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Wish Me Luck Please! Posted: 07-30-07 11:14am
Tommorow morning at 10.30am me and Dom
have a meeting with the housing officer,
our application was accepted and
apparently it's very promising that we'll
get somewhere within the next three months
or so *yay* we
finally get to be a proper family *yay*
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 07-30-07 11:18am
Yay! Good luck! How's the mood coming
along Danni?
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 07-30-07 11:20am
sillyakchick
wrote:
Yay! Good luck! How's the
mood coming along
Danni?
I'm doing alot better now thanks, i
started my anti-depressants last friday
and i feel so much better, i still can't
say that i love Mika properly but i'm
bonding with her more and more as every
day passes so it's only a matter of time
hopefully
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 07-30-07 11:26am
Dannzibelle
wrote:
sillyakchick
wrote:
Yay! Good luck! How's the
mood coming along
Danni?
I'm doing alot better now thanks, i
started my anti-depressants last friday
and i feel so much better, i still can't
say that i love Mika properly but i'm
bonding with her more and more as every
day passes so it's only a matter of time
hopefully
It gets better, I promise. {{{{{Hugs}}}}}
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sick_mama17
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Posted: 07-31-07 01:58am
Thats fast, you guys are lucky. Goodluck
at the meeting today
Morgan
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Becky
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Posted: 07-31-07 02:04am
yay good luck danni hope you get somewhere
soon!
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 07-31-07 03:32am
Eeep! She's going to be here in less than
an hour I'm so nervous, i
really want her to like me. I hope Mika
wakes up soon because she woke up just
before 7 for a feed and then went back to
sleep in my bed so i haven't been able to
get her dressed or make my bed yet and i
know the housing officer will want to see
my room to see how cramped it is
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 07-31-07 07:18am
Good luck!
How old is Mika? That could have a lot to
do with bonding. I think I've said this
before but I wish people would stop saying
that you'll have some instant bond with
your baby. Some people do but not
everyone. I know I didn't, I asked my mum
about it and she said that she didn't
either. I didn't feel anything much
towards Chu for the first few months of
his life. I had moments where I thought
he was cute but that was about it. I knew
that I loved him but I didn't always feel
that love. Usually only when he was
sleeping. At first he
seemed like some alien life form intent on
robbing me of everything that I was. I
don't think that I was fully prepared for
the reality of a babies' needs. It gets
easier and better the bigger they get.
You actually start to sleep again which
really helps. Hmmm... this is
interesting... I think I'll start a post
asking about it. Hang in there it gets
better every day!!!
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kaerbear
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Posted: 07-31-07 07:30am
good luck danni. whatever you do, don't
worry about the bonding thing. putting
pressure on yourself will only make things
worse. the hormones and depression are
surely to blame and it has nothing to do
with you not being a loving mother.
i don't know if this has anything at all
to do with what you're going through or
not, but babies don't have a ton of
personality at first. they kind of just
sleep a lot and don't interact with you
now as much as they do when they get a
little older and that can make them seem
like they don't need you sometimes.
sometimes it just takes time to get to
know their personality.
even if it is taking time to bond with
mika, just try to hold her and make eye
contact with her. even newborns like eye
and skin contact and they like to imitate
your facial expressions and sometimes the
sounds you make. i'm sure you know all of
this as you are with her every day. i
just hope you are feeling better soon.
*yay* we
finally get to be a proper family *yay*
I'm so nervous, i
really want her to like me. I hope Mika
wakes up soon because she woke up just
before 7 for a feed and then went back to
sleep in my bed so i haven't been able to
get her dressed or make my bed yet and i
know the housing officer will want to see
my room to see how cramped it is
At first he
seemed like some alien life form intent on
robbing me of everything that I was. I
don't think that I was fully prepared for
the reality of a babies' needs. It gets
easier and better the bigger they get.
You actually start to sleep again which
really helps. Hmmm... this is
interesting... I think I'll start a post
asking about it. Hang in there it gets
better every day!!!