I guess my question would be a little shallow but... why did you marry her if you're interested in sex and she's not?

Hi,

Actually the question is not swallow, I have premature ejaculation (very embarassing) but I want to work on it and I need her help.

it wasn't a problem becuase of the shame I had for my own problem. but I'm sick of it and want to get rid of it.

but i need her to be interested in sex...

my sex life is sooo sad.

It could be so many things.

Is she on birth control? Some b.c. can effect libido.

Does she have some kind of other illness in the way? Physical, mental, etc.

Does she think of herself as attractive?
Does she think you are attractive?

Have you talked to her about this?

you have good questions

actually she has very low self esteem.. so much so that the has been bulimic/anorexic.

i guess she finds me attractive..but her self esteem gets in the way to want to act on her sexuality..

i sometimes think she's a lesbian..

we're going to therapy .. we'll hopefully get to the bottom of this

thx