the Love of My Life Is Bipolar ... Posted: 07-31-07 20:34pm
12 years ago I lost the love of my life to
numerous issues...We reconnected recently
and she tells me she is bipolar...We are
starting a new relationship again and I
feel I am up for the challenge...She is
the most amazing person I have ever met
and I want to do anything I can...I
searched online and read everything I
could...
Im Wondering if there are any books I can
read or any info on support groups anyone
can suggest...I have spoken with her alot
about it and I feel the more I can learn
the better...I believe she has it under
control I just want to know all I can...
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backpain_nc
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Jul 2007 Posts: 17 Location: Burlington, NC USA
Bipolar Info Posted: 07-31-07 22:24pm
hi,
When I was diagnosed with bp1 I found
most of my information on the internet. I
also found bipolar groups around my area
that helped me deal with my issues. As
long as your friend stays on her meds she
will have less episodes and the ones that
she does have will be more mild than
without meds. The problem we bipolar
people have is when we think we are doing
better we think we can come off of our
meds. This is never a good idea. If you
can keep her going on her meds and seeing
her doctor life will be good for both you
and her. This disorder never goes away.
It's like type 1 diabetes we will always
have to take our meds even when we dont
want to. I hope this helps you some. If
you have any questions I will try to
answer them to the best of my ability.
Good luck
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j_j89
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Joined: 08 Jul 2007 Posts: 19
Posted: 08-03-07 15:36pm
Hello, Its wonderful that you are taking a
chance in getting into a relationship with
a bp person, and wanting to take on the
challenge. You are stronger when it comes
to this than a lot of people (including
myself). I found it too much to handle.
But if you are up to the challenge, i
would check out Barnes & Noble.They
have a great selection on topics like "How
to love a Bipolar person" I spent many
many nights there reading and reading
about the disorder. What you find there is
a lot of doctors and therapists who write
their books tailored to not only the bp
person, but the family member, bf, etc.
Those books are good in that they help
both sides, many have chapters dedicated
to the "care-taker" which i am sure is a
role you will read about once you pick up
some books. I have a good bit of knowledge
just by reading a few books so if you have
some questions feel free to pm.
I read a book called an unquiet mind and
it helped me understand a little more
about what she went through and what she
is going through...The more I read and
find out the more I wouldn't have it any
other way...I'm madly in love with this
woman and I know I can't fix
anything...I'm looking forward to the
future with her...
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Hibiscus Chick
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jul 2007 Posts: 4 Location: Canada
Posted: 08-07-07 23:55pm
Hey all,
That is awesome the you two reconnected
again. I would say from my own experience
that being understanding is one of the
most important things you can do. And
also loving that person even in all the
different moods that come with being
bipolar.
take care,
Hibiscus Chick
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Sofia18
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2007 Posts: 2 Location: Blacksburg,va
Posted: 08-11-07 19:16pm
just know that this will help you too.
When she fights with you and it feels like
for no reason.
She doesn't do it to intentionally hurt
you.
I've hurt my boyfriend so much w/ my
outbursts of calling him names and telling
him i want an abortion.
It's torn us apart alot.
We're not as close as we used to be, and
we have a baby coming along.
Bipolar is alot more severe then people
think.
and you actually realise that when you're
dealing with soembody you love and care
about. I haven't known how bad mine was
until I got pregnant now its even worse
and people are questioning wether or not I
would be a good mother.. it's very
heartbreaking..
The only thing that has been an issue so
far is she took lithium as well as her
regular seizure med that she takes for
BP...She said she was just in a daze for
1/2 a week or so and her usual range of
moods was restricted even further...Being
who I am I took it kinda personal at first
only because I never really saw it in
action...A day and a 1/2 later she was
back to normal and it was all good...She
practices medicine and is very smart...I
have no doubt I will be on the wrong end
of arguments, I guess you have to take the
good with the bad...I love her and support
her...I consider myself the luckiest man
in the world...It isn't often someone
comes along that is drop dead gorgeous and
off the charts intelligent and in love
with me...
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indy621
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Joined: 14 Sep 2007 Posts: 6
Loving Someone Who Is Bipolar Posted: 09-17-07 10:12am
My husband love someone with bipolar, me.
He seems to believe it is worth it. I
think that bipolar folks may have many
good qualities as a result of being
bipolar. I have read that our IQ is high
typically although I consider myself
average. Certainly being bipolar has
helped me to accomplish a lot in a short
period of time (mania can do that).
Medication can certainly help with the ups
and downs provided that you are patient
because it can take awhile to find the
right combination. My meds make me feels
a lot less energetic. Has anyone else had
that experience?
update....She is 8 weeks pregnant and was
living with me until tonight...I came home
from work and she told me about her
session with her therapist and then said
she needed to move back to her mothers so
she could "figure stuff out her way" I
feel like its over and once its in her
rear view mirror it wont bother her at
all...The crappy part is my kids are
devastated...I'm pretty much at the lowest
ive ever been also...She tells me she
loves me, she tells me she wants it to
work and we are just living in different
places...I don't really believe it...This
is the second time in my life I have
watched her drive away(well technically
the third)...Other then be hurt I dont
know what to do...
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BRANIFF
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Joined: 19 Sep 2007 Posts: 2 Location: ,
What Do I Do Next? Posted: 09-20-07 10:18am
Fell hard for a young lady that is
bipolar.
She seemed very intelligent and very
sweet.
One day I guess I was having a mood swing
of my own I sent an e-mail
stating I was done over and finished.
She acted like I killed her dog or
something she pretty much hasn't talked to
me since. All my friends say forget her
she is crazy. I don't believe it.
and I want her friendship back but I don't
know what to do.
Can anyone help me? i have been told it
was not my fault but she told me off and
good hitting every button I had made me
lower than dirt. So obviously I think It's
my fault.
