My friend had endemetriosis, and i think it did cause more pain during sex..... but im not 100% sure.

Um, now about the sex thing, i think its important to talk about it before it happens, are you on Birth control right now???? and also, he will be really quick the first time because he wont be used to it, and it will be painful for you to.... Just make sure you do a lot of foreplay to ensure you are really well lubricated...

And about seeing eachother naked, give eachother a lot of compliments on your appearence to boost your confidence

Just because it's his first time doesn't mean he's going to blow his load fast.

Secondly, if sex is painful, she's doing something wrong. My first time wasn't painful at all.

I was on it for a while and couldn't stand it so I think we were planning on going the old fashioned way (condoms and such).

Thanks for the advice!

Any more advice is definitely helpful.

you do can have pain the first time you have sex due to tearing of your hymen. Not need to worry as it is normal and will go away. And also you can bleed. I bleed a lot but it all stopped when the hymen broke.

No you don't always have pain due to the hymen ripping. As has been told to you over and over, most girls have already broken their hymen by the time they have sex. These women have pain still, but it is because they are doing it wrong, and these women are the majority.

Really the first time i did it... It hurt.. He didnt even put it all the way in... Second time, he went all the way in and started working it out really slowly.. My boyfriend is super gentle....

Also, my x-friend has endemetriosis, and it would cause very painful periods, and also it would hurt he to have sex... Thats how the doctors found out she had endemetriosis.... Because of her symptoms

I think it's more to do with nerves as to why it can hurt, and inexperience but it doesn't always hurt, although that is a popular idea. It hurt for me first time (and every time after unfortunately) but I was expecting it to because that's what I'd always sort of been told, so maybe it's partly the expectation that it will hurt that makes it hurt.

So be reassured that it won't definitely hurt, it might, might not. you might bleed, might not.

Endo is an extenuating circumstance and not the norm.

If a woman has enough lube and the partners get her loose and turned on before going at it, sex shouldn't hurt.

I can tell the difference even after having sex hundreds of times. If my ex did oral on me before hand, I had no pain at all. If he didn't, or I tried to go to fast, it hurt.

sex and forepay does not make the vagina loose
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Right. Sex does not stretch the vagina permanently. What eiri means is that when a woman is not in the mood and not lubricated, sex may be difficult, painful, or impossible. Being in the mood makes the vagina expand, and being lubricated makes the penis slide in easier. So while the vagina isn't permanently changing, it may feel very different from one day to the next.

ohh lol sorry

Uh, yes foreplay does. That's the whole point of foreplay.

SEX doesn't permanantly loosen it, as I mentioned (I think), because I can still have painful sex now even after hundreds of times, if I am not properly lubed and loosened up beforehand by foreplay.

Hundreds?? Wow, you're a lucky woman..

lol... j/k

My first time didn't hurt one bit. It wasn't that great, but it didn't hurt. If you've never seen each other naked, I'd advise takling that one first. before you try have sex.

Lol. I dated a man for 3 years. I think that probably adds up to at least a hundred and fifty.

Foreplay isn't so much for "loosening up" the vagina as it is for lubricating it and getting each other more excited about going at it.

Everyone worries a lot about their first time, but it'll all be okay. You care about your boyfriend, and if he only lasts 30 seconds, well than so be it. All that means is that he's really turned on, and that's NOT going to be a turn off for you. It all comes from experience.

Talking about things first is good, but it can also make you overly critical of yourself and worry more about things, like seeing each other naked. Why don't you fill up a nice, warm bubble bath and turn all the lights out except for a candle a few feet away from the tub. Then bring your boy in there, shut the door, and start playfully undressing him. He probably won't worry so much about what he looks like with the lights out and will be so excited about you wanting him naked. Just enjoy each other in the bath and don't move too fast. If you have a feeling he's self conscious about a certain part of his body (maybe he's packed on extra pounds in his stomach or really hates his skinny legs) try not to dwindle there so he doesn't feel the need to be embarrassed. If the baths hot, you probably won't be able to stay in there more than 10 minutes, and this could be a great way to mention "taking it to the bedroom" for the first time. Leave the lights out, and don't worry about LOOKING at each other so much as enjoying it. It might not be as perfect as a movie the first time, and that's completely okay! You'd rather learn together than have him come to you and having his "routine" down just as well as he has down tying his shoes, you know? Especially not for your first time. Don't worry about the pain issue. Yes, it may not feel like heaven the first time, especially if you're not 100% confident with your body or sure of yourself, but it's nothing to dread. If "getting it in" is hard at first, just roll him over, climb on top of him, and spend some time kissing and just "feeling sexy" to get you more in the mood and try again. It's not going to feel unbearable, and I'm sure he'll be gentle. And if you do end up with endometriosis, I'm sure it may feel more uncomfortable, but you'll be lost in the moment and wanting to take this next step so bad that it'll be bearable.

Hope I have helped! Just try and relax.

also, I just wanted to add that my friend has IBS and she describes the cramps a lot like menstrual cramps. Do you ever feel gassy with them?

Try looking up symptoms of both endrometriosis and IBS or IBD before assuming anything. Even if it does end up to be endromet. it will be fine.