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Grounded For Bad Grades?
Posted: 07-19-07 00:51am
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alot of people i know ave different views
on this one so i just thought id throw it
out there:
your child brings home a report card and
has went form an A to a C in math...should
they be grounded/punsihes for bad grades?
if so what should the consequences be?
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victoria16
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Posted: 07-19-07 00:59am
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I dont really think they should get in
trouble... a warning at that point but
thats it. They should be questioned as to
why thier grades are dropping though.
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Posted: 07-19-07 01:41am
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when i was younger i did get grounded for
SOME bad grades.
my mom only punished me when she knew i
wasn't using my full potential in class.
if i got a D in math she was okay with
that because she knew I had always always
always had problems in math and that if I
got a D it was better than an F and that I
really was trying. Still to this day I'm
horrible at math and have had 3 short
drawers at work because of it (  ) i hate math!
but if it was something like lanaguage
arts, where she knows i can get an A of
course she'd ground me or take things away
until I raised it and I don't blame her,
it taught me to work for what I want. But
she only grounded me when she knew I had
more potential than that.
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-19-07 11:07am
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| HcoBrunette06
wrote: | when i was younger i did get
grounded for SOME bad grades.
my mom only punished me when she knew i
wasn't using my full potential in class.
if i got a D in math she was okay with
that because she knew I had always always
always had problems in math and that if I
got a D it was better than an F and that I
really was trying. Still to this day I'm
horrible at math and have had 3 short
drawers at work because of it ( ) i hate math!
but if it was something like lanaguage
arts, where she knows i can get an A of
course she'd ground me or take things away
until I raised it and I don't blame her,
it taught me to work for what I want. But
she only grounded me when she knew I had
more potential than
that. |
i hate math too i mean i was okay
at it but i HATED IT
i think everyone has their strengths and
weaknesses and grounding or punishing a
kid for something thye are trying in but
arent good at (like math) is unfair
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Re: Grounded For Bad Grades?
Posted: 07-19-07 11:11am
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| the_girlfreind
wrote: | alot of people i know ave
different views on this one so i just
thought id throw it out there:
your child brings home a report card and
has went form an A to a C in math...should
they be grounded/punsihes for bad grades?
if so what should the consequences
be? |
haha my parents bargained with me...for As
I got $5 per A i earned...for Bs $3...C's
i got nothing since it was average..D's I
OWED them $3 and Fs I owed the $5 and if I
had ever earned a D or F in high school my
rents would have more than likely grounded
me yes lol..a C no..but it never was a
problem for me anyway, I got A's and
B's...made me some money 
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Posted: 07-19-07 11:11am
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i never got grounded for grades...
but i went from a public school to a
private ("college prep") school in the
middle of my sophomore year and i went
from having all A's to having C's and D's
because they were so advanced in that
school...
I think if i would have stayed at the
public school and my grades dropped to C's
and D's then i would have been in
trouble.. but i guess my case is an
exception...
-btw- i love math!! took calculus my
senior year ..
i'm a math and science girl!
i guess you could call me a nerd or geek
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Posted: 07-19-07 11:12am
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if your child's grades drop there is
something wrong and you need to figure out
what the problem is. if it's a discipline
thing then grounding is a good idea until
they bring their mark up. if it's
something else, like drugs, bullying or
depression or something like that, you, as
a parent, need to get to the bottom of it
by talking to them and getting them some
help.
when i was in grade 12 we had just moved
to the city and i didn't know anyone in my
school so i skipped almost the entire
semester of my calculus class. finally,
they called my mom and said i was failing.
i had always been good in math but you
can't learn it if you don't go to any of
the classes. so she grounded me and
signed me up with a tutor. i went to the
tutor once and learned all of my formulas
and aced the exam but i only got a d. i'm
lucky i was able to get into university
with such a crappy mark, but i had high
marks in everything else. so i guess it's
a good thing she grounded me but an even
better thing that i got the tutor. i
should have known better when i was that
age, lol.
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young Girl
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Re: Grounded For Bad Grades?
Posted: 07-19-07 11:14am
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| worrywart001
wrote: | | the_girlfreind
wrote: | alot of people i know ave
different views on this one so i just
thought id throw it out there:
your child brings home a report card and
has went form an A to a C in math...should
they be grounded/punsihes for bad grades?
if so what should the consequences
be? |
haha my parents bargained with me...for As
I got $5 per A i earned...for Bs $3...C's
i got nothing since it was average..D's I
OWED them $3 and Fs I owed the $5 and if I
had ever earned a D or F in high school my
rents would have more than likely grounded
me yes lol..a C no..but it never was a
problem for me anyway, I got A's and
B's...made me some money |
thats a great way of doing that!!!!! ha ha
i wish my parents did that with me.
i always had A's and few B's my whole
life thorugjh elemntary and middle school
once i hit 9th grade i got mostly B's and
some A's and i think 1 pr 2 C's?
and then 10th grade came...and i started
filing everything... excepts french and
English lanuage arts 2
those were my best classes
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Posted: 07-19-07 11:33am
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If a grade dropped that drastically in a
subject, I would assume that my child had
trouble with a particular part. If it's
math, maybe my child does fine with adding
and subtracting, but can't understand
division. Would I ground her? Probably
not. I would try to enroll her into a
tutoring program to bring her grade up,
and if that happened to cut into her free
time so be it.
But I'm hoping to be involved in her
academics anyway, so hopefully I'll be
aware of the problems she's having before
she brings the report card home.
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-19-07 11:39am
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| AyaMiyaki
wrote: | If a grade dropped that
drastically in a subject, I would assume
that my child had trouble with a
particular part. If it's math, maybe my
child does fine with adding and
subtracting, but can't understand
division. Would I ground her? Probably
not. I would try to enroll her into a
tutoring program to bring her grade up,
and if that happened to cut into her free
time so be it.
But I'm hoping to be involved in her
academics anyway, so hopefully I'll be
aware of the problems she's having before
she brings the report card
home. |
i agree
theres parts of math i like and then
theres things i hate and cant get no
matter how hard i try!
AyaMiyaki i think that if more parents
were actually INVOLVED in a childs
eduaction and they knew what was going on
then maybe they could help and understand
more
i know my parents used to ask me "how was
school?" and id say "good"
and that was that
i think parents are the best teachers in
the world :]
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Posted: 07-19-07 13:27pm
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to me it really all depends on *why* the
grade dropped (assuming it did.)
If is due to after school activities,
i.e., sports, clubs, job... then i'd make
them quit. Its not important enough to
play football or get a paycheck to miss
out on a proper education.
If they started out getting bad grades in
a certain subject, and i *knew* they were
doing everything they could to study, then
i'd attribute it to the fact that they
just might not be great at said subject.
I'd then hire a tutor.
Grounding is unnessesary under most
circumstances. I was grounded for
*everything* i did when i was younger. It
solves nothing.
If the child is intentionally not studying
because they are too busy screwing off out
with their friends or watching tv then its
time for the parents to intervene and take
control. Its time to say *no*.
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Posted: 07-19-07 14:46pm
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If I grounded for bad grades, it would be
so the child would stay home with me and
instead of watch TV, we'd go over the
homework together. I'm always going to ask
to see every test and paper they get back
and check up on all grades they get back
from their teachers. That way you can nip
a problem in the bud before it becomes a
failing grade.
On a similar note, I was always a good ace
student in school. My junior year of
highschool I got my first failing grade on
a quiz/test EVER. I actually cried in
class about it!! At seventeen years old
almost!
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Posted: 07-19-07 14:46pm
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I think, as parents, we shouldn't make
decisions on parenting when we have yet to
experience certain events.
Like, how can you say you'll never
ground your kid for grades if your child
is only 1? You can't because you don't
really know.
I'll tell you this, when your smart alec
14 year old looks right in your face and
say, "Because. Hmph." Then turns around
and stomps out of the room - do not tell
me what you know you'll do today. What you
know today is far different from
what you'll know on that day, trust
me. Been there, done that.
Worry about the stage your child is right
now. The rest will come later.
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-19-07 14:49pm
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| Ingi
wrote: | I think, as parents, we
shouldn't make decisions on parenting when
we have yet to experience certain events.
Like, how can you say you'll never
ground your kid for grades if your child
is only 1? You can't because you don't
really know.
I'll tell you this, when your smart alec
14 year old looks right in your face and
say, "Because. Hmph." Then turns around
and stomps out of the room - do not tell
me what you know you'll do today. What you
know today is far different from
what you'll know on that day, trust
me. Been there, done that.
Worry about the stage your child is right
now. The rest will come
later. |
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Posted: 07-19-07 15:27pm
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I dont ever remember being grounded for
bad grades just for other things that I
did wrong. I feel that anything below a C,
are bad grades. I do remember that if I
got bad grades such as a D or an F, my
parents used to ask me what went wrong. My
parents helped me with my school work.
They would check over my work. When it
comes time for when my daughter is in
school....I'll prolly be the same way
towards her. I might take away her free
social time to hang out with friends or
watch tv. Just until her grades are
better. I would try my best to help her
out. The only time that I would be more
strict is if she isnt tryin to do her best
and she is just goofing off all the time
and not caring.
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Posted: 07-19-07 15:41pm
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Ok, Coming from an older generation.....I
was grounded and punished for bad grades
in high school.....It wasn't until I went
back to school at 32 years old that I
actually appreciated learning. I was the
oldest "student " in my classes,but I was
on the presidents/deans list for 2
years....I aced Chemistry and
Microbiology, math always sucked
too...When a childs grades start to drop,
its somehting that is going on in that
child life. As a parent, its up to us to
find out what that is. I checked homework
every night and went over test papers as
well. My daughter knew if she needed extra
help all she had to do was ask. Don't wait
until you are so far behind you never
catch up...like I did... You miss one
proof or therum and its curtains for
you.....I did take away priveledges like
the phone, TV, Going to the mall, movies,
spend the night at a friends, whatever it
took, until my daughter could prove to me
her grades were back to passing. As long
as she applied herself and did her very
best, it was all I asked. My parents were
both Doctors of education and their
punishment to me for bad grades was a
belt. So, I vowed I'd never punish my
child as I had been for bad grades. The
priveledge system seems to have worked
form my daughter. She graduated with a
scholarship!
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Posted: 07-19-07 15:54pm
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Yeah taking away priveleges worked for me
too. It doesn't work on every child... my
brother for example had to be bribed, lol.
"Get a good grade and you'll get a video
game!"
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Posted: 07-21-07 11:53am
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Personally i don't think it's fair at all
because after all you can only do your
best and if a low grade is all you're
capeable of then the parents should be
happy that you are trying your very best.
One thing that really bugs me is when
parents pay their children when they get
good grades, i'm waiting for my GCSE
results next month and i know of some
people in my year who are getting £100
($200) for every a grage and one girl is
even gettign £1000 ($2000) for every a
grade she gets. I'm perfectly happy just
knwoing that i did my best and my parents
are proud of me for finishing school and
doing all or my exams so close to Mika
being born
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Posted: 07-21-07 12:47pm
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| Dannzibelle
wrote: | | Personally i don't think
it's fair at all because after all you can
only do your best and if a low grade is
all you're capeable of then the parents
should be happy that you are trying your
very best. One thing that really bugs me
is when parents pay their children when
they get good grades, i'm waiting for my
GCSE results next month and i know of some
people in my year who are getting £100
($200) for every a grage and one girl is
even gettign £1000 ($2000) for every a
grade she gets. I'm perfectly happy just
knwoing that i did my best and my parents
are proud of me for finishing school and
doing all or my exams so close to Mika
being born |
Yeah, I don't agree with bribing, I think
it's wrong and should be avoided if at all
possible.
Of course there is sometimes a
child who just isn't good at a particular
subject. But if the child's parents have
been paying attention to him, they're
going to know that, so it won't be
an issue. With my brother, an occasional C
grade was okay. With me, my parents knew I
could do better than that, so a C for me
was unacceptable.
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Posted: 07-22-07 13:01pm
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That's exactly how I feel. If you know
that your child can do better then it
becomes an issue, like if i had gotten a
"c" in school I would have gotten my butt
beat. But if say I had been a "c" student
all along, there wouldn't have been a
fuss.
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