This post me a bit lengthy, but it basically involves me dating a girl for 14 months now and she doesn't want a relationship. She knows how I feel about her as well.

She broke up with her bf, and we started talking right after that. I had no idea she had broken up or whatever. 2 months later I had fallen in love with her after talking to her almost every day from her calling or me calling. We started dating by going out every once in a while and with me going over her house or vic versa. We even met each other's parents!

We had lots of discussions about her not wanting a relationship. During the first few months it was because she loved her ex still, but doesnt want to be with him. Then it became she isn't ready because it's too early. Then it became she needed to find herself and set new standards. Then it became she needs to focus on her career. And now finally all she says "because I don't feel like having one and I don't need a reason."

Although I respect her and don't want to force a relationship on her, I can't help but feel like she's playing me almost...but I'm confident she isn't but I do wonder sometimes. She has a lot of guy friends, some of whom are pursuing her or atleast try to but she has made it clear I'm the only one that goes to her house and do other things....we don't have sex but making out is a regular occurence.

I'm basically giving her the attention a boyfriend would give her but she doesn't want a relationship now. All I am is a "close friend" with potential to be more, but at this point she wants to be single. Well...I don't. I want this to be a relationship but yet I can't let her go because I've tried in the past twice and it didn't go to plan, I love her to much to just let her go.

Should I just let her go? it has been 14 months now and counting. She wants me to wait for her, but I don't know if I could go any longer, each day just gets worse and worse and doubts start to cloud my mind.|

Thanks for any responses ahead of time.