That is true. My neighbor just got back from Iraq around April, and he said it was sometimes scary as heck, but he's ready to go back. He just re-enlisted for another 3 years. He has a wife and 2 young kids.

That must be so awful. I couldn't imagine being parted from my hsband for longer than a few days.

i agree!!!!

ok well this is gunna come out health forum but my husbands in the Navy which equals water so he knew hed be deployed but we were more expecting a ship.

and you can say they chose it all you want no matter what branch they are in but its a good thing they did cuz if more ppl believed like yall we wouldnt have any military huh?

mine, dianes and vanessas husbands protect the country so u dont have to. enjoy your freedom next time you feel like being insensitive.

**edited to add** not everyone has the option of going to college and getting a degree for a job they want and the military gives them that option. money doesnt come easy and when its go to college and work part time or join the military to support your family you gotta do whats best for the family.

sorry dani, but i really don't see a problem with what i said nor did i make it out to sound like people who join the military are stupid.

did they choose, for whatever reason, to join? yes.

did they know that there was a war going or that a war could be in the future? yes.

did they know that since there is a war going on that there was a pretty good chance that they'd be sent over? yes.

that's all i'm saying. i'm not talking down about the troops, i support them and what they're fighting for.

i wish there was no war. i wish these men and women could stay with their families. i wish them all a safe and quick return.

just because i (and others here) don't have husbands over there it doesn't mean that i don't have family members and friends there.

I certainly wasn't trying to be insensitive when I said it was their choice, and I apologize if I came across that way.
I do appreciate the men and women who are protecting our seas, air, and land so I can enjoy the freedoms of my beautiful and free country.
The fact is that many of the people who are in the service make it a life long career. They have been to Afghanastan, Iraq, or wherever and they re-enlist. That is a choice. My neighbor has had numerous job offers with in his field with the training he received in the marines, here but feels like he belongs in the service. Does it make it easier on his family? No, I'm sure it doesn't but he's doing what's right for him. I have the utmost respect for the men and women in the service and the families that they have to leave behind.

Just be proud of how brave your husband is...it takes alot of balls to do what hes doing, im only 15 and i respect troops very much, becuase i know i cant do what they do.

Can we leave all non-supportive comments out of this post please? Reality and expectation are two different things, let's just show support for Diane as she deals with the reality of her husband being deployed.

there is no reason to say the army "sucks" for taking them away.

Which Diane never said so I don't know why her post has to be ruined with this. Why not make a new post about it instead?

WoW that is so hard on you. I am soo sorry! My friend just moved to New Brunswick and wont be posted for 5 years this way he can spend time with his family while he's in training. It was a big move but well worth it. He's been all over the place. STUPID WAR!

the war is pretty stupid but we knew hed be going, just wish he didnt have to. Its just now he is actually gone for real. Its different this time because when he was in basic i was till living at my moms house. and he could call like everyday. The longest he was gone here was a month wich wasnt to bad but thats because iknew he was just training, now hes gone and its real and people can die. Thats what makes this one totally different. I just hope the war ends soon so i dont have to go through this again but ya never know. It feels like times dragging by. its only the 2nd day.

i'm sorry you have to go through this. i know you both knew he'd be going but still can't make it any easier on you. i personally couldn't marry a soldier. it would be too heartbreaking every time he went and i'd end up resenting him for it.

I'm sure it really sucks being in your position Diane. I can't image having to be separated for so long, and not knowing the outcome.
BUT I'm sure all of us will try our best to help you occupy the time! Do you have MSN, AIM, Yahoo or myspace messenger?


I do agree with Bridget, this is something people sign up for. That doesn't mean it makes it easy when a loved one is shipped off to war tho, and I don't think she meant it that way at all.

I understand completely what bridget meant. My husband knew signing up what could happen. But we were ok with it and he signed up for the army anyways. Its more of just dreading the day thats coming when they actually have to leave. Once you have a date it sucks even if it is months away then it creeps up on you fast and before you know it there gone.
I have yahoo and aim. my sister keeps telling me to download msn but idont see a point lol all my family has yahoo and aim so i just use that and jason made a yahoo name a few mths back and has an aol name as well.
I got bored and wrote him an email. I think he tried calling this morning, there was a weird number on my phone i was asleep though and the fan is really loud in our room so i didnt even hear the phone ring so im gonna start taking it to bed with me. i missed his call yesterday morning too cuz i was asleep. Sucks i keep missing his calls. but oh well i guess not much i can do.

even if u weren't trying to be incensetive there was no need to point out well that's what the chose. coulda kept it to yourself n we would have had this discussion.
and chase I said the military sucks. illsay whatever I please about it cuz I'm married to it. obviously I didn't mean it like o it sucks cuz I'm the one defending it. the next time one of ur kids says I want daddy think about the fact that I have tell macy he's at work until after her 3rd birthday

Diane, I knew you understood what people were saying. I PM'd you.

i felt really bad when i was coming back from dropping jason off another guy was putting his kids in the car , it was worse because they are old enough to know where hes going and how long hes gonna be gone for, right now joseph doesnt fully understand it and jordynne doesnt either so it makes it easier since there concept of time isnt quite the same.
I think the military sucks mostly because the way they go about doing things specially on anormal work day and stuff. Sometimes they dont think logically, they are morons . Whats worse is they tend to mes sup there pay too, we had to pay the military b ack $2,000 cuz the army screwed it up. and one time he only got paid $166 luckily we had money in savings but the military sucks at times but the deployment thing i knew it would happen marrying him , we got married when he graduated basic training. So i knew it . Thats life. Thats what happens when ya marry into themilitary.

i'm so sorry girls

fine say what you want but i am an army brat and i can tell you what my mother never ever said the military sucked. dont bite the hand that feeds you!!!!
the army is not that bad!!!