Delet this post! That is my advice. Trust me, you are asking for trouble!!!!

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ok, my opinion. Why do you want a child? What can this child bring into your life at this age? What can you do to support this child? Are you with someone? How long have you two been together. Do either of you work? Does he want a child also? Are you in school or what?

Really~it's not a glamarous job. I'm not even a mother and I know that! But.... You need to think a long hard time about this! And you asked: should I have a baby. If you have to ask.... You aren't ready then. I want a child. I'm not trying to have one but I want one, I don't have to ask anyone about that. I feel the way I feel because I want to!
Think about this more and listen to some of the stories on here. These girls make it all seem so wonderful, but behind all the pretty smiles and cute pics, there are tears, heartbreaks, struggles, and regrets. Not in all cases, but in some. Give it thought, don't just react too fast!
Love,
chanda
17. Sr. In hs. No kids. Not preggy.

Alrighty.....I would say wait. I know you don't wanna hear it and I hardly have room to say considering I wont be 15 until monday and I am due any day now. But it will be so much easier if you wait. In early pregnancy you will be so tired that u cant concentrate in school, and it gets better throughout the pregnancy but itll be even worse after the baby is born! I am pregnant now and I am so happy with my life the way it is and wouldn't change it for the world, but I really do wish I would have waited....Although I did try to prevent it I could have done more i'm sure! These are just the facts. But i'll support you in whatever you decide. But I do think it would be better to wait until you are out of school. Do yourself a favor, act like you are pregnant. Go out and look at everything you will have to be. Only the absoloute musts and add it all up. Diapers, car seats, wipes, formula, bottles, crib, etc. It adds up to a hefty amount. And that doesn't even include bouncer seat, swing, stroller, carrier, play pen, toys, and little things u will need down the line like baby orajel! Just do yourself a favor and look at that stuff. And if your not convinced let me tell u, my friend has a 7,000 dollar hospiatl bill from when her son was born. She had no complications and was only there for 3 days. Also, even having a boy circumcized is 200 dollars. And the cost of prenatal care is outrageous! But like I said, i'll support you whatever you decide to do. But do yourself a favor and look at this from a mother-to-be's point of view. Financially and emotionally. Good luck!

Wait! Oh goodness, just wait. You are so young and have your whole life for kids. Just wait it out until you are 30, lol ok maybe younger but not your teens! You have alot going and you dont need to be slowed down by a baby. You are so young.

I agree with kissy..You should wait but if it happens i'll support you allt he way! :d
shannon

Im sorry, im not trying to be mean or anything, but you shouldnt be asking us if you should become pregnant, that is something that you decide and if you need other people to make that decision for you then you are definitly not ready for it. Besides that you have several years to have children yet. Are you still living at home with your mom? You should wait until you are out of mommys house, have a good paying job, and a husband. You may think it will bring happiness into your life, but it will bring even more pain, and more stess to your teenage years. Not everything goes the way you want it to. Its ok to want a baby at a young age... Just dont go and get yourself pregnant on purpose at such a young age. I really doubt that anyone here is going to tell you that you should get pregnant. Your 15! Go out and have fun with all your friends, live your life! You dont wanna be sitting at home all night with baby while friends go out and party. Live your teen years, have some fun, take time to find mr.Right, then start a family.

There are many girls on here with babies or pregnant (obviosuly!) and although all of them are fanstastic mother & mothers to be,i assure you that most of them will advise you to wait. Yes babies are cute and lovely and yes we all have maternal feelings-i know mine are quite strong but look at the reality of it-where are you going to get the money from?
Will your family support you?
Are you willing to forego sleep when your babies screaming half the night for a feed?
Are you ready to cope with the huge changes that you're body will go through during and after the pregnancy?
Are you emotionally ready?
Like chrissy said,the costs are huge & theres so much to buy.One of the girls made a list of things that would be needed for a new born and I honestly never realised what was involved! Theres hundreds of things that you need.
I think you should wait until you're older-until you're secure but at the end of the day,it's not down to any of us.All we can do is advise you

Very well said liz....I mean I didn't even know they had hooded towels! Let alone that u need them for a baby! Lol. But like I said girl, we are here to support not criticize! We just have the best in mind for you! I'll admit I can't wait until my son is here but I know it is going to be the hardest thing I will ever have to do. I'm advising you to wait, but it's up to you to take that advice. Good luck.

Chrissy's right! We will support anyone on here because we don't judge people but we will be honest too.
Lauren-i suggest you talk to some of the girls,preferably one who isnt about to give birth any minute! (chrissy might be kinda busy having little josh!) because they can tell you about their experiences & how hard it is looking after their little ones.
Babies are precious-they need a lot of looking after so make sure you're 110% ready before you have one.

If your not already pregnant, I would think about it twice.


Are you really ready to take care of a baby? I had my son when I was 17 and I don't know how I did it (now 22). If I didn't have help of my mother and my son's dad I would have gone crazy! When issac would cry none stop I just didn't know what to do. I would just walk out the room and leave. My mom would tend to the rest. I just got so angry. Not only that, my body didn't look like a 17 year old age body any more. I have stretch marks all over my belly. My boobs sagged all the way down. I had people look at me oddly in the beginning because I was so young. I couldn't just leave with my friends when I wanted too. I was jealous of others that had this beautiful body/no kids/and could date who ever they want. I mean there is all good thing's in having a child. And i'm so thankful for my son. I'm even curretly 11 weeks pregnant with my second. But I now know what to except. I did mature very fast. But that was because I had to. Good luck with your decision. By the way, I would speak to your doctor or parents before you actually go through with it.

I agree with everyone. . Wait. . Wait till ur older, outta highschool etc etc. . U have so much life ahead of u . . I dont even need to go on about it. . Just wait is my advice!~!! Ur not ready.. Even if u think u r

Why do you want to ahve a baby right now? (meg, 21, no kids). Yes the girls in here are great moms but do you think its easy? Babies take more love than they give, it changes of course but its not easy! If you bring a child ini this world just "because I want to" you are being very selfish. What kind of life will this child have? I'm sorry to sound harsh but I was brought into this world by an unprepared mother and unless I was adopted out some bad stuff could have gone down or it could have been great but I had no way of knowing. Reconsider please

Let me give you the low down on the reality of the situation.

Being a mom is a job that you can't take a break from for 1 second. It's an around the clock job. When your baby cries, you have to go to it. When he's wet or hungry you feed him. That sounds easy, but not at 4:00 in the morning when all you really want to do is sleep. You think to yourself, "oh it doesn't matter...I've stayed up all night plenty of nights before." well, i'll tell ya it's a lot different when you've been taking care of a baby all day and then at the end of the day you're so tired and worn out that all you wanna do is sleep, but then your baby keeps you up all night long. Then you have to keep on going without any sleep. The next day you still have to take care of your baby...He's not gonna just take care of himself. You may catch a nap here and there, but not enough to make you feel rested and refreshed. Then there's the stinky diapers and the spit up. What if it's in the middle of the night and your baby spits up all over you? Most likely you wont be able to take a shower because you'll be the only one there taking care of your baby and you can't leave him alone while you take a shower. So you just change and hope you don't smell too bad. The biggest issue....(in caps)money. I know from experience that you aren't going to have insurance to pay for your hospital bills and doctor bills unless when your parents got insurance for you they automatically said, "hey I bet our daughter will get pregnant..So I say we should get a maternity rider added to our policy". Wanna know how much in bills i've recieved so far? $9,896. And you said you're 15?? Well, i'm not sure how it is where you live....But around here 15 year olds can only legally make $5.50 an hour. I really don't think that's gonna cut it. Then what about the father of the baby? You're only 15, so I dont think he'd be moving in with you to help you take care of the baby. I know how it is. I'm up all night and day with my baby without a break because the only one taking care of my baby is me. His dad lives in another city and has only seen him twice since he's been born. Did you know that formula is $20 a can? You use tons and tons of diapers which are expensive too. That $20 can of formula might last you a week..But that's it. So that's already $20 a week for formula. That's not even including diapers yet. When you have a baby, you go through diapers like crazy. Then what about when your baby gets sick? He's gonna cry and cry and cry and cry. Then you wont get any sleep at all...Not even a nap. That also means you'll have to pay for doctor bills. Guess what else? When you have a baby, you have to get him health insurance. Health insurance is really expensive too. $80-$130 a month. If you don't get health insurance you'll be paying a crap load for doctor appointments. I haven't even begin to cover everything. What do you think will happen to your social life? Your friends? You wont be able to go out with friends or stay the night over at a girlfriends house. You wont be able to just go hang out whenever you want or have people over. I've been home for 3 weeks straight. The closest i've been to anywhere...Is on my front porch to get the mail. Your friends will more than likely just linger away because they know you have a baby and wont be able to hang out. You'll lose friends slowly one by one. I know from experience. If you're 15, then you're a freshman in high school. Are you planning on dropping out? 3 years is a lot of school that you have left over to finish. You think you'll have enough energy to get up early for school every morning and then come home to take care of your baby all evening and then stay up all night with him and also have to do your homework and then go to school the next day running on no sleep from the night before? I'm going to stop here because I think you get the general idea. Yeah, a lot of the girls on here talk about how great their babies are and how precious things are, but in reality we all deal with these types of things. You only see one side of how motherhood life is. The other side is dreary, tiring, and at times depressing. I strongly advise you to reconsider your strong desire to have a baby at 15 years old.


Crystal

I don't want to judge you, and we will be here for you no matter what you decide. But please think about it, your sooo young and it's sooo hard.

Brenda