Feelings for someone you can't have a hard to get over. Specially when your young and it sounds like the two of you are pretty close which makes it harder. Your doing the right thing by being her friend and helping her when she needs you. This may benefit you in the long run if things don't work out for her and the other boyfriend she will depend on you for a shoulder to lean on because you have been there for her. Friendship between a man and a women can sometimes turn into something more because love becomes stronger between those who have a good friendship to start with. So to harm yourself could only waste an opportunity that could come your way in the future. Don't give up hope and you would be better if you could find a lady friend as well because this other gal might see you with someone else and her true feeling could come to the surface as well. She does know of your feelings towards her so she may have thought about it herself on whether she has the same. Well I hope I have been of some help, you just need to hold your chin up and stay strong your too young to give up.

Good Luck!!
Heather

Well, I've been in this exact same situation. I'm 17 now and getting ready to be a senior in high school, I know how it feels dude. I'm physically hideous, so I've never had a girl friend.. but that never stopped me from crushing. The best advice I could say is to look around and find someone else, try making friends with other girls and seeing how that turns out. Hopes this helps.. though this is just going from one depressed person to another.

Hello,
I am glad that you have come to ehealth forum, you will definitely get a lot of help and some good advice here. As a single guy who's been hurt a lot, just know always that you are not alone when it comes to feeling these painful things. I have experienced what you have and it feels like the worst pain on earth. Just the feeling of being so close to someone who belongs to someone else/someone who doesn't like you the same way is rough, too rough. When you are faced with something like this, it is best to wish someone well and walk away. Walk away STRONG and FIRM, you must for you. If this girl is for you she will come for you, but don't wait for her. She knows exactly what she is doing, and it comes to a point where you have to say to yourself "if she wants to be my girlfriend she would be my girlfriend." Everyone is in charge of their actions and who they choose to date and not date.
Especially in high school everything seems so black and white, end all be all. Its certainly not, now that would be something sad if high school determined your life. Just wait until you get to college or even other social experiences, you will see how much high school and many of the people in it don't matter so much. Even with all that I have said, i know there is the now. Everything sounds great, but there is the now that you have to deal with. All i would say is to stay strong and look for a brighter day, it is coming no doubt. This girl should have more respect for you, she is using you as a support, which is great because you are there for her. But at the same time its not fair because you have feelings for her and she knows this. As much as you care for her you cannot let her use you. Talk to her and let her know that you deserve a relationship that enriches your heart, not one that steps on it. If she cannot give you this you must move on. If you have not seen a professional counselor, I would. I have been to a lot of counseling and it has helped me tremendously, when you find the RIGHT one you can really sit down, sort things out, kind of look into her head, find out why you feel the way you do, its wonderful.
I could talk forever about this just because I know how extremely difficult it is to deal with all of this! Just from the bottom of my heart with all sincerity I know how you feel. The one thing though that no book or person can really prepare you for is that women often do things that makes no sense. I don't think theres too much thats sweeter or more beautiful than a woman, but they won't always make sense and they don't make sense to most men, so keep that in mind. I say that because it will help you to have a positive outlook on all of this and just know that she may not know exactly what she wants so it doesn't make any sense that you would know. Keep your head held high, remember that you are the one thats important and you are the light in this situation. Feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to. Sorry this is so long.

I think that what heather wrote to you was vey good and hopefully that should help you solve your problem. U said that the girl knows that u like her so y don't u try and find anothe girlfriend...make it look like ur moving on and maybe she will realise her true feelings for you. Sometimes these things don't work out but only time will tell.
If she were to split up with her boyfriend she knows that you've always been there 4 her which is good. You carry on with your life try to look towards the future and remember that you're number 1 and that's who u shud take care of. If its in ur fate then u'll hook up. Just remember you're young and have lots of potential so please keep ur head hel up high and think positive.....you've got lots to live for!( u may not now but u will realise later down the line).