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queenblight
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I'm 39 years old. My husband caught me cheating on him with one of his friends (gosh I'm a trash) which was also happily married. I started seeing this guy on some factory opening cocktail party, I knew him and he knew me we got drunk that night and we ended up in a hotel.Because I was in another city I didnt think that Tony will ever find out . Well he found out, and he hired detectives to follow me and tape me.Now the guy is getting a divorce too. We have 2 beautiful kids a girl and a boy and I threw it all away...
Oh my god while I'm typing I cant believe what have I done with my life... He treated me like a queen, we trusted eachother completly, the sex was great, he was well situated and respected man. I made a mess ,brought shame and darkness to our family... Now he's gonna get the kids
All his family hate me now, and if you believe me I cant stand looking myself in the mirror, I'm not sure what I'm gonna do... I jsut wish to go back in time somehow and change it all. Tried to talk to him to give me a second chance but he said that I desecrated his most precious thing in his life.. on this world - his family...our family.. Is so hard it just seems there is no way out... And there isnt a way out..
I needed to write this down... Tnx for the time .. If you have any advice
please write.. I'm suicidal sigh!
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byron p
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| queenblight wrote: |
| Hello
I'm 39 years old. My husband caught me cheating on him with one of his friends (gosh I'm a trash) which was also happily married. I started seeing this guy on some factory opening cocktail party, I knew him and he knew me we got drunk that night and we ended up in a hotel.Because I was in another city I didnt think that Tony will ever find out . Well he found out, and he hired detectives to follow me and tape me.Now the guy is getting a divorce too. We have 2 beautiful kids a girl and a boy and I threw it all away... Oh my god while I'm typing I cant believe what have I done with my life... He treated me like a queen, we trusted eachother completly, the sex was great, he was well situated and respected man. I made a mess ,brought shame and darkness to our family... Now he's gonna get the kids
All his family hate me now, and if you believe me I cant stand looking myself in the mirror, I'm not sure what I'm gonna do... I jsut wish to go back in time somehow and change it all. Tried to talk to him to give me a second chance but he said that I desecrated his most precious thing in his life.. on this world - his family...our family.. Is so hard it just seems there is no way out... And there isnt a way out..
I needed to write this down... Tnx for the time .. If you have any advice please write.. I'm suicidal sigh! |
Well, first of all if your feeling suicidal I would seek help!!! Talk to a counsler or a unbiast freind. Second, we all make mistakes in life we are human. unfortunately your husband will not forgive you. I have been married thirteen years and if my wife was curious and stepped out I would forgive her. That makes me wonder if your husband truly loved you? Im not trying to hurt your feeling at all, but if you really love someone unconditionally you will find ways to work through your problems know matter how big of small.
If getting back together is not an option don't give up hope. Never give up!!! It will take some time but I asure you some day you will fall in love again.
best of luck
bp
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queenblight
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DPantelones
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krism1
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