|miss optimistic wrote:|
|well, i wouldnt say that he will NEVER change.. BUT he has to do it on his own. and it could take several years to before he gets there too, and before you could trust him again. he really needs to get into a recovery program, and NO, you can't be with him as he goes through this. if he really is going to get help, than he has to do it solo. it is most likey it get worse before it gets better. if you two are truely meant to be than you will find your way back together another time. good luck.|
I'm new here and need some advice. I've been iwiht my bf for 10.5 years, living with him for 7 years. I did not know that he was a heavy drinker until I moved in with him. Needless to say his drinking has gotten worse over the years. After numerous times of trying to help him, telling him that I would leave if he did not stop drinking, he never did anything and yesterday I finally broke up with him. When he drinks he abuses me mentally and verbally (never physically) and that has got me tired. After I told him that I am breaking up he said he would stop drinking and that he is going to change, he kept begging me to give him a chance, and I feel terrible for leaving him as I do love him, but I'm just tired of all of these years putting up with the drinking and everything that comes with it. I feel so horrible and bad, as I see him cry and beg me for another chance, but I've giving him so many chances everyday that I stuck by him and did not leave was another chance. I'm confused I'm not sure if I am doing the right thing by leaving him...
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