hi,
When I was diagnosed with bp1 I found most of my information on the internet. I also found bipolar groups around my area that helped me deal with my issues. As long as your friend stays on her meds she will have less episodes and the ones that she does have will be more mild than without meds. The problem we bipolar people have is when we think we are doing better we think we can come off of our meds. This is never a good idea. If you can keep her going on her meds and seeing her doctor life will be good for both you and her. This disorder never goes away. It's like type 1 diabetes we will always have to take our meds even when we dont want to. I hope this helps you some. If you have any questions I will try to answer them to the best of my ability. Good luck

Hello, Its wonderful that you are taking a chance in getting into a relationship with a bp person, and wanting to take on the challenge. You are stronger when it comes to this than a lot of people (including myself). I found it too much to handle. But if you are up to the challenge, i would check out Barnes & Noble.They have a great selection on topics like "How to love a Bipolar person" I spent many many nights there reading and reading about the disorder. What you find there is a lot of doctors and therapists who write their books tailored to not only the bp person, but the family member, bf, etc. Those books are good in that they help both sides, many have chapters dedicated to the "care-taker" which i am sure is a role you will read about once you pick up some books. I have a good bit of knowledge just by reading a few books so if you have some questions feel free to pm.

I read a book called an unquiet mind and it helped me understand a little more about what she went through and what she is going through...The more I read and find out the more I wouldn't have it any other way...I'm madly in love with this woman and I know I can't fix anything...I'm looking forward to the future with her...

Hey all,

That is awesome the you two reconnected again. I would say from my own experience that being understanding is one of the most important things you can do. And also loving that person even in all the different moods that come with being bipolar.

take care,
Hibiscus Chick

just know that this will help you too.
When she fights with you and it feels like for no reason.
She doesn't do it to intentionally hurt you.
I've hurt my boyfriend so much w/ my outbursts of calling him names and telling him i want an abortion.
It's torn us apart alot.
We're not as close as we used to be, and we have a baby coming along.
Bipolar is alot more severe then people think.
and you actually realise that when you're dealing with soembody you love and care about. I haven't known how bad mine was until I got pregnant now its even worse and people are questioning wether or not I would be a good mother.. it's very heartbreaking..

The only thing that has been an issue so far is she took lithium as well as her regular seizure med that she takes for BP...She said she was just in a daze for 1/2 a week or so and her usual range of moods was restricted even further...Being who I am I took it kinda personal at first only because I never really saw it in action...A day and a 1/2 later she was back to normal and it was all good...She practices medicine and is very smart...I have no doubt I will be on the wrong end of arguments, I guess you have to take the good with the bad...I love her and support her...I consider myself the luckiest man in the world...It isn't often someone comes along that is drop dead gorgeous and off the charts intelligent and in love with me...

My husband love someone with bipolar, me. He seems to believe it is worth it. I think that bipolar folks may have many good qualities as a result of being bipolar. I have read that our IQ is high typically although I consider myself average. Certainly being bipolar has helped me to accomplish a lot in a short period of time (mania can do that).

Medication can certainly help with the ups and downs provided that you are patient because it can take awhile to find the right combination. My meds make me feels a lot less energetic. Has anyone else had that experience?

update....She is 8 weeks pregnant and was living with me until tonight...I came home from work and she told me about her session with her therapist and then said she needed to move back to her mothers so she could "figure stuff out her way" I feel like its over and once its in her rear view mirror it wont bother her at all...The crappy part is my kids are devastated...I'm pretty much at the lowest ive ever been also...She tells me she loves me, she tells me she wants it to work and we are just living in different places...I don't really believe it...This is the second time in my life I have watched her drive away(well technically the third)...Other then be hurt I dont know what to do...

Fell hard for a young lady that is bipolar.
She seemed very intelligent and very sweet.
One day I guess I was having a mood swing of my own I sent an e-mail
stating I was done over and finished.
She acted like I killed her dog or something she pretty much hasn't talked to me since. All my friends say forget her she is crazy. I don't believe it.
and I want her friendship back but I don't know what to do.
Can anyone help me? i have been told it was not my fault but she told me off and good hitting every button I had made me lower than dirt. So obviously I think It's my fault.