Joined: 12 Jul 2007 Posts: 1 Location: United Kingdom
Grieving Cousin Posted: 07-12-07 06:27am
My cuz died from cancer leaving behind her
husband age 50.
Since my cousins death her hubby as been
chatting to me and i have tried to be
there for him, and offer comfort.
We live along way from each other and our
only contact as been via msn or email.
This as been going on about 6month, he as
told me alot of personal things regards
him and his wife, and i know how much he
loved her.
They had been married 30 yrs, she was is
first girl friend, who he went on to
marry.
For the last couple of month he as been
saying he loves me and wants to be
together, and our conversations have
changed some what.
I find my self having feeling towards him,
i really care for him and want him to be
happy.
I am married but our marriage as driffed
apart, for different reasons...my husband
as been extremely jealous of me chatting
to my cousins husband, to the point of
pushing me around...my husband says that
my cousins husband is chasing me.
When i first started chating to him, i had
no idea my feelings would change towards
him, it was not planned, we had always
mailed each other for two yrs before my
cousin had died.
I am left confused, infact i think we both
are to be honest....and he as stopped
mailing and chatting to me,he says he
needs time to sort alot out, and that hes
not mailing ot talking to anyone....he as
only let me know because im special? i
feel lost and had gotten so use to our
convos, yet i know he does need time, yet
i worry so much about him.
If anyone can help with my feelings it
would be grate.
I also miss my cousin so much and wish she
hadnt had died.....its brough memories
back of my mums death also.
I feel so sad and unhappy and at my age 45
feel i should no better.
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Hart74
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Joined: 06 Apr 2007 Posts: 533 Location: Woodlands (not like there are woods anywhere near) Garden City ,
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Posted: 02-23-08 07:58am
Sorry for the lost of your cousin, what
you must do now is to ask yourself what
you want. Do you really have feelings for
your late cousin's husband, sympathy or is
it the emptiness that is filled by your
conversation with him? Sometime when one
talks to another one may think that one
have a feeling for him however that might
be only feeling of sympathy etc. As now
you and him are not communicating take
something to think about it.
