Tough Love with Bipolar Person

Wow, i definitely feel for you. To know that you are with a physically abusive man AND he is bipolar is just beyond words. Whenever you are with someone that long, it automatically makes things harder. I have been through much as well, and it certainly leaves a person angry and confused. I would advice you first to seek the help of a professional for yourself first and second to get the tools on how to deal with your man. I would advise you on the boyfriend/suicide issue, but really and truly you need to speak to someone who is trained. That is so sensitive of a subject that I would really advice you to seek more professional than forum help (just on the subject of how to deal with someone who is suicidal because of a broken relationship). But the bottom line here is that you need to care for you. It is your boyfriend's responsibility to get help, and you as his girlfriend should strongly encourage him to get help. If he stops taking his meds and he can afford it, you should take that as a sign that he is not serious about your safety/mental well being as well as his. Many people on medication do not like the way it makes them feel, so i can see wanting to stop taking them. HOWEVER it is his responsibility to seek out an alternative medication/solution so he does not go back to his old ways which he has already done. The meds are the lifeline here. I wish i could help you more, because i really see how this could be beyond awful. I say all this to say, Go to a professional and help yourself and get the tools you need.
Stay well and good luck.