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Q: The condom didn't break

asked by: redhereforanswers on July 29th, 2009

Experienced User

Ok. All I need your help. I am freaking pregnant. I wouldn't be so mad if I was ready for this pregnancy. I have too much going on in my life at this moment to be thinking about a child. I know you all are thinking "I shouldn't have had sex..." but that statement will not change the problem at hand. I just found out that I was pregnant on Friday. Let me back up a bit. I had sex with guy A on 5/31/2009 the condom broke during intercourse (and he cum in me, I was pissed off, he claims he didn't know and that it felt too good to stop, I knew something was wrong when it started feeling dry). I took the morning after pill on 6/1/2009. About 2 weeks later my period came on but only for about 2 days (normal is 3-4 days). I thought I was free and clear. Guy A and I have sex about 3 weeks ago and the dam condom broke again (now this is crazy right, he pulled about before it got too far). Anyways guy B and I had sex about 2.5 weeks ago and the condom didn't break but he did ejaculate in me with the condom on of course. Is there a possibility that I could be pregnant by guy B or is it for sure by guy A. I guess you are thinking if I don't know how will we know. But the thing is like I mentioned before I don't have time for a child. I will not be doing this again until I am actually ready for a child. I have beat myself up already so no need for that. I went to the clinic to talk about getting the procedure done. I paid a portion of the procedure on Monday. They said according to the ultra-sound that I am about 2-3 weeks pregnant. Because I am too young in the pregnancy I have to wait till I am about 6 weeks before they will actually complete the procedure (the vacuum), which is another 3-4 weeks of being in this agony. I really don't agree with abortions but I feel this is the best right now in my life. Just trying to find out who to blame,lol. Not really but who I should get to help me pay for the procedure? Should I get them both to help me pay? Who do you think is the daddy?

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W0LF

replied on July 29th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy (online)

If they're honest none of them did it. If the condom broke but he didn't ejaculate there's not much chance of pregnancy. if it didn't you are protected by a barrier and pregnancy shouldn't be possible. If you tell them both then each one will obviously think the other impregnated you. I'd say tell the one you like the most that you're pregnant and ask if he'll help with the abortion. You're going to want someone for moral support you may as well make it the one that comforts you the most.

And since you seem to be having so much trouble with condoms it's probably a good sign that it's time to double-up with birth control of your own.

redhereforanswers

replied on July 29th, 2009

Experienced User

These were the only two guys. So I don't know what could have happened. I have read that the condom has tiny holes in it or precum could have got on the condom or what if he ejaculated so much and some came out the back and then pushed in with the other thrust. Just curious. I don't really know how it could have happened. But one of them helped make it happen.

W0LF

replied on July 29th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy (online)

Men that don't have fatal prostate disorders don't cum enough to overflow a condom and impregnate you but the condom could have had a fault, a tiny tear in the seam, it could have been sabotaged. God only knows. All I can say is that Condoms are 100% effective when they are used correctly and remain intact. It's like an uncomfortably tight rubber force field.

Precum can impregnate you sort of like an uncoverred scratch can expose you to a deadly flesh eating virus. The percentage chance is below considderation and requires certain circumstances to even be possible, and people who worry about things tend to make it a sound like a much higher risk. What does happen a lot is that the things that would expose you to precum also tend to expose you to an actual ejaculation.

redhereforanswers

replied on July 30th, 2009

Experienced User

Well is it possible that I am pregnant from the May 31 incident. Like I said I took the morning after pill on June 1st. Or is it from the 3 week ago event. This is just crazy. i am really considering keeping the child but I really just dont know how I am going to do it. I already have a 2 year old.

W0LF

replied on July 30th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy (online)

A doctor could misread a pregnancy by a few days but over a month off would be very wierd. You can have heavy spotting after impregnation that would appear like a VERY light period but it would be almost immediately after fertilization I'd think. I'm thinking the guy from May is the least likely contender.

I'm absolutely in no place to preach morality but having one child without a father is an accident. Having two starts to look like carelessness. Kids need fathers. I would hold off on bringing another child into the world until you've given the child you have what they deserve.

redhereforanswers

replied on August 1st, 2009

Experienced User

Thats what I am saying. I went to the place where I will be having the procedure done and had an ultrasound. The tech said that I am about 2-3 weeks because the ultrasound was not able to really see the sac. When she said that I knew it was wrong it could be. I couldnt be pregnant that soon. I just knew I have to be about 5-6 weeks. I am afraid to go to my actual OB-GYN cause they will preach to keep the baby. I really dont need to hear that right now.

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