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Q: Roomie Is Bipolar . Violant Outburst Towards Me .

asked by: ladyT83 on July 14th, 2007

New User

Well my roomie is bipolar. We moved in together In October of 2006 cause were friends of 10yrs. Everything was fine for 2 months until I started a serious relationship wit my current boyfriend.

It started with her getting angry cause we didn't hang out anymore.that my boyfriend would come over 2 a week and stay over. Then it got worst. She wanted things done her way. Dishes were to be cleaned and dried immediately(I work a full time lateshift so I sometimes didn't have time to let alone eat.

I would do my chores Saturday or before my boyfriend would come over but that made her mad and she wanted it done at the time she had posted on this stupid chart she created.

She wanted to know if I was leaving for a few days and when I would get back! If my chores are done;my bills payed and the cats have food and water why should she think she has the rite to know bout my personal life.

3months ago I got a fulltime job and that made her even more angry..again cause we didn't hangout. I started thinking she was jealous that me and my b.f would go out etc. Her b.f is a loner and doesn't take her out. She would throw notes under my door insulting me telling me how inconsiderate I am that she's tired of cleaning up after me lol what ever.

So I got tired of the rudeness and her throwing the notes that the last one she wrote I didn't bother reading and returned it to her. That set her off.she slams my door so hard she messed up one of the hinges. She lashed out at me infront of her mother and my boyfriend. Then she steps forward as to hit me and my boyfriend stands up glaring at her and she steps back. She kept raging and cussing me out.
Angry that I had told my landlord that I was moving first and not her!

I called the landlord And told her I was leaving that I felt threatened. So I didn't spend the nite in my own house because she got so out of control. I fear for my kitten who's still at home and my belongings. What should I do? I go home tomorrow wit my boyfriend to keep me company so I can pack some things. But I fear for my safety any input
will be greatly appreciated

Replies(2)

j_j89

replied on July 14th, 2007

New User

Hey there, sorry to hear about your very complicated situation. I must tell you though, it is much much harder to be in a relationship with someone who is bipolar. So be thankful for that! Its good that you are moving out though, that will help tremendously I am sure. Its also good that you have your boyfriend there to support you, or stand up for you when you feel you cannot. It would just advise you to not play into the games/mood swings. Take everything for face value and never analyze, it will never ever make any sense to someone who thinks normally. Just watch out for your safety, and don't forget that many people are dealing with a similar situation to you. I have been in therapy for a little while now as my ex is bipolar. The main thing that I have been told from professionals is to basically just stand up for yourself, and continue to say no. You deserve better than to have to deal with that. The fact that she is violent is not good combined with the normal bipolar symptoms. It is very difficult to live with someone bp, just be strong and firm and you will be fine. People who are bipolar are still individuals who need love, friendship and support, but that may not be your role, save that for someone else who can actually handle those things. I wish you well.

mrsbuzski

replied on July 14th, 2007

Experienced User

Roommate From Hell

I had a room mate like that once. Oh, my God! I seriously thought I was going to loose my mind. No support from the authorities; meaning advice from Doctors or the Police, because truthfully what could they do unless there was any type of "physical contact or damage done".

I tried incessently to stay calm. I prayed continually for strength to get through. ....when my Doctor wouldn't give me something to relax, I prayed for patience and called the church psychologist.

I believe that this person was: self centered, angry, had an addiction problem, and a "poor me attitude", and absolutely no respect for her fellow man! Explained in one word: Evil!

Bipolar? Who's to say? Don't we all wake up on the wrong side of the bed sometimes. Many of us want our own way and generally see things a lot easier from our own perspective instead of others.

I'm glad you got out of that situation. A person that is a control freak should definitely look into taking some anger management classes. It takes many virtues to deal with people like that!

Good luck and many blessings to you!

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