Not every woman releases a liquid when she orgasms.

There are two kinds of orgasms.
1. Clitoral: the "official" orgasm. Most women can orgasm by stimulating the clitoris. This, to my knowledge, does not normally result in squirting or female ejaculation of any kind. Sometimes when the vaginal walls contract during clitoral orgasm, they may squeeze out some of the vaginal secretions, but this is not actually "female ejaculation".

2. Vagina or G-Spot Orgasm: The debated orgasm. Why? Well for one thing, not every woman seems to have a g-spot. Others have one and just don't orgasm from g-spot stimulation alone. G-spot stimulation for a woman often feels like she really needs to pee. This is because the g-spot is located next to some hypothetical glands that surround the urethra (that's the tube connected to your bladder that you pee out of). Stimulation of these glands makes them secrete a liquid into the urethra and it gets held there until the woman orgasms. Then the liquid is shot out with the same muscles used for urinating. This is called female ejaculation and/or squirting.

I hope this answers your question!

so it doesnt come out of the vagina ? i alwyas thought it did

Nope. True female ejaculate comes from the urethra, not the vagina.

Hmm, well I can only have a clitoral orgasm and when it happens I get a huge rush of liquid out my vagina, it's a different consistency to my normal 'wetness' so is this ejaculate or not?? It's a clear liquid and quite watery, totally different to normal discharge.

That does sound consistent to female ejaculate. It's possible of course that it might come out during clitoral orgasm, Id just never heard of it until now.

It's very likely that the clear liquid you described is coming out of your urethra. The urethra is very very close to your vagina and during sex it would be indistinguishable as to where it was actually coming from.

It's never happened during sex, only DIY, and I sort of put my finger in there and I can feel it pulse and my finger is really wet with the clear stuff.
Maybe I'm just weird

This 'female ejaculation' thing has only happened to me a couple of times but funnily enough, its never been when iv orgasmed! It feels like somewhere has just bn stimulated n all of a sudden its very very wet but its never actually been through orgasm - weird, i know!

Both you and Q have had very normal experiences.