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Q: Friends With Guys

asked by: Aryeani on July 25th, 2007

Experienced User

I know a lot of girls are like this, so I'm curious what others may think. My best friend is a guy. We've known each other for about 4 years now and we're really close. I can tell him anything and the same goes for him with me. We had a relationship a while back, but that's long gone and we've both moved on to different people. End of story there, but I also have a lot of friends that are guys. I'm an affectionate person and I hug pretty much everyone, whether they're male of female. The problem is that people always give me trouble for being closer friends with guys than I am with girls. I've even been called a promiscuous person a few times by people assuming that I'm just friends with guys to try to get some action or something, but that is definitely not the case. I have a boyfriend and am completely devoted to him. My bf doesn't mind that I'm friends with guys because he trusts me and knows that I wouldn't do something with any of them, even my best friend. It's just other people who tell me things.

Do you ladies think it's wrong of people to tell me things about being friends with so many guys? What's your view on girls being close to guy friends or vice versa?

Replies(6)

kaerbear

replied on July 25th, 2007

Most Diplomatic Poster

i've found at certain times in my life that friendships with guys can be a lot less complicated than those with girls. i have had good girl friends but i sometimes found i had more in common with the guy friends, we just had the same interests and there was never anything sexual about it. i think it's fine. it's your life anyway. if you aren't hurting anyone then don't let people get to you.

young Girl

replied on July 25th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

boys are less complicated,less drama, less cattyness and all around funner to hang around with

me and travis are best freinds. we can do anything with each other and feel comfortable
Very Happy

Birch

replied on July 25th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Your friendship decisions shouldn't be about gender, but about what kind of person they are. People who call you names because you have friends regardless of gender are ridiculous and not worth batting an eye at.

Tylanas

replied on July 25th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

I had way more male friends as a young kid and in fact hated socializing with girls because I found them to be petty. That view hasn't changed much, but guys became d--ks when they hit puberty, so then my friendships just became a search for anyone who wouldn't judge me or others based on what we wore, thought, or were interested in. When I got to college, I had more male friends once more (due to being a nerd, there are just more guys), but I met a lot of great gals as well. Right now I'd say I'm balanced gender-wise.

kaerbear

replied on July 26th, 2007

Most Diplomatic Poster

i've had girl friends call me a lesbian (when they know i'm not) and a man hater and a woman hater because i went through a long period of time where i didn't date but i had a couple of close male friends that i liked hanging out with. people who say things like that are not true friends. i've heard a lot of people say that guys can be real friends but women can't because a guy will always choose his buddy over a girl but girls will stab each other in the back for the sake of a guy. i think it's really unfortunate that women get this label of being catty and backstabbing because of things like that. there are women who can be real friends, who are supportive, non-competitive and genuine, but we all seem to get painted with the same brush sometimes. i agree with birch though, gauge your potential friends by their actions and their character rather than their gender.

Chezzy

replied on July 29th, 2007

Experienced User

I also had alot of male friends more than female, I think they are great company and a blast to go out with to a club of something..Although there girlfreinds may not think so lol.. Laughing

As long as its platonic, I dont see what the bother is.. Wink

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