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My boyfriend is very...heh...large. He also holds an erection for a verrry long time...which I'm not complaining about Wink We don't have intercourse yet..but anything else goes. The problem is that he holds an erection for a really long time and we play around and he gives me great, powerful, multiple orgasms in just one session...where I have failed to give him even one. I feel like he's doing so much more for me than I am for him and it makes me sad because I truly want to repay him for those wonderful orgasms he gives me. All I do is jack him off with my spitty hand (which he loves) at whatever speeds and intensities he asks me to do..but it takes so long that my arm gets tired so I continually switch hands until he finally decides he's working me too hard and tells me to stop or we do something else like he'll slide his penis between my breasts or between my thighs. Last night I suggested oral sex and he said he would never ask me to put his penis in my mouth...I didn't fight back..as I did not want to embarass him by choking on it or something (my ex had a big penis...but it's tiny compared to his). So if anyone has any tips and techniques on how to please my man, I'd love to hear them. Try to stray away from oral sex..but I think he'd be ok with tongue use Smile
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replied December 30th, 2008
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anyone?
i really need help..i'm seeing him again tonight and i'd like to not disappoint him (even though he says he isn't)
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replied December 30th, 2008
First of all, get some good lubricant... lots out there specifically designed for masturbation purposes. I really enjoy the ones that have a warming sensation. Get an oil base lube. They don't dry out like the water based lubes do. Much better for masturbation purposes.
A good lube is WAY BETTER than spit.

Next try using both hands at the same time. Up and down and around. Also try caressing his balls too. This feels really good, especially if your hands are all slick and oily. Wink

Another method is to stroke his shaft with one hand while at the same time, rub the top of his penis head in a circular motion with the other hand (this feels great).

One other method is pretend you are trying to light a fire by rubbing his dick between both your hands (you know... the old fire starting method where you would take a stick and rub your hands back and forth fairly quickly with the stick in between the palms of your hands thus making it turn/spin). While doing this, move your hands up and down his shaft... from the base to the head. Trust me. This feels great too.

Also, the most sensitive part of a man's dick is the head. Pay particular attention to that part of his equipment... rub it, caress it, stroke it,lick it, and suck on it. He'll love it
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replied December 30th, 2008
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thank you rerun!
Wow this all sounds great..thank you so much!
I'm not used to having to do so much pleasuring without actual sex..
my ex almost always wanted to go straight to the sex..and was one of those guys that was a little TOO easy to please if you know what I mean..so he usually came way before I did and was typically "too tired" to finish me off...selfish lover.
And now I kinda feel like the tables have turned..only I'm actually trying to please him Razz
Well anyway, I will be sure to try this...I'm excited Smile
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replied December 30th, 2008
Have you tried milking the prostate? Seriously the only people that downplay it are people that refuse to try it. I nearly passed out the first time. Hard to talk about so tread lightly.
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dgriff245 wrote:
Have you tried milking the prostate? Seriously the only people that downplay it are people that refuse to try it. I nearly passed out the first time. Hard to talk about so tread lightly.


this milking the prostate thing is evidently awesome for the guy. i did it once on my ex b/f and i thought he was going to freak out! he loved it.

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replied December 31st, 2008
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my boyfriend has jokingly asked me to rub his prostate a few times..maybe i should look into it

anyway..i say go for the oral...mix it with a hand job, if you get tired of sucking use the hand..if your hand gets tired go back to the oral..just go back and forth and like someone else said GENTLY massage him while youre giving him oral..my boyfriend loves it...using the tongue to circle around the head of the penis works well for my boyfriend as well
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Jazzy77 wrote:
dgriff245 wrote:
Have you tried milking the prostate? Seriously the only people that downplay it are people that refuse to try it. I nearly passed out the first time. Hard to talk about so tread lightly.


this milking the prostate thing is evidently awesome for the guy. i did it once on my ex b/f and i thought he was going to freak out! he loved it.

jasmine


I have no idea what milking the prostate means =/
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replied December 31st, 2008
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worrywart01 wrote:

anyway..i say go for the oral...mix it with a hand job, if you get tired of sucking use the hand..if your hand gets tired go back to the oral..just go back and forth and like someone else said GENTLY massage him while youre giving him oral..my boyfriend loves it...using the tongue to circle around the head of the penis works well for my boyfriend as well


the only problem with that is that he won't let me do oral.
we've debated tongue use and i think he's gonna be ok with it pretty soon but that's about it.
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maybe what you need to do is have your way with him. make him agree to submit to your desires ONE TIME. tell him you won't hurt him in any way.

set up a "safe word" like something he would never say...like..."butterfinger".

then tie him up, blindfold him, and do whatever it is you please. if he says the safe word, then you stop whatever you're doing, that instant, no questions asked...but he has to agree not to use the safe word unless it is ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY NECESSARY.

about the prostate massage, i have only done this once, so there are others who understand much more about this (or you could just do a "search" for it). but i can tell you that it is an awesome tool to have in your sexual repetoir (i don't know how to spell that word, but you get the idea)...hehe.
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Rerun wrote:
First of all, get some good lubricant... lots out there specifically designed for masturbation purposes. I really enjoy the ones that have a warming sensation. Get an oil base lube. They don't dry out like the water based lubes do. Much better for masturbation purposes.
A good lube is WAY BETTER than spit.

Next try using both hands at the same time. Up and down and around. Also try caressing his balls too. This feels really good, especially if your hands are all slick and oily. Wink

Another method is to stroke his shaft with one hand while at the same time, rub the top of his penis head in a circular motion with the other hand (this feels great).

One other method is pretend you are trying to light a fire by rubbing his dick between both your hands (you know... the old fire starting method where you would take a stick and rub your hands back and forth fairly quickly with the stick in between the palms of your hands thus making it turn/spin). While doing this, move your hands up and down his shaft... from the base to the head. Trust me. This feels great too.

Also, the most sensitive part of a man's dick is the head. Pay particular attention to that part of his equipment... rub it, caress it, stroke it,lick it, and suck on it. He'll love it


Thanks. I got a lot of useful tips from your post too. Wink
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replied January 2nd, 2009
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i have given my bf a prostate massage and he loves it, not all the time but just by surprising one night he finds it erotic try it on your man see if he likes it! Jenny
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replied January 3rd, 2009
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well hopefully i'll be able to use these tips someday...he broke up with me on new years Sad
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or sorry to hear that hun, that's a bit nasty breaking up with you on new years!
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maji,
sorry to hear about your break up too! that's too bad. i broke up with my b/f recently. saw him kissing a co-worker...oh well.

your case is probably like mine in that i loved my b/f very much, but having been away from the relationship for a few weeks, and having kind of calmed down from all the stress...i feel better and in many ways, i'm glad that we are no longer together.

i try hard as a girlfriend and obviously you do to maji or you wouldn't have come on here looking for additional ways to please your b/f. all i can say about that is that 99.9% of men would die to have a girlfriend who was trying to please them.

his loss is YOUR gain!
good luck!
jasmine
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replied January 4th, 2009
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maji,
sorry to hear about your break up too! that's too bad. i broke up with my b/f recently. saw him kissing a co-worker...oh well.

your case is probably like mine in that i loved my b/f very much, but having been away from the relationship for a few weeks, and having kind of calmed down from all the stress...i feel better and in many ways, i'm glad that we are no longer together.

i try hard as a girlfriend and obviously you do to maji or you wouldn't have come on here looking for additional ways to please your b/f. all i can say about that is that 99.9% of men would die to have a girlfriend who was trying to please them.

his loss is YOUR gain!
good luck!
jasmine


we've been on and off since the summer..and everytime he breaks up with me he doesnt give me a reason just says "its not gonna work, i'll try to explain when i think i know how" then when he comes around to explaining it turns out it had nothing to do with me, he just didnt know what to do..and of course he says he misses me and i of course miss him like crazy so we're glad to be back together..this has happened five times now...and i know it's absolutely ridiculous..i tell myself i need to stop going back to him because everytime we get back together i'm so much happier than the last time..but the break up hurts ten times worse..my friends tell me i need to move on but i only have eyes for him Sad and he apparently only has eyes for me, as he always tells me. i believe it because he doesnt move on either. i just wish he would make up his mind..i care about him way too much and my heart is tired of the roller coaster. one second i feel like my feet are off the ground..the next i'm face down on the floor, thats what it feels like.
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maji, i had a relationship like that where we got together and broke up multiple times. it WAS very painful. in my last relationship, i made a deal with my b/f that if either of us ever said we didn't want to be together then that was IT!

i think that the finality caused us to NOT take the relationship for granted. we never fought, argued, etc. we just seemed to have a great appreciation for eachother and respect for one another. to the extent that i feel like i will adopt this philosophy in my future relationships (should there be any)...

but, when it came time for us to break up, it was my decision (he was messing around on me), but was telling me he wasn't going to continue the relationship with the other girl...i just don't play that game.

anyway, i feel good about moving forward...in part because i'm not wondering when he and i will come to our senses and fix this broken relationship. i know it's over.

sorry for rambling...my suggestion to you is to move on and don't look back.

jasmine
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Jazzy77 wrote:
maji, i had a relationship like that where we got together and broke up multiple times. it WAS very painful. in my last relationship, i made a deal with my b/f that if either of us ever said we didn't want to be together then that was IT!

i think that the finality caused us to NOT take the relationship for granted. we never fought, argued, etc. we just seemed to have a great appreciation for eachother and respect for one another. to the extent that i feel like i will adopt this philosophy in my future relationships (should there be any)...

but, when it came time for us to break up, it was my decision (he was messing around on me), but was telling me he wasn't going to continue the relationship with the other girl...i just don't play that game.

anyway, i feel good about moving forward...in part because i'm not wondering when he and i will come to our senses and fix this broken relationship. i know it's over.

sorry for rambling...my suggestion to you is to move on and don't look back.

jasmine


well the thing is, we never disagree or argue or fight over anything..the only thing that ever fit that category was when we went to kfc and he said chicken and cheese didnt go together and i said i liked it. we laughed about that being the only thing we've ever disagreed on.. basically when we're together everything is wonderful. i never see the breakups coming. after the second breakup i told myself that if we ever got back together i'd be the one ending it if i started getting unhappy...but we're never unhappy! everyone marvels at how perfect we are for eachother and then gives me a weird face when i tell them its over...and then another puzzled-yet-happy look when we're back together. but thats besides the point..the point is the breakups always come out of nowhere and then when we're together again everything is perfect again..the only times he upsets me is in between being together. its nothing he does or says to me, just the fact that we still look at eachother with loving eyes. thats what he says drives him crazy too.
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maybe he just needs to go seek some counseling to get over what almost appears to be a bi-polar scenario.

very interesting. i hate that you are in such pain though, and in this situation, my only concern is for you.

all i can really suggest is that you prioritize any forward movement (with or without him) on whether or not it serves you well. honestly, it doesn't sound like he'd be a very good spouse (i don't know if this is a concern to you or not), but if i want a man to be by my side forever, i'd say it's pretty evident that this guy would not be the one.

what do you want going forward? do you want him (no matter what)? or do you want someone who has the potential of being with you long-term without all of the breaking up and making up?

the fact that he breaks up with you and nothing is "wrong" is disturbing too. why does he do it? so he can go get with some other girl? i'm guessing you're going to say no based on your prior comments, but honestly, then why is he doing it...because he's whacked out in the head? if that's the case, do you want to hinge your future happiness on whether or not he is whacked out in the head?

i'm only saying this to get you to think about what YOU want out of life and relationships, not what HE wants or doesn't want.

i know you're basically describing your relationship as perfect in most every way except that he wants to do one little inconsequential thing like break your heart to hell every few months...hmmmm...

i hope my words can help you somehow figure out what's right for you. if it's him then so be it. but if it's not, then you need the clarity to understand that fully so you can move forward.

jasmine
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replied January 12th, 2010
Ok before anything is said I am straight lol. But I am an advice giver. But I broke up with my gf cuz in a year and a half I will be movin to Florida for prolly the rest of my life and I hurt her really bad cuz she had fallen for me really hard but I did it now so it wouldn't be worse later on down the road. I love her and always will but she can't move on no matter what I do or what I say. You and her are kinda the same cuz you both had assholes for bf's. I know I am and it takes a man to say it. But she doesn want to belive it. Neither do you. That's why you keep goin back to him. But the thing is you will be so better off without him. He's not worth the time and effort if all that comes out of it is a broken heart everytime. He just is a downer and no girl ever deserves someone like that. Girls deserve the perfect man. Like I am a nice guy but I don't feel like it anymore cuuz I hurt someone so bad that they cry almost everyday. But I try my best to cheer her up. The whole point of this is your way better off without him. He's not worth the time you put in. You deserve a guy that will love you for you and treat you like there's no tomorrow. So take my advice e. And learn from ur experiences. He's not worth it and you should deffinently move on and find an even better guy.

And p.s. It's not the size of the boat...it's the motion of the ocean. I am a 16 year old that has lived thru so much bullcrap that I can give advice on anything. Belive it or not but just ask me anytime. I hope I helped you if not then tell me more about it and anything else that's wrong in ur life.

- Andrew
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