First, have you try kegel exercises?

They help strengthen the muscle responsible for holding your load as you like to say it.

Second, calm down.

Nobody is expected to be a "sex god". You should know that it is not the performance and the "special moves" that makes sex fun and exciting.

It is actually your mentality.

Sex is not a test, it is just a way for two people to connect.

Know that even if one is not "good" in bed, sex can still be fun. Try asking her what feels good and where she likes to be touched. Most will gladly tell you.

Also try oral sex too. Most women reach orgasm more frequently during oral sex then vaginal.

Oh, here's something that most guys forget: hands. You have them, so use them. A man's penis is not the only equipment he has. He also has his two hands, his tongue, his words, his lips, and finally his penis. By the way the "equipments" are listed in order of importance, the hands being the most important and the man's penis being the least.

Remember, exploring your partner's body can be fun and most won't mind it.

You don't have to be able to give great sex every single time, nobody can. So no pressure, okay??

Hopefully knowing these little tidbit of information will make you feel better.

Lastly, about your wife, just love her. Make her feel like she is the best looking gal in the world. Accept her, understand her, thank her everyday for the small things she does for you.

Hug her, hold her hands at the most random times. Kiss her hello and goodbye. Kiss her because you can. Bring your friends over and show off your wife.

If your wife questions your motives, just tell her the truth: "Because I love you so much." :]

Remember, the time, when you dressed your best because you wanted to make a good impression on your first date with her? How do you dress now? Honestly, I don't think I would want to have sex with a slob with stains all over his shirt. So dress your best everyday.

Have a better attitude. Smile more, laugh more. Make her smile and laugh more. Tell her jokes, funny stories, make funny faces, or just tickle her.

Try flirting with her, when was the last time you actually tried?

Compliment her. Tell her you love the breaky (breakfast) she makes for you, tell her she did a great job for cleaning up the house so well. You get the idea. :]

Hey, do you remember when you were a teenager you used to go on marathon kissing sessions? Try it with her. Sex isn't the only way to express your love for her. Caressing and kissing works just fine. Also don't forget hugging. Personally I like to sneak up on my girlfriend and give her a hug from behind. Then during the hug from behind I rub my cheek against hers. She just loves it!

Try this: Listen to music. Play some fun upbeat music from your stereo or computer. Life is alot better when it is put to music and also it gives a reason and a chance to randomly swing her around and dance with her.

Try songs like Forever by The Veronicas or Kiss Me by New Found Glory.

But you should know It doesn't have to be fun upbeat music. It could be anything you want, so be creative.

She has a eating disorder? Well, talk to her about it. Take some time off and sit down or lay down together and just talk. Don't get angry, don't raise your voice, talk as if you are trying to caress her with your words. If you don't trust yourself to be able to calmly talk back then just smile and nod. It does wonders. Remember, actually listen to her.

If she refuses to talk about it, then just smile and say "Okay, honey. Tell me when you feel like it." Then ask her every other day about it. Or if you think that's too much, then ask her once a week about her problem. Just let her know, her problems are constantly on her mind and that you would love to have her share her problems and hopefully reach a solution together.

If her weight is the problem, then go running together. It's one of the best cardiovascular exercise that gets your heart pumping and who knows? It might just lead to some heavy petting. Researchers do say that exercise increases one's libido. If she doesn't like running then do yoga or pilates. Or just ask her: "Hey, Honey~ What exercise do you want to try today?"

Also try cooking for her. It will be one less thing for her to stress out about. (Planning dinners is harder than you think) By cooking for her, you'll be able to plan small surprises. may I suggest Ethiopian food?

If you can't cook, then just help out in the kitchen. Again, one less thing for her to worry about. If she doesn't let you or you're the pretty bad when it comes to being a assistant chef then do some house chores. Why? Because it is one less thing she has to worry about.

If you do your best to do all the things I recommended you to do, then I'm sure at the very least she'll be happier, a lot happier. :]

Just so you know, I may not have a wife (yet) but I do live like this everyday with my girlfriend, Teresa. I swear, we never fight or get angry at each other. Life is a bliss when you know tomorrow is going to be a another fun day with your gal. :]

Anyway, I hope my advices help you.

Wish you the best of luck!!

Cheers,

Peter