Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 128 Location: Edinburg, Texas, United States
Friends With Guys Posted: 07-25-07 17:00pm
I know a lot of girls are like this, so
I'm curious what others may think. My best
friend is a guy. We've known each other
for about 4 years now and we're really
close. I can tell him anything and the
same goes for him with me. We had a
relationship a while back, but that's long
gone and we've both moved on to different
people. End of story there, but I also
have a lot of friends that are guys. I'm
an affectionate person and I hug pretty
much everyone, whether they're male of
female. The problem is that people always
give me trouble for being closer friends
with guys than I am with girls. I've even
been called a promiscuous person a few
times by people assuming that I'm just
friends with guys to try to get some
action or something, but that is
definitely not the case. I have a
boyfriend and am completely devoted to
him. My bf doesn't mind that I'm friends
with guys because he trusts me and knows
that I wouldn't do something with any of
them, even my best friend. It's just other
people who tell me things.
Do you ladies think it's wrong of people
to tell me things about being friends with
so many guys? What's your view on girls
being close to guy friends or vice versa?
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kaerbear
Most Diplomatic Poster
Joined: 10 Apr 2007 Posts: 1557 Location: ,
Posted: 07-25-07 17:30pm
i've found at certain times in my life
that friendships with guys can be a lot
less complicated than those with girls. i
have had good girl friends but i sometimes
found i had more in common with the guy
friends, we just had the same interests
and there was never anything sexual about
it. i think it's fine. it's your life
anyway. if you aren't hurting anyone then
don't let people get to you.
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young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
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Posted: 07-25-07 21:12pm
boys are less complicated,less drama, less
cattyness and all around funner to hang
around with
me and travis are best freinds. we can do
anything with each other and feel
comfortable
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Birch
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Joined: 07 Nov 2005 Posts: 4037 Location: Bliss,
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Posted: 07-25-07 23:45pm
Your friendship decisions shouldn't be
about gender, but about what kind of
person they are. People who call you
names because you have friends regardless
of gender are ridiculous and not worth
batting an eye at.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 07-25-07 23:57pm
I had way more male friends as a young kid
and in fact hated socializing with girls
because I found them to be petty. That
view hasn't changed much, but guys became
d--ks when they hit puberty, so then my
friendships just became a search for
anyone who wouldn't judge me or others
based on what we wore, thought, or were
interested in. When I got to college, I
had more male friends once more (due to
being a nerd, there are just more guys),
but I met a lot of great gals as well.
Right now I'd say I'm balanced
gender-wise.
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kaerbear
Most Diplomatic Poster
Joined: 10 Apr 2007 Posts: 1557 Location: ,
Posted: 07-26-07 00:01am
i've had girl friends call me a lesbian
(when they know i'm not) and a man hater
and a woman hater because i went through a
long period of time where i didn't date
but i had a couple of close male friends
that i liked hanging out with. people who
say things like that are not true friends.
i've heard a lot of people say that guys
can be real friends but women can't
because a guy will always choose his buddy
over a girl but girls will stab each other
in the back for the sake of a guy. i
think it's really unfortunate that women
get this label of being catty and
backstabbing because of things like that.
there are women who can be real friends,
who are supportive, non-competitive and
genuine, but we all seem to get painted
with the same brush sometimes. i agree
with birch though, gauge your potential
friends by their actions and their
character rather than their gender.
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Chezzy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jan 2007 Posts: 152
Posted: 07-29-07 20:27pm
I also had alot of male friends more than
female, I think they are great company and
a blast to go out with to a club of
something..Although there girlfreinds may
not think so lol.. As
long as its platonic, I dont see what the
bother is..
As
long as its platonic, I dont see what the
bother is.. 
