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Q: terrified to die !
asked by: lost_soul87 on March 14th, 2009
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I remember having this problem since I was a little girl. And its always when Im lying in bed trying to sleep. I would be laying there thinking about nearly everything. And it seems to never fail, death is always there to scare the crap out of me. I go into panic attacks when I think too deeply in it. My mom would hear me cry or I would run into their room crying. She would always tell me to think of happy places or rainbows or would quote from the bible.

It stopped for a little while, and now its back. I couldnt sleep last night. Im totally embarrased because Im an adult and never in my life did I want my mommy to comfort me. I was thinking about everything last night and it just hit me. I started to get light headed and dizzy, and then went into panic mode. Just the thought, that one day ITS OVER scares the crap out of me. Not knowing what to expect, will I die in pain, after death will I feel pain forever after that, is there life after death...all these thoughts are killing me! Im terrified of these thoughts but I dont know how to make them go away. What I want is...when Im laying on my death bed, I dont want to be afraid. I want to be ready and brave. Im scared that Im not gonna be that...and Ill be crying and terrified for my last few breaths. Theres gotta be something wrong with me. I dont want to think about this stuff because it makes it seem like the world is ending!!
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Jumpersteeth
replied on March 15th, 2009
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You are not alone
Hi, beautiful soul 87

All of what you are feeling is healthy. What is not a good thing is having the adrenaline rushing though your brain and body during a panic attack. I have had panic attacks my whole life and the adrenaline during one is enough to bring all sorts of bad thoughts in a rush of torment. If the thought death triggers a panic attack your mind will have a tendency to check the thoughts that cause panic to see if they will indeed proceed with the attack. Death is not talked about in our culture, sadly. Not many of us truly understand the inevitable nature of Death. It is natural, what isn't natural is the Human Race running around scared to death to deal with what doesn't have to be feared. Your mother told you to think of nice things like rainbows because she didn't know what to say since no one does: we don't want to realize that this, us comes to an end. But I have had out of body experiences myself and it is quite freeing to look down at your body and see what it really is: a shell. My shell happens to be called Patrick, but Patrick is part of something beyond our comprehesion: the unknown. The fact that you have this fear is actually good since if you decide to embrace it and explore it you can learn so much of what you are and are not and then you will see and experience life without death as they are one and the same. I happen to be more afraid of LIFE. More later if your interested. Do not think that something is wrong with you, something is definetly right with you. And if you look real close at so called adults you will find that almost all of them are little children pretending that death does not exist. Take care and have a beautiful night. I hope you get a peaceful nights sleep.
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Liz70
replied on April 23rd, 2009
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Also terrified...
I have this exact same fear as Lost Soul 87. I, too, have had it since I was a young child. I was a very religious person as a child but I think my ocd and anxiety have me what if'ing it now. What if there is nothing else? How can something be eternal? What if I don't see my family? What if it's nothing? And it just stops? Please tell me more about your out of body experience...I hate feeling this way and it ruins the little time I have on this earth which if I'm lucky will be 40 more years. Is there nothing to make me be at peace?
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Jumpersteeth
replied on April 25th, 2009
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Given that you have the fear . . .
is a good thing: fear, especially intense fear that alters our "functional" lives, allows us the opportunity to see into the "reality" of our existence . . . As souls we come to Earth to grow. Earth is a school. When we are children we have no concept of time, self, death, life . . . slowly we are brainwashed into becoming what we are not: our parents give us names, tell us how life is according to their distorted fragments held down to them from religion, etc.
I will talk more later if you like. I have to go at the moment, the words are not flowing. What do you want to know about leaving the body?
Take care.
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slimm
replied on April 28th, 2009
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you are not alone
I know that knowing others are going through the same things doesn't help much, I to am suffering and struggling to cope, the best thing to do is go to you doctor and get a referral to a psychologist they are trained to talk about this stuff, talking helps, keeping these fears and your problems to yourself is not good and when you release these things by talking it makes it better trust me, hope you feel better soon.
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sickofPA
replied on April 30th, 2009
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I feel the same way!!!
I too have been struggling with these same fear since I was little. They went away for awhile but I have gotten them back for the past 3 years. I talked to a psychologist, (and helped for a little bit) The brain is so powerful. I hear of a ache or pain someone else has I then too have those symptoms.
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lost_soul87
replied on May 20th, 2009
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Update
Nothing has changed. I still cant help but think about dying. Im always panicking when its gonna happen, what I have time to do, how im gonna die, and what happens afterwards. I dont know what to do, im tired of this being the last thing I think of before falling asleep. Im thinkin I might really need to see a doc, but I dont have the money or the courage. I need help Sad
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Jrocko67
replied on June 4th, 2009
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I have faith that the only reason you are doubting is so that you can become stronger for it. of course there is life after death. just the fact that you are doubting it tells me that deep down you really know it. ask for help from the one that created life. Figure out where these doubts are coming from. Were you influenced by school, movies, friends? stand up and say I am. I am going to live even though I die. because my free will grants me the right to choose that.
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wenwen420
replied on June 5th, 2009
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listen to gods word as i walk through the valley of death i fear no evil for god is with me he does not lie .to leave this world is to become one with jesus so live your life and when you do go it will be with peasce knowing god is with you
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Aurorah
replied on September 12th, 2009
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I understand what you're going through in fact that's why I'm on here right now, I was laying down for bed and was just about to fall asleep when the thoughts just flooded my brain, what if this is it? what if I don't wake up tomorrow? What happens when we die, is there really an afterlife? Stuff like that... and I had a panic attack, It's 2:30 in the morning all I want to do is get sleep but of course that's lost now. I haven't figured out how to make these thoughts stop but I have figured out how to make them subside. When these thoughts hit you get up busy yourself with something else, It's not permanent but it makes it easier to get though the night.
Talking to people is probably the best way to deal with it, I know I'm always afraid to talk to my friends about it, even when they beg me to let them in, I'm just afraid if I pour the fears I have out they'll end up with them and being only 20 years old I don't want to trouble any of them with this when they still have years til they think about it. But I would try to get up, get a drink of water, turn on the tv or something next time you get a panic attack, It will pass quicker, I can now get though one in 3 minutes. I hope that helps you.
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