For the past 6 months that I have been on the Pill, I haven't stressed too badly about becoming pregnant. My boyfriend and I do NOT use any backup method, but he usually pulls out. Well recently I have started college, and the stress of school and my future has made me particularly worried about pregnancy. I keep thinking, what would I do? My boyfriend and I couldn't raise a child, and I would never finish school. So I asked him to use a condom from now on, or at least until I make it into my school program. It really eases my mind. But I have to wonder, is it paranoid to use birth control (over 99% effective! And yes, I take it religiously) AND condoms? And also, even if birth control fails, are there any times of the month that are safer to have unprotected sex than others? Like the first week of your pills? That's when he didn't pull out this month, and I'm a little worried. Thanks!
i'm glad you posted this because I actually have the same exact concerns for the same reasons and you asked alot of questions that have been on my mind, i've been thinking about going back to condoms even thought i'm on b.c., but i'd hate to do that to my bf...i was thinking a spermacide instead of condoms again..i dunno...
It's true, there is nothing wrong with using condoms too, especially if you are really concerned about it. You really don't need to bother pulling out, though... it doesn't have that great of an effect.
When you are on the pill, there is no time of the month that you are more fertile. Until you are off the pill for over a week, you will never ovulate. Never. So therefore, you will never be fertile. I wouldn't avoid sex at any particular time, it seems useless. Remember that the pill works in three ways- it makes you not ovulate, it makes the cervix really a good barrier against sperm by thickening mucus, and it makes your uterine lining really uninhabitable. So to get pregnant, the sperm would have to get past your cervix (unlikely) and then find the nonexistent egg, and then embed in the uninhabitable lining of your uterus.
My feeling is, if all that happened, your pregnancy was an act of god. So keep taking your pills correctly, watch out for things like antibiotics and st. johns wort, and if you really need to, go ahead and use condoms. But don't worry too much.
I guess I just hear that one person with their story "i got pregnant on the pill" and it freaks me out..and you know its funny, because before the pill all I used was condoms..thats it, and even then I freaked out just a little but not as much..and whenever my friends on b.c. were worried I couldn't understand how, I just got it in my head that b.c. was fool proof so they're fine, but I know it isn't, the only foolproof was is abstinence, i guess the idea of unprotected sex is what has me freaked out...but I dont really like condoms and i dont wanna make him use them anymore..so i'll just have to get over it huh