did he finger you before hand? if so his nalis might have cut you

It is very possible you have a bruise, cut, irritation, or a friction burn down there. Give vaginal penetration a rest for a few days, you should know there are plenty of ways to entertain each other, hehe ^^

no he did not finger me and we are resting for a few days... but it kinda sux... i just want it to not hurt next time we try.

That happens to my girl sometimes. We usually take a couple days off and she's fine. Did he wear a condom?

no... i am ashamed... we could not resist...

mmmm was going to say could have been irritation from latex.

nope, couldnt be... sometimes we use astroglide, others we dont use lube... but both our sexual desires were so strong that we just got rite to it... and i think the new position or how fast we were going could have torn it or stretched it but i still dont know!

It's easier to tear than you think.... otherwise, you might not have been lubricated enough??

you have simply over stretched your perineum - the thin piece of skin between the vagina and the anus.

because this was a new position and I expect you went deeper than you realised too.

there's no long term damage or anything - you just need to make sure that you use plenty of lube from now on.

it'll be a tad sore for a few days and the same thing might happen the next few times until this piece of skin gets used to being stretched.

you can help things along - lay in a comfortable position and using some lube slide the tips of your thumbs (palms facing down) into the entrance of your vagina and gently stretch the skin out and downwards until you feel a slight tingle.
Gentle use your finger tips to massage the lube into this skin while it is stretched, then allow it to relax again.
repeat several times and you should find that this skin begins to stretch much easier.

This is also recommended for women nearing labour as this will help reduce the risk of having a tear or episiotomy.

Yeah, my perinium creates a bit of a "shelf" too, a tiny one but it does make a difference. I may try stretching too; since that's the only place I ever have pain during sex (aside from my cervix, ow!) and it just got jabbed during my pap smear (again, ow!).

yeaaaa i get that...but I wasnt on b.c. so I dealt with it...now i'm on b.c. and i really really dont wanna go back to using condoms too bc of the irritation, but i still freak out even on the b.c.

I have had two kids and my last baby was 2 and a half years ago me and my bf have been having a lot of sex lately , and doing new positions and where i was stitched up has stretched and kind of opened , its so embarrassin and just wondering if its going to make me loose now or some thing?

Its so sore when he goes to finger me and stuff , like under my vagina where i was stitched is now tore open, so doe that mean sex isnt gonna feel awsome any more and im not going to be tight no more? also will it not heal if i jst dont have sex for a week or so?

I tore mine the other month-Me and my bf were on a chair and he was sitting on the chair and i went reli fast on top-how fast were you?If it was a wide chair you could have opened your legs to much.Try some oral sex for the next few days and do lots of massaging his penis-and use lube next time, as it dead nice and makes it more comfortable I have tore it twice before but i dont care i am in love with ahvin sex