threesome with 2 guys (Page 1)

Millions of people have this fantasy, it's very common. Just make sure the partners have a recent STD test that they can show to you to prove they are clean.

its ok but yes like erie said make sure they have been tested and use condoms after you get a hang on where everyone should be it is allll good after that

I Dont Understand Where The Word Love Come In to These Things

Did anyone say anything about love?

Ahhh.... here is the ultimate decision... When you play in this arena, you must have rules set out.

There is no room for jealousy in any sort of "open" life style. Jealousy will destroy your marriage (relationship) in that sort of fertile ground. That being said...

Talk it over with your partner, get down any restrictions they may have, any restrictions you may have... if something doesn't feel right... stop...

If you do go through with it... discuss it openly. Remember that it is still your partner's right to say that they do not like it... but it is pandora's box. Once you open the box leading to an alternative lifestyle... it could be hard, if not impossible to shut.

Just talk to your partner a great deal... perhaps you should start off with some light petting and make out sessions... maybe get involved with swinger groups in your area... there are some that are very respectful to those that are new, and not sure if it is what they want.

Just some things to think about...

Good luck...

The Dreadful Muse

Thank You Its Very True

boyfriend had this fantasy..got a big NO NO NO from me...i was a virgin before him, not the type to wanna mess around with alot of guys, the only reason he got any tlc is because i truly care about him and love him and i'm not one to believe sex is such a casual thing to be shared with everyone. Its special and intimate and nothing I would ever want to share with anyone else...it pains me to not be able to fullfill every fantasy that he has, but I respect myself too much to do anything I would ultimately regret for the rest of my life, not to mention since its something I do feel so strongly about, the fact that i was "pushed" or coerced into it would ruin the relationship..which is not something Im trying to do...I've never been with another man..nor do i care to...hes gotten over it and would rather sacrafice his fantasy than end the relationship...of course...it could have been just that...a fantasy..nothing he meant to really have come true...i'm not saying you shouldn't want this or shouldn't do it..everyone has their opinions about sex and if this is something you and your husband wish to do..then by all means go for it..just make sure you've thoroughly discussed everything..as was stated earlier jealousy and lack of trust can ruin a relationship...

I personnally would never have a threesome, however I feel like someone's choice to have one doesn't particularly make them selfish, weakhearted, or diseased.

In my eyes, safe sex should apply to any sex. People need to be tested and condoms need to be used, simple as that. And what a person wants to do in the bedroom shouldn't be up for speculation unless its harmful to any partner involved.

Well, i don't know. I agree with PlacidIntricacy too. I think that in a LOVE relationship threesomes and etc... just don't go. I remember i was totally crushed when my bf told me he would like to have a threesome. And/or sleep with other girls. He said he just didn't cause he knew if he did he would lose me. Well, duh. I'm guessing if i did the same thing he would have sent me packing too. The thing is, i didn't even THINK about that sort of thing... i wanted to be with ONLY him... he was more than enough, you know? and it totally killed me that he didn't feel the same. A while later, i find out he's not 'in love' with me, but 'cares' for me. So i guess that explains it.
So, in my book, when two people LOVE eachother, there's no need to add a third person to the relationship like this. To me, it means that you're still looking outside it cause it isn't enough for you. So that can't be good for the relationship!

But, there are people who swear they love their partner and cheat on them, or have threesomes... i don't know how that works, but oh well. It's a free world. I just don't understand that point of view myself.

biani....completely agree...when i found out my bf wanted another guy i was crushed as well..like...you wanna share me with some other guy? thats ok to you to watch another guy doing things with me thats supposed to me intimate and only between me and you??? like..if that were a girl..o HELL no! I would never want another girl to touch him!!! ever! and to just think that he could so easily share me just bugged me..alot..like..what i gave to was big for me...it was a big deal to me..and you're asking me to share it? when you're the only guy i've ever been with?.....it still bugs me to this day to think about it...but we've worked through it and it hasn't been brought up again..so far...in my opinion..i just dont see how you can share someone you love...i dont know..for me it doesn't work..for others if its fine then i'm not gonna be judgemental it just does not work for me in that way...i want one guy...and i want him to want just me...and that be enough...i mean..is our sex life really that boring that you have to bring in another guy?...thats just how i see it..like..what am i doing wrong...what do i need to do to spice things up without adding another person into the mix...

I understand what you're saying. I wouldn't have a threesome for that reason, but whatever someone wants to do in the bedroom for whatever reason isn't really my business.

I'm not really going to speculate on love so much. I know how I see things, but I also know others can see things differently. As long as people are safe and don't get hurt then who am I to say what's right or wrong?

first of all love can be seen as something completely different by people some thing its being with just one person, another person could think its making commitment or being with someone who just wants to share experiences with you due to same interest or w.e anyways the word love came into this when she told her husband and they talked about it. they both probably came to an understanding and thats their view of love to be able to share things together. you have no right to say she or anyone has a disease and how are they spreading it? also i think its selfish that you should imply that she should not do something she is curious about and do something completely different. self esteem and fantasies have nothing to do with each other. i think if you want something go for it live life to the fullest. also just cause you have a threesome doesnt mean your spreading your legs and letting the whole world in. don't listen to that guy do what you want no one can judge you. if anything i respect you for doing something that many fear of doing. sex is sex if you dont want to do a threesome then dont, if you do then do it. everyone thinks differently and everyone feels differently. and hey if all else fails flip a coin (jk about the coin thing lol just trying to make things a bit more laid back)

im not objecting anyone elses decision to do it, and i understand that point of view...how people can come to that understanding and "share" experiences like that..i'm just saying for me it'd ruin the relationship...i just couldn't do it

I m interested. call me.. if u can.. or let me call u

so..i jinxed myself by saying the bf hadn't brought it up since the first time...well, he brought it up last night...still interested..though i dont think its anything I could ever be up for...i mean, even if i did do it...what would happen afterwards? he would never have the same respect for me..and i'm sure now that if I did go through with it, the fact that I was with another guy would make him paranoid about me cheating...i just dont see how it could benefit the relationship in any way...sometimes i wish i were alittle more open..sexually, to trying new things...i'm just so old fashioned i guess? i wish I didn't have a problem with it sometimes, i just dont share my body, i'm a very private person.........i guess when I think about it, i've always thought that any guy i was with would cherish and respect that I gave myself to him..like...its a very big deal to me...and to have him wanna share that intimacy makes me question his love for me....like..in my opinion..if he loved me as much as i love him..it would kill me to see him with another woman...really...so i'm trying to understand but i'm really not getting it......

Well, your bf is strange, worrywart... my xbf wanted a threesome but him with 2 girls. At the thought of him and another guy, he said eew. And he was always so paranoid about me and other guys, and hated that i had been intimate with the xbf before him. So, i didn't get it either.

I don't think there's anything wrong with how you feel, even if you think you're 'old fashioned'. We just see sex as something that should be between two people who love eachother. If others view it as a hobby and do it with whoever... well that's them. I guess we just gotta find someone who sees things our way too, and let the people who can share their partners sexually be couples amongst themselves. That way everyone would be happy.

believe it or not there are alot of guys out there with this fantasy...trust me i was just as surprised as you but he isn't weird in any way...i guess I can understand how he would have this fantasy and i dont care that its a fantasy but i dont want it to go beyond that...theres a big difference between thinking about something and actually wanting it to come true and i just never want that to come true..but i could see at the same time why he might like it, it isn't because he's gay in any way..its not like he wants the guy or wants to look at the guy its just that he wants to see me doing things? i was angry when i heard this at first but, i mean, this is something personal he's never shared with anyone else so its cool that hes so open to tell me these things but..at the same time hes gotta respect my decisions...

yeah, well, there is a difference between just a mere 'fantasy' and knowing you would never actually go through with it. But, in the case of my bf, he said he totally would do it, he was just holding back cause he knows i would dump him. But if it was only up to him, he would be having sex with every girl he wanted. And, he told me every guy is like this, that the ones who say they want to be with only you, are lying.
You gotta love them for being so honest, though, right?