im sorry
well try not to think about it

why do you think you have an std?

hi the_girlfriend.

I am a worrier....its what makes me take action, even for the slightest things, why I went to the GUM clinic today.

Sooooo scared and I need to wait 2 weeks to actually get tested, so I need to go through these two weeks with doubt in my head.

I just want my head cleared of these thoughts....but I am the biggest worrier in the world.

Sooooo scared, feel like crying and breaking down.

Worried I'm gonna lose out on this chance of a degre......I need to do this one exam to get it!

I'v got so many things goin on in my head......was the sex whats made my balanitis worse and esculate.........or is it an STD......whats this abdomen pain....

I hate my mind, really scared

I know it's a lot easier said that done, but don't worry about it. Worrying won't fix anything. It won't make the time go by faster. You might be just fine, so no sense worrying over nothing!

Many STDs can be treated too. So even if you do have something, you still might be just fine!

Consider it a learning experience. You'll probably be more careful now, right?

Hi

The main symptom that is really doing my head in is the abdominal pain....it seems like my bladder or prostate is sore or something....like when I go to sit down, or move around I can feel a horrible pain around the pubic hair area (whatevers behind it inside my body).

I'v never ever cleaned behind my foreskin lol.

Can balanitis cause an infection?

I done a home test specimen for chlamydia.

That has came back negative.

Suppose could have gonnorhea or something

I don't think it can cause an infection, but it can be caused by an infection.

"The condition often occurs due to the fungus Candida albicans, the same organism that causes vaginal yeast infections in women. Balanitis (which is also referred to as balanoposthitis) can be caused by a variety of other fungal or bacterial infections, or may occur due to a sensitivity reaction to common chemical agents....

Balanitis is usually a result of poor hygiene-for example, neglecting to bathe for several days. A failure to properly wash (or rinse) the area between the head and foreskin can lead to the development of fungal or bacterial infections that cause the condition. In other cases, balanitis may occur due to an allergic reaction: Some men may be sensitive to chemicals found in harsh soaps, laundry detergents, or contraceptive creams. Men who contract a sexually transmitted disease (STD) such as trichimoniasis may also develop symptoms."
http://www.healthatoz.com/healthatoz/Atoz/ common/standard/transform.jsp?requestURI=/ healthatoz/Atoz/ency/balanitis.jsp

So maybe you should look into getting tested for trich if you haven't already.

"Most men with trichomoniasis do not have signs or symptoms; however, some men may temporarily have an irritation inside the penis, mild discharge, or slight burning after urination or ejaculation."
http://www.cdc.gov/std/Trichomonas/STDFact -Trichomoniasis.htm

feel like crying.

Why did that girl have to EVER CONTACT ME!

He,

why worrying, worry can't solve your problem, why not go see a dr

hiya

I can't help myself.

I am a very shy....soft...passionate......nice person. I met this one girl for the first time. I was a virgin at the time. I didn't really like her personality but got talkin to her alot on msn....she stayed around the corner from me.

We decided to meet up. I ended up getting oral sex from her and few weeks later, maybe a month I had sex with her.

Now, some of the things she has said to me, has devasted myself and my thoughts. She said she has cancerous cells and cannot have children.....she told me before she's tried quite a few drugs.....coke.....ecstacy etc.

I am the most shyest person in the world.

What I feel is......she is deliberility out there looking for people to infect....like she wants to give others infection.

I hate her!

I am at university...have a car......have a part time job alongside uni....have loads of friends....never touched a drug in my life....don't litter.....I think I am a really really nice perosn.....and I feel like "WHY DID SHE PICK ME!?"

Wish I never ever ever ever ever met this girl. She is 22, nearly 23.

Sickened and now my head is completly messed up.

Now you're saying you hate her because she is going around looking for people to infect when so far, you have not even tested positive for any STDs?

I know you're very worried, but you have to stay focused and rational. So far, the only thing you have is balanitis, which is usually caused by poor hygiene. You even told us yourself that you never wash that area. So it sounds like you have no reason to lay any blame on this girl right now. You can't accuse her of something that you have no evidence for whatsoever.

Did you ever stop to think, maybe she chose you and was talking to you because she liked you? It sounds like you two talked for a little while and she opened up to you a bit. You told us yourself that you're going to school, have a job, have a car, and are a nice guy. So why would it be so far fetched for her to actually like you?

Maybe you're feeling this way out of regret and fear. It's ok to be afraid and to regret things a little. You can't dwell on it though. We can't change the past, and we certainly cannot blame other people for our mistakes.

Hi Llewellyn

Thanks for your comfort as it really does help me, specially in trying to pass the time for my results.

Her history scares me, BIG TIME though.

She is 22 years of age, nearly 23, and her ex boyfriend was 40. She has been with loads of people. She has cervix/cervical cancer and you can really only get that from high risk HPV infection, which means she's probably slept around to get it and I more than likely have that now. I think she also told me she used quite a few drugs before and started having sex at a very young age.

I'v tested negative with a home test kit for chlamydia. However still waiting for results from a urine sample for the doctors for Chlamydia again just incase the home kit was false.

The doctor gave me two urine samples...one for chlamydia and I'v forgot what the other one was for...maybe just general infection, can anyone recommend what that other urine test was for as I forgot what she said.

basically, she decied to take the "LOW" path...always in trouble, been charged with assault, in quite a bit of debt, I took the "GOOD" road. At last year university....have a very supportive family....have a good job....have a car and had EVERYTHING to look forward to. However, this one DIRTY promiscuous person has just about ruined my life.

So yeh, its not looking good at all

That's great that you went to the doctor to confirm your test results. You'll have to keep us updated on that.

Well, I agree that I find it a bit...icky for a girl of 22 to date a 40 year year old man. However, that's our opinion. Some people don't agree with us. So we can't really say she's a bad person or anything because of it.

You're right that you might have HPV now. However, there are many strains of HPV. Some cause things like plantar warts, others can cause cervical cancer, others cause genital warts. If she has the kind that can cause cervical cancer, the only concern there would be that if you got HPV, you could pass it on to other women. Other than that, it probably won't affect you at all since you don't have a cervix!

You can't assume she's dirty or sleeps around because she has HPV though. Many people have HPV. It's very common. You could even have HPV, yet you don't sleep around, right?

I agree with you; it sounds like she might have made a few bad choices in life. However, that does not necessarily make her a bad person. Maybe she was attracted to you because she wants to turn her life around. So don't assume the worst yet and don't blame her.

Even if she gave you something, I doubt she did it to be mean. Most of the time when people give someone an STD, it's because they don't even realize that they have something to pass on. And even if she did know she had something, you chose to not use protection, right? So you can't lay all the blame on her. You'll have to take some responsibility for this too. I am not saying this to be mean. I am saying this because when we admit what we did wrong, we can learn from it. If we just lay the blame on others, then it's like we're denying we had any part in it. It's tough to learn from something if we say it all wasn't our fault anyway.

My General Urine Infection specimen has came back all clear according to my doctors.

How the hell is that?

I'm sure theres something definetly wrong!

The reality is that JUST LIKE YOU, she only had to sleep with one single person who had HPV for her to get it. She didn't have to 'sleept around a lot'.

I know. I have HPV. Did I know I had HPV? Nope, not until I had cervical problems.

I don't want to lecture you, because you seem to be really concerned about this (fyi, high risk HPV very, very rarely causes any problems in males. Only females.) but you have just as much responsibility at protecting yourself as anyone. Why didn't you wear a condom? If she did give you something, you willingly took it (at the time). Regret is a terrible thing. Please always wear a condom in the future for EVERY sexual encounter. Better safe than sorry.

Also, because I think you should know this, cervical abnormalities due to HPV also rarely ever cause infertility. Meaning this girl can probably still get pregnant. I'm not sure why she'd say she couldn't have children... hopefully she wasn't trying to get pregnant.

STI's wouldn't show up in a general urine test would they?

If lab people are looking for infections, would the actually check for STI infections? I'm not sure?

*sigh*
I'm really not sure what's going on with you.
If you went to your doctor for an STI test that's what they would do.
they would take swabs from your penis and send those for analysis.

Cervical cancer is not only contracted from hpv and you do not have to sleep around to contract hpv.

stop blaming others from your current condition - you were the one who chose to sleep with this girl - no one forced you and you could have done the adult thing and used some protection.

Time to take responsibility for yourself hun.

my test result from the doctors for chlamydia was negative aswell.

I duno where this abdominal pain is coming from.....its CONSTANT! and I mean 24/7.

It's always there....I can always feel it down there. Sometimes its more painfull....and sometimes its just there, like I can feel like it.

Somtimes slightly discomfortable, sometimes its quite a bit sore.


The doctors are pretty much useless. I went to the doctors again, she phoned for my results, which were negative. Then had a feel of my stomache area and just below it. Then prescribed me for cream for balanitis. THat was it. I mean whats bloody wrong with me!?

I'm going to jump in front of a train...