Why are you with this guy?
It sounds like the two of you have
completely different views on sex and
love. You also said he's interested in not
only a threesome but just having sex with
others too, if this bothers you then why
do you put up with it?
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Roberta777
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What Does It For You Posted: 05-22-08 11:33am
I think the ultimate turn on would be to
have two men making love with you. Guess
it comes with maturity and being able to
wrap my mind around the concept of having
oral sex with one man and making love with
the other one. Eiri knows what I am
talking about here.
Be it a fantasy or reality, that would
take some careful consideration. How do
you protect yourself in this kind of
situation? For me, it is pretty much out
of the question because my one time out
with my former BF has now given me HPV.
So, basically, no sex for me. But, I can
think about it.
When I was a young woman and very deeply
in love with my husband, any woman looking
at him or wanting to be with him put me
into jealousy. So, I totally understand
where you are coming from. Don't touch my
man.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 05-22-08 11:45am
hehe I've had the fantasy, but in reality
I think it would be horribly awkward.
Thinking about it is a definite turn on,
but doing it... even if there was no
emotions involved for all three of us--
sex and oral doesn't sound like it would
work for me. XD
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worrywart01
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Posted: 05-24-08 16:18pm
Maddie34
wrote:
Why are you with this guy?
It sounds like the two of you have
completely different views on sex and
love. You also said he's interested in not
only a threesome but just having sex with
others too, if this bothers you then why
do you put up with
it?
no he doesn't want another girl, he
doesn't want sex with another girl/other
people, he just wants to have another guy
with us, because he has this fantasy of
"watching" me "in
action"....basically...and I'm with him
because I love him dearly and he's the
only guy I've ever been with I can't
imagine being with anyone else really, In
my opinion if he loves me, then he'll
respect my decision to NOT want to do this
and leave it alone...and he's dealing with
it and its obviously not a priority or he
would have ended things, he just needs
alittle reminder from time to time..I just
dont think either of us are on the
maturity level to bring something like
that into our relationship even if I were
ok with it, so..basically what I'm saying
is, even if I COULD do something like
that, I wouldn't at this point in our
relationship...
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worrywart01
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Re: What Does It For You Posted: 05-24-08 16:22pm
Roberta777
wrote:
I think the ultimate turn on
would be to have two men making love with
you. Guess it comes with maturity and
being able to wrap my mind around the
concept of having oral sex with one man
and making love with the other one. Eiri
knows what I am talking about here.
Be it a fantasy or reality, that would
take some careful consideration. How do
you protect yourself in this kind of
situation? For me, it is pretty much out
of the question because my one time out
with my former BF has now given me HPV.
So, basically, no sex for me. But, I can
think about it.
When I was a young woman and very deeply
in love with my husband, any woman looking
at him or wanting to be with him put me
into jealousy. So, I totally understand
where you are coming from. Don't touch my
man.
DIDDO! You said it! I would NEVER bring
another woman into the bedroom...I would
bring another man and let him have his MMF
threesome before a woman ever stepped foot
in the same house! I was actually relieved
when he first told me the fantasy about
another MAN because if it were ever
another woman he wanted...boy..i woulda
felt so insulted..like whats wrong with
me? what am I not giving you that another
woman can?! To see another woman have him
like that...heck, to even think about it
makes me wanna pull out my claws!
haha...ok i'm done now
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PlacidIntricacy
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haha Posted: 05-24-08 16:33pm
you goofy lady. if he just wants to watch
you be turned on. maybe you can show him
without having another guy involved. let
him watch you
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PlacidIntricacy
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... Posted: 05-24-08 16:34pm
if you know what i mean. it's basically
the same concept without jealousy or
awkwardness being involved.
do it to yourself.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 05-25-08 18:48pm
I moved the topic to women's sexual health
so guys can give their input
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Biani
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Posted: 05-26-08 13:15pm
Worrywart, i really think that when
maddie34 posted:
"Why are you with this guy?
It sounds like the two of you have
completely different views on sex and
love. You also said he's interested in not
only a threesome but just having sex with
others too, if this bothers you then why
do you put up with it?"
It was meant for me, right? I'm the one
who said the bf wanted sex with others.
Which i put up with because i loved him
and i really believed that's what every
guy wanted, they just didn't say anything,
so i thought it was normal and i just had
to be grateful i had a guy who would be so
open and honest with me as to tell me what
he's really thinking. But, i'm not with
him anymore. I realized there's a
difference between being honest and being
a jerk. And he was being a jerk. So, bye.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 05-29-08 09:57am
Yep that was for you Biani!
Not all guys think like that and I hope
you find one who thinks the way you do!
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Biani
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Posted: 05-29-08 11:28am
yeah, well, i hope i do too Maddie!
although, to be honest, things don't look
too promising on that issue. I don't like
to generalize, but right now all men look
like pigs to me, haha.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 05-29-08 12:00pm
Not all guys are pigs.... just a large
portion
There has to be decent guys
somewhere.
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worrywart01
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Posted: 05-30-08 12:32pm
agreed..there are alot of pigs
but...sometimes you gotta kiss alot of
frogs to find your prince
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Biani
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Posted: 06-04-08 13:11pm
LOL....well let the frog kissing begin!
Hey, at least they're good kissers, right?
haha
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worrywart01
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Posted: 06-04-08 21:26pm
not always!!! bleh! hahaha
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Biani
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Posted: 06-05-08 11:33am
bleh... you're right... damn! some can't
even do THAT right!! lol
