2 years ago I worked in a office with 2
other girls,. we had been in the sane
office aprox 9 years spending 8 to 10
hours everyday and somtimes much longer
together, there were only of 3 of us there
so needless to say we became like family,
One morinmg on the way to work ( they call
pooled) they had a head on collision with
a tractor trailor. Both were killed
instantly. I waited for them for 30 min
they didn't arrive I knew something was
wrong. I can't get over it I still work in
the same office with 2 new girls I have
not allowed myself to get close to them I
can never bear that pain again. It was
carried over in how i relate to my husband
my children and grand kids. Therer just
not the love their once was. maybe i an
scared of another hurt and maybe my
feeling are just shut down, I know one
thing for sure it should of been me killed
that morning the other 2 girls would of
went on a had a happy life not wasting it
on daily tears and sadness. is there
anyone out there who can help me come back
to my life not this one of pain
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twilight_mist
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Posted: 07-14-07 08:41am
I do wish I could just sweep all your pain
away hun.
People react differntly to tragedies in
their lives. Some, like you, seem to
emotionally shut down. Do not judge
yourself to harshly for this.
Have you tried talking to your husband and
children about how you are feeling and
why? If they know how you feel, they'll be
more likely to understand, and perhaps
they can help you to slowly get back to
how you used to be.
Shutting of your emotions might be a
defensive reaction, but in the long run,
it will not help you. Try to change it,
but don't rush it, take the time you need,
and don't be afraid to ask those around
you for help.
It sounds as if you can't put down what
happened. Everyone has their own grieving
period. It can be days, months, even
years. But when it goes on for too long,
it's time to seek help.
Losing people you love is definitely
traumatic. You could be suffering from
PTSD, which can lead to many other things
such as depression, which includes a
symptom of shutting yourself away from
everyone and shutting your feelings
inside. Do you ever relive the memories in
a dream? If you do, please find
counselling.
Best wishes to you.
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BOB12345678910
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jul 2007 Posts: 3 Location: HULL
Posted: 07-18-07 10:38am
Hi there lots of people say that it will
take a long time to get over somthing like
this but talking to your family about this
can help thats what family is for and talk
to your new work mates they really do know
what has happened but dont want to say
anything to you
