My boyfriend and I dated four years, then broke up for seven or eight months, and now we've been back together since March. We live 60 miles apart and I visit him on the weekends. Our current relationship has been better then our last (we lived together for 3 1/2 years before) but some things have happened that make me think he's cheating on me. Or maybe I'm not trusting and paranoid.
He has this girl for a friend and they work together at a bar and hang out once in a while. She doesn't seem like she's interested in him and I've even asked her if she ever did anything with my boyfriend. She said she made out with him once during the time he and I were broken up, but that was it. It's weird because she screws around with practically every guy who goes in that bar (including ones who have girlfriends or even married) so why wouldn't she go for my boyfriend?
Anyway, then I was cleaning my boyfriend's house last weekend (i'm such a good girlfriend, aren't I?) and I was unpacking some boxes to help him move in to his new apartment and I found a bra that wasn't mine (in fact, it was too small, which is amazing). I stomped over to the bar right away and asked my boyfriend. He claims that he used to have hot tub parties when he lived with his parents and that one of the girls must have left it in his room; this was before we even started dating again. It sounds believeable and my boyfriend is a total slob (he hadn't cleaned his room once since I moved out of his parents house) but I don't want to be taken for a sad, gullible sack.
So then the next day was his friend's wedding and everyone was drunk at the reception and apparently I made out with one of my boyfriend's firends and my boyfriend found out about it. That's pretty out of character for me, but I have to take everyone else's word for it. My boyfriend wasn't even that mad but he said, well now I get to make out with whoever I want.
Besides that stuff, our relationship is pretty good. We say we love each other all the time and he hates to see me leave on Sunday because we won't see eachother again until Friday. We do talk every day on the phone and there's nothing wrong with our sex life. I just don't want to be made a fool of. I mean, if he was cheating on me, why wouldn't he just admit it so I can stop wasting my time running up to see him every weekend? Why wouldn't he just go for the girl he's cheating on me with? Sorry this was so long. What do you think?