Pulling out may not have been effective if you continued to do it. You are one of the lucky ones to get away with the pull out method for a full 2 years. That "method" fails a lot because precum can contain sperm.

I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months!

Yes, you do need to go to a doctor or the emergency room if you have a miscarriage.

I would tell your parents when you feel ready. The sooner the better. Even if for some reason you do miscarry, it would be nice to have parents there to support you and help you through the hard times.

It'll be great to have their support through the first trimester when you are feeling really sick. Knowing most parents, their intuition will probably tell them you're pregnant anyways. I'd get it out in the open if I were you, but that's just my opinion. Talk to him about it and come to an agreement that works for the two of you. Good luck!

I think unprotected sex is okay if you're prepared to have a child.

Many women have gotten pregnant from pulling out. It's also dangerous to trust that your partner will always pull out in time. It's not a good method to use if you're not ready to become a parent. It's also dangerous because you're not protecting yourself from STD's.

I don't believe that any unprotected sex is ok until you are prepared both emotionally and financially to have a child.

Well, my boyfriend and I started dating when I was 15 and we were both virgins, so there wasn't a risk of STD's. We also plan on getting married.

And THANK YOU penguinsrus, for wishing me a well pregnancy! It's scary sometimes because I'm starting college in the fall but I know if I have a good support system worked out everything will be okay.

I am ready to tell my boyfriend's parents now-ish, and I have to tell them first because I have issues with abuse in my family. Also, my parent's "sex-talk" with me was "If we find out you're having sex, you'll wish you were never born."

I'm mostly trying to be sensitive towards my boyfriend because I know this is stressing him out and besides him being scared to tell his parents, he is taking this so well and treating me so good! He even bought me one of those cracker stacker lunchables when I wasn't feeling good yesterday because he knew I would want something light. I guess the least I can do is wait a little longer, but how long is too long?

I know the key word is BOTH, but it's weird because I know I might not be financially ready yet but I am DEFINITELY emotionally ready.

That's very sweet that your boyfriend is being so kind towards you and taking care of you so well. It's always nice to hear stories where the mother and father to be are working as a team to get through the tough times.

If you have issues with abuse in your family, I would HIGHLY recommend setting up a safe place for you to go ahead of time before telling them. See if you can possibly live with your boyfriend or a friend, just in case. Also, do NOT tell them alone. Make sure you have a good friend or your boyfriend with you just incase if they flip out so you are not alone and in a lot of danger.

I agree; you should tell your boyfriends parents first. If he really wants to wait until the second trimester, I suppose there is no real harm. However, I would still go ahead and set up your doctors appointments. You shouldn't wait for that.

Have you started prenatal vitamins yet? Those are EXTREMELY important in the first trimester. You can get them at any pharmacy; they are over the counter. Folic acid and vitamins will help prevent birth defects.

Have you gotten blood drawn to confirm the pregnancy yet, or is it just confirmed on a home pregnancy test?

Well, good luck. Emotionally ready also implies you'd be ready to tell your parents, family, boyfriend's family and be prepared to face whatever opinions they are about to throw at you. And, you know they will, or you wouldn't be worried about telling them.

I am ready, I am waiting for him to be ready too.

Yes, I am taking prenatal vitamins but I feel like it's important to tell my family and my boyfriend's family because I can't set up doctor's appointments by myself; I am only 17. That's why waiting until the second trimester might not be the best idea.

Probably not. You'll need to see your doctor and discuss the plan b issue with him/her also. It will put your mind at rest.

Start getting your ducks in a row, your parents (and his) are going to ask the hard questions, like "How are you going to afford this?" and the ever popular, "What were you thinking?" The more ready you are for all of these, the better it will be.

I agree 100% with Ingi that unprotected sex should only be for those who are emotionally, physically, and financially ready for a child. Pulling out is NOT a method, and you may get away with it, but like you, there will be screw-ups and even pre-cum may contain sperm. In teens, I personally feel they should never have unprotected sex because the majority are not ready for a child and cannot give themselves and their children the life they deserve. Choosing to have unprotected sex when you're not ready for a child is just stupid, condoms are free and so is common sense.

everyone makes a mistake once on a while -and this isnt a bad one either- its just a little bump in the road, and you both should get it out in the open with your families, now while its still really early in the pregnancy, so your families can have more time to accept this little life that is coming into the world.
The earlier the better. You both may be scared of telling them, but your both adults, and you both are acting in an adult manor having unprotected sex, so do the adult thing, and tell his parents.
Get your plan worked out, like finances, living arrangements, health care costs etc.etc.etc. because they are definately going to ask you about these things, so make sure you can answer them right when their asked instead of saying i dont know. They may be angry, upset, disappointed...but dont argue with them when they say something, just listen openly, be calm, and answer what they ask you guys. Talk to your boyfriend about the sooner its in the open, the better.
Then when you've told his parents, maybe you could go with his mom or a close friend to tell your parents, because they deserve to know as well.
But the sooner you do this, you'll be able to make doctors appts. which are important, not have to hide such a big thing from everyone, you'll find out when your due date is too.
you were old enough to have unprotected sex, so your old enough to be responsible for your actions now.
good luck

That was nice that he bought you a lunchables, but won't he be working full time and paying for rent, utilities, and food etc., for the three of you soon? I mean when you can't work full time because you have a newborn?

My best guy friend and his girlfriend are going to be having a little girl this fall. I wish programs like The Baby Borrowers were before he was in this situation. It would offer him a chance to see what he's up against at his age and how fast he would be forced to grow up.

I only ever had unprotected sex when i was pregnant

unprotected is better fun, and i used to do that mostly for religious reasons but yeah i have to agree unless you're prepared to have a child then a condom or something of the sort (not withdrawel) should be used.