this Month She has not had a period? I
am almost 99% sure she is not pregnant
because we have not had sex in the past
month, and even when we did i was no where
close to having an orgasm(been having some
erection problems i just cant seem to get
over)
Next on top of all this She has pain when
I try to put a finger in her vagina, A
LOT of pain could this be due to the fact
that she is not lubricated enough? Its
never happened before?
SO here are My Questions
1.What could have caused the unexplained
bleeding?
2.She has not had a period, but yet bled
once(could this be her period?)
3.IF she went to get the pain checked out
would the doc be able to tell if she is a
virgin?(Her family is way religious, and
if her parents found out she was messing
around she would probably be disowned!!!!)
And could she ask her doctor about the
bleeding and everything without causing
complications? (Her saying she is a
virgin, making the doctor rule out the
possibility of the things that could be
wrong with her cause she isn't a virgin?)
Please PLEASE PLEASE!!!! Answer all my
questions I need answers fast so we can be
safe and solve this.
Thanks Guys!!!
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KatieFlower
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Feb 2006 Posts: 407 Location: Massachusetts, U>S>A
Posted: 08-01-07 10:12am
Sorry I can't get too detail I gtg soon
but maybe it was her period because one
time mine was supposed to start then next
day but sex started it the night before.
And yes I think a doctor can tell if shes
a virgin
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Marfa2107
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Joined: 11 Jul 2007 Posts: 1552 Location: Galena, Kansas United States
Posted: 08-01-07 10:17am
when i went to my first OBGYN appt. i made
my mom stay in the lobby so i could go
back by myself (its kind of a private
thing)
the doctor asked if i was sexually
active..and i told him yes..
he explained to me that everything is
confidential unless i tell him otherwise
or if there is some serious medical
problem that my parents need to be aware
of..
so her going to the doctor, she needs to
tell the whole truth...
and it will be kept confidential...unless
there are serious medical problems
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Kia
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Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 08-01-07 11:26am
Doctors can not tell if a woman is a
virgin or not.
This is back from an old myth that all
women have hymens that get broken the
first time they have sex.
It isn't true.
1. not all women have a hymen to begin
with.
2. those with a hymen can tear or stretch
it by playing sports, inserting tampons,
horseback riding - or a millionother
things.
so unless you tell your doctor that you
are not a virgin they can not tell -
unless of course there is seminal fluid in
the vagina.
I would say pregnancy - but you can get
pregnant without having had intercourse -
but that's a whole other post.
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5557 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 08-01-07 12:12pm
It's really common for someone to bleed
after sex, fingering, whatever because the
vaginal wall can easily be scratched
(especially by fingernails) and in the
heat of the moment you might not realize
it. It could've been that, it could've
been her period. As long as it's not
really profuse bleeding, there's nothing
to worry about.
What are you using as birth control when
you do have sex? Because even if you do
not orgasm in her, she can still get
pregnant. I just wanted to make sure you
knew that.
If you go to a doc, she can leave her mom
outside (which she will want to do anyway
because it's really awkward if you don't)
and tell the doctor privately. It is
important to tell the doc the truth, and
the doc will not tell her parents. He will
also likely prescribe her with birth
control at this point, if she wants it,
because she is having sex. If she doesn't
want her mom to know that, she can
convince her that it is to regulate her
periods (which is a perfectly legitimate
reason, especially for her right now) or
something else, like to lessen cramps,
reduce acne, whatever. All good reasons.
Every woman should start going to the gyno
once she is sexually active.
No, a doc can't tell if you're a virgin
unless you have stds or are pregnant or
something. But in this case, it will be
important to tell the doc about her sexual
history, because it may matter.
Anytime sex is painful, you should get it
checked out.
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KC+AP
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 10 Location: Utah
Thanks Posted: 08-02-07 15:36pm
Thanks to all your replys!!!
especially yours Georgia
I use a condom as birth control but soon
we will have pills.
If she was pregnant wouldnt there be more
signs than a missed period by now?
also update I fingered her last night with
no pain whatsoever , so I believe it was
just not "wet" enough
I know this is off topic from my own
topic, but I have been having erection
problems and again I am 16. I know its not
physical because I get erections all the
time it just seems not at the right times
hah. Any advice anyone has to overcome the
psychological part of it besides just
saying (just forget about it, relax, just
clear your mind) something a little more
helpful and specific?
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5557 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 08-02-07 18:10pm
There's a lot about erection problems on
the men's sexual health forum. You would
probably get better answers there if you
asked.
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5557 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 08-02-07 18:13pm
Pregnancy doesn't necessarily have
symptoms other than a missed period right
away, especially because a lot of early
pregnancy symptoms are just like pms
symptoms. So it's hard to decipher.
It really doesn't sound like pregnancy is
your concern- but if it is, home pregnancy
tests are pretty cheap!
