Getting Pregnant Forum - having a baby at 20

replied July 14th, 2007

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Re: Scared

XOpartygrlXO wrote:

honestly im a little nervous to go, i dont wanna find out anything is wrong and im scared they will judge me because im 20yrs old trying to have a baby. I already had a scene with the family planning in my neighborhood

im 16 and im 18weeks 1 day pregnant
its hard to face the world but i dont care
i do it with an open mind
if someone has a problem with me being so young then whatever

there are many teen mothers that are way better mothers than some of these 30 yr old women are
dont let anyone judge you

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womaninpain

replied July 14th, 2007

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I got pregnant with my daughter when I was 20, I was not judged a ton but I was judged...and you know what? I didn't care what people thought, I actually had a harder time being judged by the parents at school then anyone when I was pregnant. Dont worry about what others think, worry about yourself.

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worrywart001

replied July 14th, 2007

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you all are very brave...i'm 20..and right now getting pregnant is probably one of the worst things that could happen. My family is extremely religious and strict...no sex until marriage..and until i got serious with this bf that wasn't a big deal..i dont know what i'd do if I got prenant...i cant even support myself right now and i'm still in school! Thank God for birth control

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worrywart001

replied July 14th, 2007

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the_girlfreind..how did you get pregnant?..sounds like a dumb question DUH how..but i mean were you on birth control or using condoms? I'm on Birth Control but I still have that "what if" worry in the back of my mind...usually we pull out just as a back up precaution (though I know that doesn't do much, its just more for the sake of my sanity) but hes gone in me a few times this month...it just makes me worry..even though I take my b.c. every single day at the same time..i dunno...i'm considering adding spermacide as back up protection

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young Girl

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worrywart001 wrote:

the_girlfreind..how did you get pregnant?..sounds like a dumb question DUH how..but i mean were you on birth control or using condoms? I'm on Birth Control but I still have that "what if" worry in the back of my mind...usually we pull out just as a back up precaution (though I know that doesn't do much, its just more for the sake of my sanity) but hes gone in me a few times this month...it just makes me worry..even though I take my b.c. every single day at the same time..i dunno...i'm considering adding spermacide as back up protection

no i wasnt using protection. i didnt use protection all throughout the 7 months me and travis have beent ogether. it was something we discussed and decided as a couple that when it happened it would be the right time.
and that if we were responsible enough to make love without using protection then we would have to be reponsible enough to dea with the consequences

we cant wait either :]

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XOpartygrlXO

replied July 14th, 2007

the_girlfreind wrote:

worrywart001 wrote:

the_girlfreind..how did you get pregnant?..sounds like a dumb question DUH how..but i mean were you on birth control or using condoms? I'm on Birth Control but I still have that "what if" worry in the back of my mind...usually we pull out just as a back up precaution (though I know that doesn't do much, its just more for the sake of my sanity) but hes gone in me a few times this month...it just makes me worry..even though I take my b.c. every single day at the same time..i dunno...i'm considering adding spermacide as back up protection

no i wasnt using protection. i didnt use protection all throughout the 7 months me and travis have beent ogether. it was something we discussed and decided as a couple that when it happened it would be the right time.
and that if we were responsible enough to make love without using protection then we would have to be reponsible enough to dea with the consequences

we cant wait either :]

im glad that u guys talked about it, i makes everything so much better, me and my bf have talked about it and are def ready and we cant wait.... literally were getting aggravated waiting.... i just dont understand ive always had irregular periods even wen i was on the pill, i just want a baby s bad

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young Girl

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XOpartygrlXO wrote:

the_girlfreind wrote:

worrywart001 wrote:

the_girlfreind..how did you get pregnant?..sounds like a dumb question DUH how..but i mean were you on birth control or using condoms? I'm on Birth Control but I still have that "what if" worry in the back of my mind...usually we pull out just as a back up precaution (though I know that doesn't do much, its just more for the sake of my sanity) but hes gone in me a few times this month...it just makes me worry..even though I take my b.c. every single day at the same time..i dunno...i'm considering adding spermacide as back up protection

no i wasnt using protection. i didnt use protection all throughout the 7 months me and travis have beent ogether. it was something we discussed and decided as a couple that when it happened it would be the right time.
and that if we were responsible enough to make love without using protection then we would have to be reponsible enough to dea with the consequences

we cant wait either :]

im glad that u guys talked about it, i makes everything so much better, me and my bf have talked about it and are def ready and we cant wait.... literally were getting aggravated waiting.... i just dont understand ive always had irregular periods even wen i was on the pill, i just want a baby s bad

ha ha i know what you meen.
just wait until your for sure your pregnant
it gets hard to wait
like i find out on the 24th if im haveing a boy or a girl
and it seems forever away!

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XOpartygrlXO

replied July 14th, 2007

the_girlfreind wrote:

XOpartygrlXO wrote:

the_girlfreind wrote:

worrywart001 wrote:

the_girlfreind..how did you get pregnant?..sounds like a dumb question DUH how..but i mean were you on birth control or using condoms? I'm on Birth Control but I still have that "what if" worry in the back of my mind...usually we pull out just as a back up precaution (though I know that doesn't do much, its just more for the sake of my sanity) but hes gone in me a few times this month...it just makes me worry..even though I take my b.c. every single day at the same time..i dunno...i'm considering adding spermacide as back up protection

no i wasnt using protection. i didnt use protection all throughout the 7 months me and travis have beent ogether. it was something we discussed and decided as a couple that when it happened it would be the right time.
and that if we were responsible enough to make love without using protection then we would have to be reponsible enough to dea with the consequences

we cant wait either :]

im glad that u guys talked about it, i makes everything so much better, me and my bf have talked about it and are def ready and we cant wait.... literally were getting aggravated waiting.... i just dont understand ive always had irregular periods even wen i was on the pill, i just want a baby s bad

ha ha i know what you meen.
just wait until your for sure your pregnant
it gets hard to wait
like i find out on the 24th if im haveing a boy or a girl
and it seems forever away!

oh man i bet the days are just draggin on, i wouldnt be able to stop thinkin about it if i were u

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young Girl

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well i hope you are and baby dust your way!
to give life is a wonderful thing
and your not too young and dont let anyone ever tell you otherwise

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worrywart001

replied July 15th, 2007

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the_girlfreind wrote:

worrywart001 wrote:

the_girlfreind..how did you get pregnant?..sounds like a dumb question DUH how..but i mean were you on birth control or using condoms? I'm on Birth Control but I still have that "what if" worry in the back of my mind...usually we pull out just as a back up precaution (though I know that doesn't do much, its just more for the sake of my sanity) but hes gone in me a few times this month...it just makes me worry..even though I take my b.c. every single day at the same time..i dunno...i'm considering adding spermacide as back up protection

no i wasnt using protection. i didnt use protection all throughout the 7 months me and travis have beent ogether. it was something we discussed and decided as a couple that when it happened it would be the right time.
and that if we were responsible enough to make love without using protection then we would have to be reponsible enough to dea with the consequences

we cant wait either :]

like someone else said, its good you discussed it and that you're both mature enough to own up to it and him not bail out on you or anything, i too discussed it with my bf, hes the only guy i've been with and i've made it crystal clear that i'm NOT ready for a kid lol..he feels the same way, we both have school as a priority now and dont even plan to get married until after college, THEN when we're out of college, married and financially stable we'll take the next step haha...for a while we just used condoms but even with condoms I'd freak out...i figured if I dont go on b.c. then..we're done no more sex...so, finally got my butt to the gyno for the FIRST TIME..and i'm 20 lol..i needed to go anyway right, and she put me on Yaz...helped my anxiety about getting preggo bunches...i'm thinkin about using a spermacide as well...i dont wanna make him go back to condoms after not using them haha

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young Girl

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worrywart001 wrote:

the_girlfreind wrote:

worrywart001 wrote:

the_girlfreind..how did you get pregnant?..sounds like a dumb question DUH how..but i mean were you on birth control or using condoms? I'm on Birth Control but I still have that "what if" worry in the back of my mind...usually we pull out just as a back up precaution (though I know that doesn't do much, its just more for the sake of my sanity) but hes gone in me a few times this month...it just makes me worry..even though I take my b.c. every single day at the same time..i dunno...i'm considering adding spermacide as back up protection

no i wasnt using protection. i didnt use protection all throughout the 7 months me and travis have beent ogether. it was something we discussed and decided as a couple that when it happened it would be the right time.
and that if we were responsible enough to make love without using protection then we would have to be reponsible enough to dea with the consequences

we cant wait either :]

like someone else said, its good you discussed it and that you're both mature enough to own up to it and him not bail out on you or anything, i too discussed it with my bf, hes the only guy i've been with and i've made it crystal clear that i'm NOT ready for a kid lol..he feels the same way, we both have school as a priority now and dont even plan to get married until after college, THEN when we're out of college, married and financially stable we'll take the next step haha...for a while we just used condoms but even with condoms I'd freak out...i figured if I dont go on b.c. then..we're done no more sex...so, finally got my butt to the gyno for the FIRST TIME..and i'm 20 lol..i needed to go anyway right, and she put me on Yaz...helped my anxiety about getting preggo bunches...i'm thinkin about using a spermacide as well...i dont wanna make him go back to condoms after not using them haha

yeah lol
well atleast you guys are protecting yourselves!

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