My husband and I got married in July and are having a difficult first year. When we got engaged two years ago I felt that our relationship changed. I thought at the time it was the stress of a wedding but the arguing has not stopped. We both have hectic schedules, but I feel that he is not valuing or respecting me. I am currently working as teacher full time and getting my masters while he is a consultant and works long hours. I feel that even though we both don't get home until late that I am solely responsible for ALL household chores. Instead of being appreciative he puts me down and finds something wrong with what I have done. I have tried telling him how I feel but he either yells at me to stop nagging or promises to change and doesn't. Additionally when he is in a bad mood he takes out his anger on me. Last weekend he told me that I had pressured him to get married earlier and that he wanted to wait ten years (we have been dating for 5 years, lived together, and are in our late 20s). He apologized and claim he said that in the heat of the moment but I can't help wonder if this is the root of our problems; he doesn't want to be married to me. I was shocked when he said this due to the elaborate way that he proposed and such (a surprise trip to Europe).
I have honestly never seen a healthy marriage as a child of recently divorced parents. I don't know if I am scared of heading down the same destructive road as my parents or if this a destructive relationship. I have been thinking of a divorce and have talked about it with my husband. I don't feel like I can talk to anyone about it.