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Worrying About Passing Along An Ed to a Daughter... Posted: 07-31-07 10:11am
So as most everyone here knows, I'm about
21 weeks pregnant. Today, I had my big
ultrasound, and the main thing is the baby
is healthy and everything looks normal. I
also found out it's a girl, I'm not
terribly surprised as I've had strong
feelings from early in my pregnancy that
this baby is a girl.
I should add--the ultrasound was just
amazing! Best of all was seeing a healthy
baby; she even yawned and got the hiccups
during the ultrasound. Her heartbeat was
158 bpm, and she weighs 12 oz. She is
measuring right on track.
My recovery has been solid so far, and I
have no reason to worry about relapsing,
but I do worry about maybe passing on ED
issues to my daughter. I know males can be
affected by EDs too, but statistically,
the incidence is much lower.
How do those of you with children manage
not to pass along ED issues? Of course,
staying solid in my recovery will go a
long way to help, and I also have to be
careful about what I say regarding my body
image/her body image. I do not want my
daughter to have to deal with this issue.
I want also to be sure that she has good
self-esteem; I never had much self-esteem
growing up Even my natural
talents like writing and art, I felt
terribly insecure over, mainly because my
father scoffed at them and claimed they
weren't practical and would never get me
anywhere in the world. Now, I look at some
of the artwork and writing I did growing
up, and I realize it was very, very good,
but I wish I could have felt such pride in
it at the time.
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knarf72
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2007 Posts: 49 Location: ,
Re: Worrying About Passing Along An Ed to a Daughter... Posted: 08-02-07 23:53pm
cln1812
wrote:
So as most everyone here
knows, I'm about 21 weeks pregnant. Today,
I had my big ultrasound, and the main
thing is the baby is healthy and
everything looks normal. I also found out
it's a girl, I'm not terribly surprised as
I've had strong feelings from early in my
pregnancy that this baby is a girl.
I should add--the ultrasound was just
amazing! Best of all was seeing a healthy
baby; she even yawned and got the hiccups
during the ultrasound. Her heartbeat was
158 bpm, and she weighs 12 oz. She is
measuring right on track.
My recovery has been solid so far, and I
have no reason to worry about relapsing,
but I do worry about maybe passing on ED
issues to my daughter. I know males can be
affected by EDs too, but statistically,
the incidence is much lower.
How do those of you with children manage
not to pass along ED issues? Of course,
staying solid in my recovery will go a
long way to help, and I also have to be
careful about what I say regarding my body
image/her body image. I do not want my
daughter to have to deal with this issue.
I want also to be sure that she has good
self-esteem; I never had much self-esteem
growing up Even my natural
talents like writing and art, I felt
terribly insecure over, mainly because my
father scoffed at them and claimed they
weren't practical and would never get me
anywhere in the world. Now, I look at some
of the artwork and writing I did growing
up, and I realize it was very, very good,
but I wish I could have felt such pride in
it at the
time.
Hi
My wife has an eating disorder (she's
getting better) and I often worry about
her giving it to my daughter.
I think the key issue with my wife is that
she has very low self esteem and a bad
body image..
I think if both my wife and I encourage my
daughter in everything that she does and
that she truly knows that she's loved -- i
think the has a good chance of not
contracting this terrible mental disease.
my father in law is very much like your
father ( I know I won't be like that)
good luck with your baby
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bibisim
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Aug 2007 Posts: 76
Re: Worrying About Passing Along An Ed to a Daughter... Posted: 08-08-07 05:40am
cln1812
wrote:
So as most everyone here
knows, I'm about 21 weeks pregnant. Today,
I had my big ultrasound, and the main
thing is the baby is healthy and
everything looks normal. I also found out
it's a girl, I'm not terribly surprised as
I've had strong feelings from early in my
pregnancy that this baby is a girl.
I should add--the ultrasound was just
amazing! Best of all was seeing a healthy
baby; she even yawned and got the hiccups
during the ultrasound. Her heartbeat was
158 bpm, and she weighs 12 oz. She is
measuring right on track.
My recovery has been solid so far, and I
have no reason to worry about relapsing,
but I do worry about maybe passing on ED
issues to my daughter. I know males can be
affected by EDs too, but statistically,
the incidence is much lower.
How do those of you with children manage
not to pass along ED issues? Of course,
staying solid in my recovery will go a
long way to help, and I also have to be
careful about what I say regarding my body
image/her body image. I do not want my
daughter to have to deal with this issue.
I want also to be sure that she has good
self-esteem; I never had much self-esteem
growing up Even my natural
talents like writing and art, I felt
terribly insecure over, mainly because my
father scoffed at them and claimed they
weren't practical and would never get me
anywhere in the world. Now, I look at some
of the artwork and writing I did growing
up, and I realize it was very, very good,
but I wish I could have felt such pride in
it at the
time.
Congrats with your baby and your life
achievements! I am sure you shall deal
well with this question too.
Any way this is wise of you to think about
the issue.
I was anorexic, then bulemic and now
bingeing. My next step is to be free of
binge too. Would these problems not arise
in my life if anyone in my family had a
normal eating habit? My mom -a beautiful
slim woman and a great professional- is
light bulemic. To be beutiful-skinny and
perfect was a dinasty must for me. So I
ended up with bulemia. Time to time I try
to help my mom in a joking way and want
her to understand her eating habits are
not good for her. Eating habits are
important to teach to the child but I know
families were one child girl is normal the
sister has ED. Thus even if my mom had had
no ED I may have had it.
Even my natural
talents like writing and art, I felt
terribly insecure over, mainly because my
father scoffed at them and claimed they
weren't practical and would never get me
anywhere in the world. Now, I look at some
of the artwork and writing I did growing
up, and I realize it was very, very good,
but I wish I could have felt such pride in
it at the time.
