I remember having this problem since I was a little girl. And its always when Im lying in bed trying to sleep. I would be laying there thinking about nearly everything. And it seems to never fail, death is always there to scare the crap out of me. I go into panic attacks when I think too deeply in it. My mom would hear me cry or I would run into their room crying. She would always tell me to think of happy places or rainbows or would quote from the bible.
It stopped for a little while, and now its back. I couldnt sleep last night. Im totally embarrased because Im an adult and never in my life did I want my mommy to comfort me. I was thinking about everything last night and it just hit me. I started to get light headed and dizzy, and then went into panic mode. Just the thought, that one day ITS OVER scares the crap out of me. Not knowing what to expect, will I die in pain, after death will I feel pain forever after that, is there life after death...all these thoughts are killing me! Im terrified of these thoughts but I dont know how to make them go away. What I want is...when Im laying on my death bed, I dont want to be afraid. I want to be ready and brave. Im scared that Im not gonna be that...and Ill be crying and terrified for my last few breaths. Theres gotta be something wrong with me. I dont want to think about this stuff because it makes it seem like the world is ending!!
All of what you are feeling is healthy. What is not a good thing is having the adrenaline rushing though your brain and body during a panic attack. I have had panic attacks my whole life and the adrenaline during one is enough to bring all sorts of bad thoughts in a rush of torment. If the thought death triggers a panic attack your mind will have a tendency to check the thoughts that cause panic to see if they will indeed proceed with the attack. Death is not talked about in our culture, sadly. Not many of us truly understand the inevitable nature of Death. It is natural, what isn't natural is the Human Race running around scared to death to deal with what doesn't have to be feared. Your mother told you to think of nice things like rainbows because she didn't know what to say since no one does: we don't want to realize that this, us comes to an end. But I have had out of body experiences myself and it is quite freeing to look down at your body and see what it really is: a shell. My shell happens to be called Patrick, but Patrick is part of something beyond our comprehesion: the unknown. The fact that you have this fear is actually good since if you decide to embrace it and explore it you can learn so much of what you are and are not and then you will see and experience life without death as they are one and the same. I happen to be more afraid of LIFE. More later if your interested. Do not think that something is wrong with you, something is definetly right with you. And if you look real close at so called adults you will find that almost all of them are little children pretending that death does not exist. Take care and have a beautiful night. I hope you get a peaceful nights sleep.
I have this exact same fear as Lost Soul 87. I, too, have had it since I was a young child. I was a very religious person as a child but I think my ocd and anxiety have me what if'ing it now. What if there is nothing else? How can something be eternal? What if I don't see my family? What if it's nothing? And it just stops? Please tell me more about your out of body experience...I hate feeling this way and it ruins the little time I have on this earth which if I'm lucky will be 40 more years. Is there nothing to make me be at peace?
is a good thing: fear, especially intense fear that alters our "functional" lives, allows us the opportunity to see into the "reality" of our existence . . . As souls we come to Earth to grow. Earth is a school. When we are children we have no concept of time, self, death, life . . . slowly we are brainwashed into becoming what we are not: our parents give us names, tell us how life is according to their distorted fragments held down to them from religion, etc.
I will talk more later if you like. I have to go at the moment, the words are not flowing. What do you want to know about leaving the body?
I know that knowing others are going through the same things doesn't help much, I to am suffering and struggling to cope, the best thing to do is go to you doctor and get a referral to a psychologist they are trained to talk about this stuff, talking helps, keeping these fears and your problems to yourself is not good and when you release these things by talking it makes it better trust me, hope you feel better soon.
I too have been struggling with these same fear since I was little. They went away for awhile but I have gotten them back for the past 3 years. I talked to a psychologist, (and helped for a little bit) The brain is so powerful. I hear of a ache or pain someone else has I then too have those symptoms.
Nothing has changed. I still cant help but think about dying. Im always panicking when its gonna happen, what I have time to do, how im gonna die, and what happens afterwards. I dont know what to do, im tired of this being the last thing I think of before falling asleep. Im thinkin I might really need to see a doc, but I dont have the money or the courage. I need help
I have faith that the only reason you are doubting is so that you can become stronger for it. of course there is life after death. just the fact that you are doubting it tells me that deep down you really know it. ask for help from the one that created life. Figure out where these doubts are coming from. Were you influenced by school, movies, friends? stand up and say I am. I am going to live even though I die. because my free will grants me the right to choose that.
listen to gods word as i walk through the valley of death i fear no evil for god is with me he does not lie .to leave this world is to become one with jesus so live your life and when you do go it will be with peasce knowing god is with you
I understand what you're going through in fact that's why I'm on here right now, I was laying down for bed and was just about to fall asleep when the thoughts just flooded my brain, what if this is it? what if I don't wake up tomorrow? What happens when we die, is there really an afterlife? Stuff like that... and I had a panic attack, It's 2:30 in the morning all I want to do is get sleep but of course that's lost now. I haven't figured out how to make these thoughts stop but I have figured out how to make them subside. When these thoughts hit you get up busy yourself with something else, It's not permanent but it makes it easier to get though the night.
Talking to people is probably the best way to deal with it, I know I'm always afraid to talk to my friends about it, even when they beg me to let them in, I'm just afraid if I pour the fears I have out they'll end up with them and being only 20 years old I don't want to trouble any of them with this when they still have years til they think about it. But I would try to get up, get a drink of water, turn on the tv or something next time you get a panic attack, It will pass quicker, I can now get though one in 3 minutes. I hope that helps you.
I have the same problem. Sometimes out of nowhere (usually when I am sleeping though) I wake up screaming and saying "no, no, no" because I start thinking that one day I am going to be 6 feet under and I wont be able to see, think, hear, or do anything. Im religious and stuff like that but I can't help but think there is no afterlife and I will just be nothing but dust forever and ever. My attacks have been happening like 2 times a day lately thats why I googled panic attacks when thinking about death to make sure I wasn't the only one.
I think therapy is the best way through this and maybe medication, but just in the short term until therapy helps you get to the bottom of things.I'm a 23 year old medical student, and with a lot of my study focusing on diseases and death I started to panic about it all in a similar way. The anxiety over this was at its worst for about a month but its still there just a bit... For example I've become extremely afraid of flying over the past while.I actually think that death shouldnt be such a "taboo" subject in our society though. If we actually think about it it's VERY natural to be afraid of something that we know absolutely nothing about. I think admitting that youre afraid of it makes you more normal than most.Maybe if we werent "supposed" to be so calm about facing such a scary thought and it was more talked about then it may help us deal with it a bit better....unfortunately thats not the way in our world so therapy is the next best thing i guess. And on the positive side I agree that we need to try and make the best of the time we've got because the reality is it won't be forever. So we could use that as a viewpoint or perspective to live the fullest life we can....
Hello, i have been suffering intensly since I was just a little girl as well. I still really struggle with it, but I can tell you the few things I do to calm myself down or avoid a full blown "realization" attack, as I like to call it. This is going to sound crazy but I find it very comforting to rock back and forth whilst talking our loud to myself, usually saying the same thing over and over pretty rapidly. I find this helps to keep my mind preoccupied, and usually all the activity will make me tired enough to pass out. It still doesn''t result in a good nights sleep if you have work the next day but it''s the best I''ve managed to do for myself thus far. I''m currently looking into an anti-anxiety medication, I think that would probably be quite helpful to those of us in this situation, although it would be nice to get rid of the problem all together! The only time in my life when I didn''t get the attacks on a regular basis or at least found them less upsetting was when I was practicing meditation daily. I''m not religious bur o find it to be an incredibly beneficial exercise for the mind and body. I hope you find this helpful and thank you fir posting as I was starting to think I was alone good luck
*also when you are just starting to think in that direction, if you can, immediatly distract yourself by doing something else, tv can be quite effective for switching your mind off, or even something like solitaire. I actually play solitaire every night until I fall asleep to try and keep myself from thinking before sleep. Sexual activity can also be very distracting, although obviously rather hard to accomplish if you are already in that state of mind, but like the solitaire it can be a helpful nighttime routine to keep.
My best advice for you is to accept it. You can learn about philosophy too, but you'll quickly find that there are a lot of competing theories that cannot be tested/proven. Some say the mind is a separate substance from the body, others say that the mind is an emergent property of matter. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philosophy_of
However, the truth is that science hasn't advanced so far to know what death really means. So my advice for you is just to accept it as part of life. You were meant to die the moment you were born. You can't have life without death. They go hand in hand. Also, enjoy the ride while you can. Many times life sucks, but it's the small enjoyable moments that make it worth it.
Other than that, I don't know what to say. Probably your fear of death is a programmed biological response when an organism fights for survival. I know this doesn't help much. I struggle with the concept of death too. Just don't care about stuff that much. You know, if tomorrow the world explodes, then fck it Life can be a btch. Peace and good luck.
It's 3:42 in the morning and this is the first time that I looked up this problem that I've been having for a while now, let me explain what i go through. Some nights, maybe twice or three times a week, i go to bed only to think too far deep into death. This happens right before i fall asleep and i get this sudden urge to "move". My pattern of dealing with this sudden urge is to listen to my body, so i jump out of bed with a cry of whatever random word or song pops up, and run around in circles, all while i chant random things to myself. Majority of the times i find myself running around the entire house until i, myself, realize that i am still breathing, thinking, observing, and living. Thus is the only way that i get over this terrible habit. I came with fear of finding out more about death and more to worry about, instead i received a sense of relief and joy. Thank you for all your words, whether they were meant for me or not, you all helped me so much. I will say goodnight with the thought of my words helping those like me. Smile because you can, live because you are, and Yelling "potato chips" at night will make you hungry. Goodnight. Sweet dreams. Health and happiness to you all.