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Q: I Lost the Baby

asked by: Shanyan on July 11th, 2007

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Hey everyone I posted a few times today about seeing my OB and being concerned about not hearing a heartbeat at 16wks. Well I went for my ultrasound this evening because I just new that something wasn't right.

Well I was right. All this time I thought that I was 18wks, then today my OB tells me I'm actually 16wks when in fact the baby died at 9wks. I was all by myself when I was told and my dh doesn't even know yet because he isn't home from work yet. I can't believe that I have gone all this time thinking that I was having a baby. I am even wearing maternity clothes because my uterus is measuring 16wks. My OB said that that was because it is filled with blood. I don't even know how I am going to tell my 5 year old, she was so excited about this baby.

So tonight I have to take those lovely pills that make you cramp like hell (so I have read). I am not looking forward to passing the sac and fetus. I am really scared to see it. For anyone who has been through this please warn me about what to expect after I take those pills.

thank you and I never thought that I would be going through this. I found out today that the baby was probably conceived on the same day that my aunt had her baby.(The one that I donated the egg for) How ironic.

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BabyFutak

replied on July 12th, 2007

Experienced User

i went through this i had to take those pills at about 9 weeks because the baby would have been born with major problems or stillborn (taking lots of pain pills at the time for extremly infected wisdom tooth, tripling dosages. didn't know i was preggy) anyhow if the baby stopped developing at 9 weeks you should not see much, my tip just don't look for the baby like i did. I know how you feel and i offer you my sympathy and lots of hugs. I just went through another natural miscarriage at the end of may as well. if you are worried about seeing the baby did the doctor give you the option of a d&c? HUgs!

Shanyan

replied on July 13th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Thank you for your response BabyFutak. I chickened out and didn't take the pills. I went in for a D&C yesterday and it was a good thing because I really started bleeding so I knew that it was going to happen at anytime.

I am sorry for both of your losses. I wish that we never had to go through this. After reading your post about taking pain pills it made me think because right around the time that I was 9wks I was taking Tylenol 3's and 600 mg of ibuprofen because I needed to have a root canal. Everyone (doctors) told me that it was safe but I was taking an awful lot of pills so I can't help but wonder if that caused the baby to die. When I was 6.5wks the baby had a nice strong heartbeat. I know that I can't blame myself but I am only human and cannot help not to think about it.

I am fine at times than at other times I can't stop crying. I can't believe how empty I feel. My body looks and feels like I just had baby, I think that that makes it even harder.

I have a question, How long did you wait before trying again

BabyFutak

replied on July 13th, 2007

Experienced User

Honestly when I had yo take the pills it was 1 year because this was an oppsies baby with my ex and we wanted it but we didn;t want to try again after losing it. Um with teh recent miscarriage we tried right away but then again we didn;t have d&c althought we should have waited. rigfht now I am in my tww and It is killing me lol!

BabyFutak

replied on July 14th, 2007

Experienced User

I just realized you posted somthing about you aunt well I also had a similar occurance with the last pregnancy About 3 days after misscarring I was told my hubbys cousins wife was pregnant and that her due date was the same exact day I had calculated mine to be. I hate when things like that happen. Its like everyone around you is getting what they want and your in the dust. Trust me dear I know and I feel for you. Huggles!

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