Grief and Loss Forum

Spirit

replied on July 12th, 2007

Experienced User

Your an amazingly supportive person..............and although obviously older than me, still have much to offer..........

..........as far as burial............no concerns here..........I could care less if they throw me in a Hefty bag............sign on it..........."I'm Outta here!"..........and wait for pick up day.............

...........Yeah, I feel the clock ticking too, but doesn't mean you can't make a blast out of your remaining years...............Enjoy and don't worry bout mom..............odds are you'll out live her anyway............give her what she wants.................and then do whatca gonna do anyway, Peace Smile

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Fairy Godmother

replied on July 12th, 2007

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Thanks!

Appreciate the kind words spirit! I hit the big 50 Saturday, but you'd never know it from looking at me.......I never want to grow up! I like just the way I am!

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young Girl

replied on July 12th, 2007

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Re: Thanks!

Fairy*Godmother wrote:

Appreciate the kind words spirit! I hit the big 50 Saturday, but you'd never know it from looking at me.......I never want to grow up! I like just the way I am!

fairy* godmother

you dont ever have to grow up!

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Fairy Godmother

replied on July 13th, 2007

Supporter

Thanks!

Thanks Girlfriend.............I love you too!

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meblonde01

replied on July 13th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Re: Thanks!

Fairy*Godmother wrote:

Thanks Girlfriend.............I love you too!

A little stoy that I find soooo ture. My mother and I where driving in a car one day and there was this really hunkie looking guy on the street. no shirt on tight jeans, tan.. you get the picture.. Any ways, I said WOW man oh Man what a hunk.. My mother in her 60"s say he sure is. It surprised me and I ask her if she still looked at men like that and she said heck yeah.. SHe told me the hardest thing about getting old is you don't ever feel your age on the inside. Oh, you feel the age and you are a little wiser, but you still look at things the same way it was when you are younger. It's just the out side that reminds you your older.. As the years go on I know just what she meant..

Fairly Godmother. from the things you have said, I think you are a special person. Don't argue with your mother. SHe will pass before you and then you can do what you want. And you will meet again in heaven.. Where age won't matter.. Smile

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Fairy Godmother

replied on July 13th, 2007

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Thank You!

More sweet words! Thanks meblond01.........me blonde too! Its true, we do look, but we figure we don't have time to train another one! Thought you'd appreciate that!!!!!!!!!!!!

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prfctbyntre

replied on September 19th, 2007

Experienced User

Re: Thank You!

as odd as it may seem
im only 20 and i think about this stuff all the time..
like who will get my stuff, will i want a big funeral.. etc etc

but i agree with you, everything you said is what i want for me.

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amanduhhbbyx3

replied on October 4th, 2007

New User

I think if you wish to be cremated then so be it (:
I think it is wonderful that you are 50 & that you can
relate to us, you seem like such a joly soul & I hope that
your years are the best ever & I surely know that if anything
happens to you we will all be in grief & loss.

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Fairy Godmother

replied on October 4th, 2007

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Thank You!

Amanda, I plan on being here another 50 years. Girlfriend if you saw me, you'd flip out TOTALLY. I do not look 50, or act 50 nor do I ever want to get old. My heart and soul will stay young 4-ever.......... I can relate because I put myself into the position of when I was the age of the person asking the question. I remember what its like to be a certain age wth questions yet, I had no one to answer them........When I wrote this, I was thining about my father whom I just lost last year. Funerals are such a waste of time and money and make a perons fell worse than they could already. Just remember me as someone who cared and tried to make you laugh! I care about you people on eHealth........God has given me multiple chances on life and I for one appreciate everything around me.........just not material things! HUGS!

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young Girl

replied on October 4th, 2007

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fairy godmother
my mom always said "youre NOT old until body parts start falling off" Smile

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amanduhhbbyx3

replied on October 4th, 2007

New User

Re: Thank You!

Fairy*Godmother wrote:

Amanda, I plan on being here another 50 years. Girlfriend if you saw me, you'd flip out TOTALLY. I do not look 50, or act 50 nor do I ever want to get old. My heart and soul will stay young 4-ever.......... I can relate because I put myself into the position of when I was the age of the person asking the question. I remember what its like to be a certain age wth questions yet, I had no one to answer them........When I wrote this, I was thining about my father whom I just lost last year. Funerals are such a waste of time and money and make a perons fell worse than they could already. Just remember me as someone who cared and tried to make you laugh! I care about you people on eHealth........God has given me multiple chances on life and I for one appreciate everything around me.........just not material things! HUGS!

sorry for your loss :/
& I agree it is a waste of money

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lonestarguy

replied on October 4th, 2007

Active User, very eHealthy

Hey, I'm With Ya

Fairy*Godmother wrote:

When my time comes to leave this earth, I wish to be cremated. I do not want to be embalmed and placed in a coffin. I wish any organ, tissue , eyes etc ,anything that someone else could use, be donated. I then wish to be cremated. I would like to have a small memorial service for those who would like to celebrate the Me they once knew. No sad music, no Flowers....donations to the animal shelter or senior center would make me happy. I also wish for my ashes be scattered in the mountains that I spent so may fun times in the fall with my best friend.
My Mother is irate because she feels the coffin and burial plot the whole ppackage deal is whats the right thing to do. ...My theory.....We are only here to use this body, once our souls leave and go on to heaven, this body can go back to dust. We will no longer need it. So, I really think cemetaries are for those who need to grieve and can't get it out of their system. I for one have learned to live for today and tomorrow. Once I'm gone, thats it ladies and gentlemen! Remember me for who I AM or was! Any feedback on this would be most appreciated! Thanks!

Hi Fairy*Godmother....I'm older than you as you know and probably headed for the great pow wow before you....So, I think about this stuff a lot myself, like prfctbyntre....I think you know me well enough to know I have a similar outlook on life and live for today and not in the past. Therefore, I feel that age is a body thing and not a mind thing.

This is just a long way of saying what you have outlined sounds good for me, too. I have wanted to be cremated for a long time and you seemed to have thought of everything. I would like my ashes scattered in Colorado from the top of a mountain I picked out a while back.

Good job.

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Fairy Godmother

replied on October 4th, 2007

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Dude............

Just brush those teeth and we can be both put inot the same mayonniase jar! I told my daughter I want my ashes put into a huge mayo jar and when seh goes to party to kinda toss a handfull of me out into the middle! You ARE NOT that much older and I coulda dies 8 years ago had this STWTE OF HTE ART TITANIUM CLIP not been inserted to hold all this loveliness together! Its way past your bedtime, what are you still doing up ? Urns cost bucks....mayo jars come a dime a dozen. I went to the creamtorium wht a frind of mine a couple years ago and brought Miss Matilda back on my lap wtill warm in a cardboard box. I dont really give a rats ass what they do with the ashes....Just pray my soul will one day reach my family and new found friends like you! Hugs and Kisses!

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ladylee70

replied on October 4th, 2007

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My son attends preschool at a church and this past week a girl age 16 died. She told her cousin and sister one week before her tragic accident (horse accident) that if she were to die, she wanted to donate her organs...everything they could. I think she said this on her 16th birthday. Her organ donation has given a longer life for seven people. It was quite ironic that she said this on her birthday and just a week before she died. If she didn't say this, she would have been buried without the organ donation. Glad to see her wishes came true.

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Fairy Godmother

replied on October 4th, 2007

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Hi

Karen. O hope IO got he name right, I do know it Natahn and BiansMOMMY..........This is such an honorable thing to do. I am so sorry for your loss, but God has a plan of making good things come frome bad things. This is tereason I palnned in the even my time comes, grab the little book next to computer and follow te yelloe brick road. It even has a oassage in what to fo if I am incaocitated and can no longer had agood qualityy of life. I am a member of the Hemlock sociery and have a physican who will assist me in going on to God in my own way. I do not wish to have a crappy, helpless assissted qaulity of life not have other people wait on me hand and foot, Not gonna happen. You can throw a psrty after its all sadi and done...put on some 1940=s and 50's, rat pack gang, yeng yang twins, ludachris, AC/CD, Bug BAnd sounds like Mitch Miller, Chris Doughyty, Creed......Celevrate life! Party on dudes!

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homerx

replied on March 19th, 2009

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F*GM

I feel the exact same way..I love you and one day...somewhere...we will meet and I am gonna give you such a HUGE hug! Maybe not on this planet or in this spiritual arena but we will meet...if we haven't already! inlove

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homerx

replied on March 19th, 2009

Moderator

Re: Thanks!

Fairy Godmother wrote:

Appreciate the kind words spirit! I hit the big 50 Saturday, but you'd never know it from looking at me.......I never want to grow up! I like just the way I am!

I'll be 50 this year as well..I get inspiration from you.
You and I are cut from the same cloth it seems.
When I die I want to be creamated and although i really dont care that much what anyone does with my ashes,If I had my druthers i would like to be taken to San Francisco Bay and thrown into the water...and maybe dump some in the sandy beach and make a sand castle out of me!
LOVE ALWAYS,
Homer rainbow

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timeisshort

replied on March 20th, 2009

Experienced User

Why do you believe that of after life

why is it that you believe we go strait to heaven or another place where in the bible does it say that. And why worry about what happens to us when were gone, ashes to ashes dust to dust!

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Fairy Godmother

replied on March 20th, 2009

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Why do I believe my soul will go straight to Heaven? Once you've come close to deaths doors, you may understand. There is no way I could begin to explain to you WHY I BELIEVE what I do. This is what makes everyone unique...we are all different and all have different beliefs....I have NO worries about when I am dead and gone. I do not fear death. I believe our bodies are like a shell...we will have no use for them once dead. Who's to say I am wrong or right?

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